What are some ways to spice up a relationship?

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RavVid · Accepted Answer

I always answer chandeliers to this question. Eliminating No is a good start as is being conscious of your role as a sex object in a relationship whether you are the guy or the girl.

What I think doesn't work so well is buying a naughty nurse outfit - if you see where I am going. It is MEANT to be sexy but will often fail to be because it is not organic. If a wife is having fun dressing up as a naughty nurse then it can work but a wife just putting on the outfit and expecting something magic to happen is probably not going to. She is just the wife in a different outfit. The husband has seen her naked any number of times so her being naked is just one more time.

I haven't defined organic yet. That comes down to having sexual intent I believe and acting in a sexually way arousing way to yourself. The wife in a nurse outfit vamping it up is going to be more of a sex object if she is enjoying it.

I've called girlfriends to me saying i want to show them something. When they have come to me I've pulled my cock out. Obviously they have seen it before so that is not exciting but the surprise can be. It is sexually exciting to expose yourself but obviously I will go to jail if i do that with anyone other than a wife or girlfriend but why shouldn't I have the buzz of exposing?

I'm a guy. Girls like being caressed but guys like to grope and cop a feel. Instead of just a welcome home hug why not incorporate a grope? Under the skirt, straight up the legs in the best male tradition.

Partner dancing is under exploited. Your partner's body is moving against yours and that is sexually arousing. It is perfectly possible to orgasm your girl in a dance. It is certainly easy for a girl to ejaculate her guy - especially in a back to front dance.

So I think spicing up hinges on having sexual intent with some selfishness of doing something that is arousing or fun to you. Definitely at all times avoid scripting a role play because it is not genuine or organic.

mitchla · Accepted Answer

Spicing up a relationship, huh? Let me toss some ideas your way:

Adventure Together: Break out of the routine. Plan something neither of you has done before. It could be as simple as trying a new restaurant or as daring as bungee jumping.
Surprise Each Other: Who doesn’t love a good surprise? It doesn’t have to be grand – even small, thoughtful gestures can light up your partner’s day. Maybe leave a sweet note in their bag, or surprise them with tickets to a show they’ve been wanting to see.
Getaway Trips: Sometimes, a change of scenery can do wonders. Plan a weekend getaway, even if it’s just to a nearby town.
Learn Something New Together: Sign up for a class or workshop. Cooking classes, dance lessons, pottery – the options are endless. Learning new skills together can be both fun and incredibly bonding.
Date Nights: Never underestimate the power of a date night. It doesn’t have to be fancy or expensive – even a night in with a homemade dinner and a movie can be special.
Spice Up the Bedroom: Without getting too NSFW here, exploring new things in the bedroom can definitely add some excitement. Communicate openly about desires, fantasies, or anything new you both might be interested in trying.
Fitness Goals: Working out together can be super motivating. Whether it’s joining a gym, taking up jogging, or trying a sport, shared fitness goals can strengthen your bond (and hey, endorphins make you happy!).
Little Acts of Love: Never underestimate the power of the small stuff. A random hug, a compliment, doing a chore your partner dislikes – these little acts of love can really add up and keep the spark alive.

Remember, what works for one couple might not work for another, so feel free to get creative and tailor these ideas to what you both enjoy. The key is to keep connecting, communicating, and having fun together! 🌶️💕

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BLP11520 · Accepted Answer

Get out of town and try something different for both of you. Even if it is just a restaurant. Get out of the rut. Try a festival, Highland or Scottish games a Fair.. go to a romantic spot away from familiar surroundings. Maybe a hot tub? Something wild you both have never done?

Altheavas · Accepted Answer

Well what about knowing what makes this person ticks, and happy, and simple communication, enjoy something fun. Spoil them, here and there, even simple things as cooking a nice meal, efforts matter a lot too, the little things matter a lot.
It’s probably not as hard as we initially think it is. Self-care can be very sexy too, everything else will fall into place.
That’s my opinion lol

sheikalana · Accepted Answer

Surprise them with stuff that they like could be food, buying their favorite food, buying little gifts. Go on dates, do stuff together.

virtue2332 · Answer

The only way to spice up a relationship is through communication and action. Sex feels good and sex will lead to more sex or spice but you have to make time for it and communicate without ego to get what you need from it.

ZackBan · Answer

I think it's about letting out your inner "animalistic" desires.  They could be sexual or even platonic.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Lots of "surpring things"... New ligerie, new sex positions, new kinks, spontaneous pictures sent while at work...🤷‍♂️

patrick994 · Answer

Surprise him with provocative clothes, provocative phrases, participate in his sexual fantasies, ask him if he wants to try something new

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

When you date a compatible person, you never feel the need to "spice things up".

In_Trance · Answer

Here...

elizamichale1 · Answer

Oh get kinky n naughty in public

HaleyCatgirl · Answer

Set it to veteran difficulty

Matilde03 · Answer

Public attention to him has worked for mee

mies94 · Answer

I make jealous things.

Tim2nice · Answer

Threesomes

couchweed92 · Answer

u mean sexually?

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