What are some good rules for open relationships?

[pancake]

Is it possible to set rules in an open relationship? If so, what are some good open relationship rules?

[Anonymous]

People who don't understand open relationships, like hypocrite Mr. Finchie asshole, say one thing and then try to walk it back. First, he says incorrectly, it's not a real relationship. Yeah, well you're entitled to your opinion, but of course it is a real relationship. In fact, it's a MORE real and thought-out relationship than most people ever get into. Then he calls it selfish, convenient and people just using each other for sex. That just shows how little understand he has of an open relationship. What he's actually describing are people with multiple fuck buddies, and that's nowhere near the same thing.

He degrades people saying they are all "less than", but wait, then he says "it's not a bad thing? WTF? Make up your mind, hypocrite. People like him automatically assume that if you're in an open relationship, you're an out-of-control nymphomaniac who fucks anything that moves without any regard for safety, health, or your base partner. Idiotic.

I digress. The rules are simple -no risks that would endanger your partner. That means everyone you want to have sex with gets vetted. No lies, no deceptions, everything gets brought out on the table and in the open. In my open relationship, we both get involved in thoroughly checking out any person the other wants to have sex with. Plus, in my situation, there's an element of approval. If either partner feels strongly that the other's choice is bad, that gets heavy consideration. So far, that hasn't happened.

The rules are you take care of each other with same concern that you would if sex with others wasn't an option. And I'll add this little piece of info. When you remove a taboo from something, it becomes less attractive. Outside sex doesn't happen anywhere near what idiots like him imagine it does, simply because it can. A lot of work goes into investigating potential sex partners, at least in my real relationship.

[Finchie40]

Sugarcoat it all you want Mr. Anonymous Hypocrite , label it all you want , it doesn’t matter because the true meaning of an Open Relationship is Friends With Benefits , you both truly don’t love and value each other , you both like the convenience of each other while keeping your options OPEN, OPEN to screw other people , OPEN to hooking up with someone else and OPEN to communicate about it to each other Hey honey , I just met this girl at work today and I bent her over the desk , Oh that’s great honey, I just got bent over today as well by the guy down the street , Oh that’s great honey , By the way would you like to go to the movies this weekend? Oh sorry I can’t I am going out with the guy down the street again. Ok it seems we never get to spend time together anymore , What are you talking about? We are open to do whatever , Such a lovely relationship , SELFISH Relationship

[Opinion Owner]

@Finchie40 All you do when you reply to this is to prove my point. Assholes like yourself think your definition of love, relationship, value, etc., is the only definition. That's exactly why you're a close-minded ass. You also didn't read my post, because I debunked your stupid assumption that all people in open relationships do what you once again, for the 100th time, mistakenly assert in your childish response.

In your 45 years, you still haven't learned that your way is not the only way, and your interpretation of anything at all, especially relationships, is not absolute. Furthermore, since you don't even know anyone in an open relationship, your commentary is useless.

A little edification for you, since you should try to learn something new every day: Friends With Benefits start out as friends, real friends first. Typical of most others on here who use that term, you mistake it for FUCK BUDDIES. What you are trying to ascribe to an open relationship as friends with benefits is actually fuck buddies, and there's a huge difference, which I don't expect someone with your lack of intellect to comprehend.

[OlderAndWiser]

I would only offer one rule:


1. Don’t do it.

[ChicoFromThe305]

The one and only valid rule 😂

[tbk83]

I would guess that maybe 10% of humans have the characteristics needed to make something like that work, and most of them are probably don't even want to.

[MissStrawberry912]

Personally not for me because I’m too greedy for my person Lol. But definitely set ground rules of boundaries, what’s okay and not okay, open conversations, and reassurance. I can’t really say since I have no real experience, but everyone works differently for open relationships rather emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually, or all.

[Nikki1989]

Discuss everything. Just because it is open doesn't mean you can do anything you want.

Also, don't read the nonsense people post like the guy above. Some have no idea how open relationships work. I have been in one for over 8 years, and we have never been happier.

[Kyr0s]

So how does yours work?

[robot]

Navigating open relationships can be a bit like sailing in uncharted waters – exciting but you definitely need a good map and some rules to keep things smooth. Here are some commonly agreed-upon guidelines that people often find useful:

Communication is Key: This one's huge. Both partners need to be super open about their feelings, expectations, and boundaries.

Set Clear Boundaries: Every open relationship is unique. Some couples are okay with emotional connections with others, some aren't. Some have limits on how often you see other people.

Honesty is the Best Policy: Always be truthful about your activities and feelings. If something's bothering you or if you've met someone new, talk about it. Secrets can be super damaging in this kind of setup.

Prioritize Each Other's Health: Safe sex practices are a must.

Respect Each Other's Feelings: If one person is feeling insecure or jealous, it's important to address it sensitively. Brushing off your partner's feelings can lead to big problems.

Keep the Primary Relationship a Priority (if applicable): If you're in a primary partnership, make sure to keep nurturing that relationship.

Jealousy is Normal, Handling it is Key: Feeling a bit jealous sometimes is normal, but it’s how you deal with it that counts.

Have a Plan for Emotional Attachments: Sometimes, feelings develop for other partners. Decide in advance how you'll handle this situation.

[Anonymous]

If you want that type of relationship, honesty and communication with your partners I suppose would be a best bet unless you have a total no strings attached type of understanding with each other.

[JacobJordan]

best rule: don't.

success rate of open relationships is between 4% and 15% ish. meaning you have a higher chance of of winning the majority of lotteries than you do having a successful open relationship

[ohmyguy]

establish to reasonbly fair consensus amongst participating persons to have full complete understanding of their envolvement in such so they act and behave in matter that is conducive to the perpetuation of such relations

[Mike87479]

You can’t have sexual activity unless both partners are present.
You only engage in sexual acts that both partners are comfortable with.
Agree to communicate and be honest about how each other feel about the situations.

[Nifrayu]

That first one would be a bit of an inconvenience for me. I wouldn't want to have to always be present. There are times when I would rather be doing something else.

[Nikki1989]

Yay, one guy gets it.

[boggboss]

Set up rules that will make u and your partner happy lol how can u be asking strangers for help on rules

[Nifrayu]

This could be new to her. She may want insight from those who have been in open relationships.

[boggboss]

Which is fair enough and why I stated set up rules that are for u and your partner

[Kelly6]

It’s always best to create rules.

im in open marriage and created rules.

[balyai]

What rules are they?

[Nifrayu]

I just have two rules. Be safe (as in use don't get pregnant or contract any diseases) and always tell me.

[DextroShade]

The only acceptable rule is "Open on my end, closed on hers." and even then it isn't ideal.

[RingOfFire]

#1 best rule for an open relationship is don't have one.

[Tim2nice]

You make the rules based on what you want and what you’re prepared to tolerate.

[AndrewAzul]

Rule number one, don't be attached or have feelings, also our relationship is meaningless, start there 🤪🤪🤪

[Nifrayu]

Isn't that a bit of a confliction. If you want a meaningless relationship, then why would you even care if your partner forms feelings for someone else?

[AndrewAzul]

Where did you get the idea of wanting a meaningless relationship?

[Nifrayu]

From your comment obviously... did you make a typo? "Our relationship is meaningless" is what you said.

[AndrewAzul]

Yeah I said that, doesn't mean I wanted it to be that way, that's just how it is

[Nifrayu]

Oh... why not just break up then?

[AndrewAzul]

Because they might be naive and think this is what they want

[Nifrayu]

Huh? I'm so confused. What are you saying?

[AndrewAzul]

People who are in open relationships who also thing they work are naive

[Nifrayu]

But they do work. Plenty of open relationships have worked.

[Alex-Snow]

I would think frequent honest conversations would be best

[Staximus]

Open relationships are stupid and rarely work out as planned

[captain_voidwalker]

Best and only rule. Don't have an open relationship.

[KrakenAttackin]

An "open" relationship is not a relationship, it's debauchery.

[Kingofkings1992]

Who gets into open relationships? That’s trash

[leton]

Distance yourself from others girls to maintain been trusted by your partner

[lightbulb27]

You can throw pancakes at anyone at any time.

[boombastik]

Someone always catches feelings

[ThrillSeeker01]

I just wouldn't be able to handle it 😔

[jahaims]

Open relationships are for broken people

[Nikki1989]

Total BS.

[Anonymous]

Get used to it.

[Vasiliki2003]

Communication it’s very important.

[Tim2nice]

In which language? Greek?

[Grond21]

Don't have one

[Anonymous]

Rule no. 1: No rules!

[Anonymous]

Not crosseyed