Should I break up with my boyfriend for his past? Please read the details (please dont be rude)?

[Anonymous]

We've been together for 4 months but he never shared his past with me, recently We've had an argument and he shared about his past becausei asked him to. Before we got into a relationship, he only told me about one girlfriend that he had so I just thought he only dated this one and didn't have any other relationships. Well I was Terribly wrong and recently I came to know that , he had relationships with many women and one night stands with many women as well and God knows what all. Since he didn't share with me other information about his life, other than the one relationship he had I told him I'm fine with his past (without knowing the fact about his past hookups) .

I'm a virgin, I've been in a relationship but it wasn't sexual because I believe in saving it till the marriage.

Maybe I'm in the wrong in this scenario I'm not sure, what should I do?

[Oliverlogan263]

That's a tough situation. On one hand, his past is his past and everyone makes mistakes. But I can understand why finding all that out would shake you, especially since you wanted to save yourself.

A few things to think about:

- Has his behavior since you've been together given you any reason not to trust him? If not, that's a good sign.

- Did he admit it all now, or is there a chance there's still more you don't know? Open honesty is important.

- How do you feel deep down? Can you accept and get past it, or will it always bug you? Only you know if you can truly forgive and move forward.

- Have a serious talk with him about why he didn't share everything from the start. See if you both can learn to be more open.

- Consider talking to friends you trust for different perspectives too. A level head helps in these situations.

It's totally up to you if you feel you can't get past it. But if you really care about each other otherwise, it may be worth a shot at working through it. As long as he shows you through actions you can rebuild trust over time. You'll have to look inside to decide. Just do what feels right for you luv.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Oliverlogan263]

My pleasure 🌹

[ChicoFromThe305]

Nah I hear ya, keeping yourself pure this whole time for what? For some liar to just swoop in and ruin it for you, not many people wait on marriage anymore so if you got that going for You, I'd say don't screw it up because some dude wants to get his dick moist, but the choices all rely on you, best of luck anon.

[Baublebar234]

I wouldn’t be upset about his past only because it’s literally his past. He didn’t know you before then and his past shouldn’t define who he is now (other than severe circumstances such as murder, rape, etc). If he was actively cheating on you or currently talking to women from his past, then definitely be upset! But if he told you that was in his past and he doesn’t care about that anymore, why should you? Breaking up with him only because of past relationships or experiences he has — which you can’t come at him for because he didn’t know you before and he isn’t connected to any previous relationships currently — from what I’ve read — would be a terrible mistake if he treats you like gold now. And let’s say if you break up with him and meet another person, you’ll only just deal with someone else’s past again. Nobody is a saint. Everyone makes mistakes too. So no, don’t break up with someone for their past when they didn’t know you before then and especially if he treats you amazing now!

[sage2021]

So, when are you getting married?

You mean you saved your virginity for a man whore? You don't have enough experience to know how bad a guy like him can screw with your head, mess you up, break your heart, and leave you scared for life.
He us a player and he lied that he had one relationship but he has sex with all these other women. Where are all the women now. Gone! Because he's a man whore.
You really need to keep your virginity as planned. You might get some terrible sexual infection on top of it.
He us bad news for you.
And why is he sticking around you. You must know the always whoring around with women. And most women hand out pussy like it's Halloween and they are the treat. Doesn't matter to either of them, but it should matter to you.
Shake this guy off!!!

[Asker]

Thank you for your advice. I agree to it. He told me didn't want to tell me about his past because he's scared I'd judge him for it when I assured I won't (because I never imagined it to be this terrible). He says he's mature now and not at all like his old self and not into such things now.

I feel I need to break up with him, without making it obvious that I'm breaking up with him due to his past. I'm not sure how to do it

[sage2021]

Just tell him he's not the guy you thought he was and you need someone without a sexual history like he has. You're looking for another type of guy.

[Asker]

Thank you for your advice

[Daniela1982]

If I was a virgin saving it for marriage, why would I want a guy who has screwed every girl on the block? I would want someone with equal experience to mine. Do you really think this is ok for you? If you do, then why are you asking for opinions if your mind is already made up?

[Berethor]

If it was the other way around, the guy would likely break up with lying ho.

[Danny_dan92]

How old is he?