Should I break up with my long time boyfriend?

[CaseyDowns]

Everything was fine in the beginning, it was a long distance relationship for about 8 months. We moved in together and have been together for almost 1 year and a half. Both of us are Christians, I've asked him to stop cussing and he doesn't seem like he will work on it. He shows up late to work about twice a week, even though I pack his lunch for him. He says he oversleeps through his alarm. He stays up late until 2am every night and plays video games and is supposed to go to work at 7am. When I try to talk to him, he just yells at me and says how I'm criticizing him. He's hit me before, called me names, yelled in my face, stuff I am hoping would get better. I like to go to the gym, and it seems like he did too, until it's been a sudden change. He's cheated on me in the past and looked at porn, something I forgave him a couple months ago. I come home and cook dinner and do a lot and he seems interested in gaming. He can also be really sweet, he opens my door for me and helps do chores. I'm just not sure if I love him anymore and I don't know what to do.

[Born-for-sex]

Well first of all you need to be safe and above the line. If he is yelling at you and has hit you then he no longer respects you. And you need to at least crest space for your own sake. Secondly it sounds like he does still love you and I won’t try to suggest or criticize about if ye might still have issues with porn or be cheating or anything but I will say that the fact that he is still sweet and does things for you and is obviously making an effort I would say that he wants your relationship to work. As it sounds like you kind of do to. So I would suggest moving out to create that space for your own safety and for you both to rebuild your love for one another. Get some counseling and work on it together.
Lastly and only because you said you are Christians I would also suggest waiting before moving back in and enjoy sex again to get married. You both know that the Bible talks about saving sex until after marriage. And I’m sure that you also know that scientifically speaking sex is the bonding agent or glue that supposedly makes marriage work. But did you know that even with all of those hormones rushing through your body that will glue the two of you emotionally and mentally together in seconds only actually seals if the two of you actually respect one another completely? And you couldn’t have fully respected one another if you both new you were sinning by engaging sexually together.

[Interstate]

Relationships are always good in the beginning. The fact that he shows up late and work and dives solely into video games says he either lost his feelings for you, or he has been a fake since the beginning. Hitting you and screaming in your face... THIS IS A RED FLAG IT IS TIME TO GET OUT!!! But also, the fact that he doesn't take his job seriously says he is unreliable and irresponsible; Those types are the one to avoid.

Moving in together after only 1.5 years is INSANE. You should have spent more time getting to know each other before making the harsh decision to move in together so soon. And anybody who exhibits the behavior he does IS NO CHRISTIAN!!! This is obviously an abusive relationship, and NOW is the time to get out!!!

[ChrisMaster69]

It sounds like he has some issues.

there are a number of red flags dropping out.

big one is hitting you, that’s end of things for me.

then his verbal abuse

at some point his work will dismiss him for being late, it will be your fault….

he will expect you to bring in the cash etc

[Searlas]

Yes, There is nothing you can do for people who are addicted to stuff unless you let them fall, learn and recover or if they don’t, perish. Your love isn’t enough and it’s time bounce.

[spartan55]

You stayed after he hit you... you aren't very bright.

[boggboss]

At this point you a idiot for staying with him as its clear things won't get better

[Wise4myage]

Good grief, why are you still with this douche bag? I suggest you make a plan to rid yourself of him. One of these when he at work, just walk out and never look back.

[exitseven]

He hit you. Dump him and move on. End of story.

[anylolone]

Yeah, violence is a no no.

[Iron_Man]

Sleep on it

[KrakenAttackin]

**Yawn**

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

please do