People who have been cheated on could you feel it?

[Anonymous]

Could you feel something when they started cheating? How did you know inside something was going on

[Whitewulf]

Absolutely, my girlfriend of three years decided to go to asu for college I stayed in Colorado. I had many friends in AZ where I was from.
the summer before she started we took a trip and I introduced her to all my friends male and female so she would know people. I had know idea she was hanging around Kevin who was one of my good friends. She had been there for a couple of months and one morning at 6am I woke up from a nightmare that her and Kevin slept together. It was so real I didn’t even hesitate to pick up the phone. I called him first and straight out asked him. First he denied it I said are you sure he replied ya man I’m sure. So relieved I hung up the phone. One minute later he called back and said yeah bro we did. That suck feeling is still there today. Called her and I didn’t even ask I just said so you fkd Kevin huh? Her response, hmm. Luckily they were too far away or I’d be writing this from prison but I did get even. I won’t share what I did but at the time cold hearted revenge was just the thing I needed. Today I wish I had been more of a man at 20 to just let it go.

[Unit1]

Oh it's simple.

When I was neglected it was kind of obvious to me. She used to visit me way more often and then reduced it drastically. No explanation.

Meh. I'm just happy I've heard "she's not yours. It's just your turn." before. These are good words to live by for someone born with a penis.

[Asker]

Good words for anyone. She can make him miserable and j only can wonder how that ended

[Casscondon1987]

yes, I felt it. I was with my ex husband for 5 years but married 3 months. The whole relationship was toxic and no good. We have a 16 year old son and it's hard on him now too, considering his dad's been married to two other women after me and is now 100% gay. You just have a bad gut feeling when you know he's out there doing something he shouldn't be.

[Asker]

Sorry that happened to you. Seems if you have a 16 year old it took him a while to want to get married.

[Lyndsielee666]

I went to look at pictures he took of our daughter on his phone and he freaked out so I kinda knew right there 😂

[OlderAndWiser]

No, I did not. In the second relationship where this happened, I knew things were falling apart, but I didn't suspect cheating until I was told by a mutual friend.

[BadApple69]

No… didn’t notice a thing…
I was so in love the thought that she was cheating on me NEVER crossed my mind. It was very obvious but love really is blind. I only found out by accident 6 months into the affair.
I’ve been changed forever, now I love less and suspect more. Necessary for survival but the way I loved before is the way all women would want to be loved.

[Asker]

That’s what you have to be careful on. Love bombing. Nobody is perfect and if someone seems too good to be true. They may be.

Don’t get me wrong there is AMAZING people out there. But you do have to be careful

[Asker]

Sorry that happened. Hope you find someone better.

[Whitewulf]

So they say. I’m still trying to figure the whole, no means no but could mean yes sometimes it means maybe. And when she says she fine, she is anything but fine.

[BadApple69]

@Asker thank you! Life is a series of failures, broken hearts and lessons we never want to learn…. Then we die.
She crushed me like no other could. Now my heart is so scared no one could ever do what she did to me. I can never give 100% of myself again. It’s all part of the learning.

[BadApple69]

@Whitewulf I hear you! No means maybe, or yes if she wants it, or no if you want it… but here is the important thing! NEVER assume yes means yes. That’s a bad mistake. Good luck!

[KittygosMeoWW]

Absolutely, I’m so intuitive I will literally dream the scenario with all the details correctly. It’s how I found out an ex was gay or bi and how my bd liked older women.

[exitseven]

I was totally blindsided. I ahd no clue until I saw her with her old boyfriend.

[Nikki1989]

Yes, it is always so obvious.

[Billlewis]

I can't even envision being questioned by you, and having to look you straight i. The eye, and tell you anything other than the truth.

[Asker]

@Billlewis she says her husband knows of her girlfriend. Does she share her? Or is he allowed to have someone?

[Asker]

No answer. Hmm

[Asker]

By the way she talks. She seems like a person whose hiding something.

[Whitewulf]

Yep usually their routine changes and the way they dress

[Asker]

@Whitewulf definitely can be. Not always.

[missssopiumm]

honestly just intuition and watching how a person talks to you and when they do (like times) do they ghost you? or respond as soon as possible? those things

[Lwdmistyqu]

I had a gut feeling to break my trust with him and open his messages app and lo and behold. Texts upon texts with other women.
I feel like I just knew even though his behavior didn’t change.

[LavLavLuv]

He was acting weird and the vibes felt like something is sus

[Altheavas]

With some people it’s obvious!

[PinkSmoke]

Yeah you feel it