Can anyone share their stories on finding love later than usual?

[Anonymous]

Has anyone found love again in their late 20's or 30's? Any words of wisdom?

[FunkyMonkee]

My first was 3 weeks before my 25th b-day. My second was just after my 26th. My third was just after my 34th. No words of wisdom. Just be in the right place at the right time.
You want the stories? girlfriend 1, I was trying to get a guy into my band on guitar. He introduced me to his wife and daughter. We went to a 3 Stooges Film Festival and she made sure she sat between us so she could "play footsy" with me in the theatre. A couple weeks later, he insisted she come to a frat house party we were playing. While there she started getting sexual with me and said she was gonna divorce him, anyway because he beats her. After the gig, she slept at my place but chose to get into my bed instead of the spare she was supposed to sleep in. She was 18, about to turn 19 in a week.
girlfriend 2 was my ex-guitarist's girlfriend and they just got married, at my insistence, then had a nasty fight about 2 weeks later and broke up. She was my best friend and, after breaking her foot a week later, asked me to stay with her `til the cast came off. After 2 weeks of living with her, she decided to fuck me. I didn't know but, she was on the verge of her third nervous breakdown! A week later, she flipped out and was in the hospital for half a year. When she got out, she went back to him.
girlfriend 3 I met at a place where I was asked to sit in on drums for some band that just picks up a drummer wherever they play. After our set, these two gorgeous girls showed up and were standing right in front of me, then they decided to sit and talk with me. When it was time for me to leave, we said goodbye and figured we'd never see each other again. About a week or two later, the Indian girl (the other was Polish) was waiting for a bus and I happened to walk right past her. She said, "Hey! It's you!", so, I stopped to talk with her, she invited me back to her place for a pizza and to talk records and, within another couple weeks of this, we were lovers! I intended to marry her but, she eventually ended up cheating on me after 10 years!
I guess the tip is: you can't trust women!!
There WERE about 5 others that didn't go anywhere. 1. I was at a Fixx concert and, while waiting for autographs after the show, I met a girl and decided to walk her home, about a 2 mile walk. Besides, I had to go that way anyway to get to my house, another 5 miles from her place. We got to her place and, while saying goodbye, started kissing passionately and kinda fell in love. We made plans to meet the next afternoon but, I went to get her and she was nowhere to be found. 2. I was leaving a store, a block away from my 2nd run-in with the Indian chick, and this cute blonde walked right past me in the direction I was going. When she noticed I was following her, she smiled and said that my long legs were good for something! As we talked, she said she was going to the Greyhound station (where my uncle used to work) but wasn't sure where it was. I walked her over. It was about a mile away. She got her ticket and had to wait about 2 hours for her bus so, I hung with her and we had a nice long chat. Bus time came, I took her to the gate, we hugged and kissed and exchanged addresses. She lived about 2 hours north of me. Sadly, Melanie and I never got around to writing each other. 3. We played a gig at Oberlin university and there was an after gig party. At the party, I met this cute sweet girl and we were just on our way, hand in hand, to find a place to talk and make out when, suddenly, my band decided we had to leave NOW!! I don't drive so, I had to go with them! There was no time for us to exchange contact info. We never saw each other again. 4. We played a gig at Shooters in Erie. After the show, I was wandering around in the audience area and some woman walked up to me and started talking to me. While talking with her, I accidentally hit one of her tits with the back of my right hand. I apologized and she said she didn't mind at all and that I should feel free to play with them. Then she started kissing me! After a minute or two, we went our separate ways and never saw each other, again. 5. We played a local gig and, during the first break, some girl that a friend of ours brought with him was sitting to my right and yelled something into my right ear. Because the jukebox was blasting away in my left ear at super sonic levels, I couldn't hear a word she said so, I asked her what she said and, when I did, she kissed me and pushed a pill into my mouth! Later, I found out it was a Nembutal. Before the night was over, she and I were sitting alone in a front room booth making out hot & heavy! We exchanged phone numbers before she left but, the only time I called Carole, she said she was moving to New York. I never saw or heard from her, again.

[Lliam]

I had several long-term relationships in my life, beginning at age 16. I was deeply infatuated with all those women, but I don't think I knew what love was and I had no intention of getting married. I also wasn't interested in children.

When I was 36, I met a 30 year old named Petra. We wound up living together for over a year. I fell in love her with my heart and soul. She loved me, too. She was my physical ideal. She was hypersexual and orgasmic. But I loved everything else about her.

Unfortunately, there turned out to be reasons why we couldn't have made it as life-long companions. We separated for reasons that had nothing to do with cheating or anything mean. But I was devastated. I have never experienced such pain. It took over a year for me to pull myself together and move on with my life.

When I was 40, I met my future wife. We got married two years later. We've been married now for over 26 years, have had LOTS of fun and built a wonderful life together. She's a wonderful wife. I love her with all my heart.

At the same time, I still love Petra. We reconnected via Facebook 20 years after we last saw each other. Five years later, I read that she died from a sudden medical problem at the age of 55. We weren't destined to be together, but I will always love her and will never forget her. Interestingly, that doesn't detract from how much I love my wonderful wife.

[Anonymous]

Don’t make finding love your primary focus. Men can smell overeagerness in a woman and it scares them off. Also, you only get one life. Make love one of your goals, but make most of your time about spending with family and friends; and finding yourself. Your loved ones won’t live forever. Also, you should only settle down with someone when you’ve found yourself and you know you’d be proud to introduce them to loved ones as your boyfriend, fiancé, or husband. I didn’t get my first proposal until I was in my thirties and won’t be married if ever, until I’m even older.

[IslaTheWitch]

Godmother of my older daughter found her SO in her 40s. They are already 10 years happy together.

But you know? It happened a few years after she gave up looking for someone. She was relaxed and happy with her life and it was enough to attract the right man to her life.

[OlderAndWiser]

I met Helen when I was 65 years old and we will be getting married on April 27 next year. If you want a partner to love and who would love you, why would you let age stop you from looking for him or her? Your heart is never too old for love!

[lightbulb27]

I found my love and only wife in my 50's. The funny thing is... I used to think life was over after 30. Life isn't even getting started at that point for some. Otherse... have already gone way ahead. so it depends...

For a girl... ok, you have a clock and it runs until sometime in your 40's. That means, you are maybe 50% way through that cycle. But then after that, you've still got 30-40 years.

You've got a LOOOOOOONG way to go... so enjoy the ride. Hopefully you life, love and renew again. Life changes every few years, hope it's good for you.

[Flatmanlewis]

Sure. I went through a divorce in my first marriage and it sucked. I also learned A LOT about myself and how to handle life & women. I grew a lot as a person and developed some healthy habits for pursuing a better relationship and did so at 34. Turned out to be the best thing ever. Life looks and feels different with the stability of maturity and experience.

[Flatmanlewis]

Also, my advice: Be clear to yourself and others what you want. Don’t waste time going on multiple dates with someone if you don’t feel it by date 2-4. Be uncompromising in your standards and deliver a high standard for yourself. Communicate openly about what you want in any relationship you are interested in.

[Unit1]

Let's just say after escaping a very bad region and my toxic nosy family the topics regarding dating, relationships and social activities was only enabled when i was 27 years old. Until then i felt like a prisoner.

I got a lot of catching up to do. I still sleep with my hands.

[Grond21]

It's better to be single than to be in a bad relationship. This is a crucial realization. You also want to figure out what kind of man you want, and then work to become the kind of woman that will attract that kind of man.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Nope but love isn't predictable, love doesn't follow age, it doesn't follow looks, it doesn't follow anything but it's own unpredictable path and that can be anywhere, anytime and with anyone, don't worry too much on age.

[jimmy2]

I was Married 36 years and I found that a individual needs to find forgiveness within them go to the other person find forgiveness between each other then both find forgiveness with God

None of us are perfect we all screw up

[Fireguy17]

Yeppers, we got married 5 years ago, both or 2nd marriages.
So yes, it can happen at any time.

[SunnyRS]

Can't think of it I am in my mid 20s and I myself haven't found love although that's not been my priority but maybe I should start now if it's not too late.

[FenixG45]

Two remarkable women came into my life and left me, my BFF and my old girlfriend. Both loved and left me. They died too soon!

[Jmmmfi4]

PFFF... IM 42 AND COULDN'T BE MORE SINGLE

[Fuentes]

I fell in love with money late