How do people in relationships avoid letting other people’s opinion of their relationship ruin the relationship?

[Anonymous]

I think a lot of us make the mistake of involving outsiders in what goes in our relationship. A lot of us ask for advice because we truly need it. However, a lot of the times, the advice causes us to overthink even more than before. We begin to trust in others words more than the ones of the one we’re with. How do we take others opinion into consideration without taking their word over the person we are in a relationship with? Sure we can and do communicate with our partner as well yet sometimes we are unsure of who and what to believe. I want to leave it to trusting in the Lord to guide us down the right path, be it separate or together. At the same time, advice from family, friends, and so on can leave us feeling conflicted.

[DollLover]

Alright, my VPN is enabled so listen up you шhоres! Here's the deal: if you're letting other people's opinions of your relationship ruin your relationship, then you're clearly not doing enough aпаl sex. I mean, come on, what kind of relationship doesn't involve a healthy dose of hоггor соcкs and coом jaгs?

If you want to keep your relationship strong, then you need to start ignoring those haters and focus on the real issues, like which type of lube works best for pounding ass. Don't let anyone else dictate what you should be doing with your junk, especially not those Bible thumping pзусho lезbians who can't handle the thought of a woman taking it up the backside.

In fact, every time you hear someone criticize your relationship, take it as an opportunity to double down on the freaky stuff. Let those haters fuel your passion for aпal sex and push your boundaries further than ever before. And if they can't handle it, well, screw them. They probably haven't even heard of the holy grail of butt plugs, the O-ring.

But seriously, if you're having trouble staying focused on what's important in your relationship, just remember: coом jaгs, horrог coокs, and ass pounding. Repeat those three things like a mantra, and you'll never lose sight of what's truly important. And if all else fails, just whip out your favorite dild0 and remind yourself why you're in this relationship in the first place.

[Tapeworm]

I'm offended

[musclesimp]

@Tapeworm I'm offended too

[Flatmanlewis]

I think the best way to avoid it is to protect it. The truth is this - no matter how much time you spend trying to explain the intricacies of your romantic relationships with people they will never really understand.
I also think, if you are going to take advice only take the advice you ask for, not that which it offered unsolicited. (In my experience those tend to be gossipers who just love to hear themselves talk then to tell others about the conversation) and, most importantly, only heed the advice of those who either have healthy relationships OR are sharing the lessons learned from their failed ones.


Anybody with no relationship dispensing advice is like a customer in a restaurant telling the chef how to do their craft: sure you are entitled to do so but unless you can do better that’s just an opinion and not actual advice.

[Asker]

Amazing explanation

[Flatmanlewis]

Well, thank you.

[LazerBean]

It kind of depends on what sort of opinions you're talking about and what sort of people is coming from. Are they close to you, or are they just random acquaintances? Are the opinions about general things like being too young to get married or not having a stable job, or are the opinions about specific events and things going on?

If you're talking about family and friends opinions, then the next question would be how high quality are your family and friends? Are they logical people with good values? If so then it may be prudent to at least hear what they have to say. If there are a bunch of no good people, then you need to distance yourself from them anyway.

[Asker]

Some are acquaintances, some are family and friends. A lot of them are single and unstable but I think its because a lot of them experiences similar and don’t want me to go through the same. I also feel like they hardly gave him a chance and pretended to but were hoping for the worst all along. So I am not sure who to listen to.

[LazerBean]

I like to look at things this way. If I need advice to fix my car, I'm not going to take advice from someone who has only has experience BREAKING cars. I feel the same way about relationship advice from unstable people.

As for family and friends, if those people truly love you and want the best for you, AND if they themselves have been in long-term, happy marriages, then consider trying to see things from their perspective. See if maybe they are right. And maybe they aren't, but it's always best to learn from others. My brother-in-law dated a girl who was obviously no good, and everybody told him so. He didn't listen, and in the end she cheated on him. Completely predictable and completely preventable. I'm not saying that is your case, I'm just saying it happens. People who are looking for the person to spend the rest of their life with need to be extremely judgmental with that choice.

[Altheavas]

That’s easy do what’s good for you only. People can share their opinions, doesn’t mean you have to consider them.

[Asker]

I feel its good to consider but to not necessarily follow

[Altheavas]

I agree

[serious]

In my view, in a relationship it is a very bad idea to discuss problems/issues or even take ideas from outsiders or even the close relatives as it is more likely to cause confusion as compared to otherwise. However, many people in relationships tend to do this. I don't understand why they want to give that power to control (indirectly) the relationship to other people?

Instead it is always better to trust your own skills and ability to handle things. That is the logical way to do it also

[Asker]

Thank you

[JacobJordan]

My relationship is private. What My wife and I do is between us. Oh sure we might share small snippets but we never share enough for it to be something people can form much more than the "they are married" opinion. For those who love to rush judgment we just laugh because they know nothing about us

[Asker]

If you start to remotely doubt one another, do you turn to God as help?

[JacobJordan]

Nope. If we doubt each other we talk to each other. No need for external things to solve internal problems

[DextroShade]

You should only take relationship advice from people if they have at least as good as a relationship as you regardless if they're family or friends. People who have been in long-lasting marriages would be good to seek advice from but if they are single or have a history of failed relationships then you should never take their advice.

[Asker]

They are single and some bitter but I feel they are being genuine with this specific relationship.

[DextroShade]

It doesn't matter how genuine you think they may be they are still unqualified to give relationship advice. Single women keep women single, so don't listen to spinsters

[Asker]

Goodness is that true.

[Flatmanlewis]

Damn. DextroShade is dropping some truth bombs. I never thought of it that simply but holy cow - that’s so true.

[fuddly]

I totally agree

I can recall two incidents where people made fun of my wife and questioned why i married her. I had to consider what they meant, why they said it, and then carefully ignore it. It can clearly remember them to this day even though they were more than 20 years ago.

It's inevitable our partner will be criticised and we have to take it on board and either agree or disagree.

[Asker]

Thank you for understanding

[Anonymous]

It's not necessary to discuss problems with others if you and your partner are secure in your relationship; a couple may work out their differences through communication. It's usually a two-sided situation, and involving others merely serves to highlight the problem's focus on one individual, which only makes them feel isolated.

[Thestupidusername]

I would never share with anyone what's going on in my relationship. Thats between me and him. So thats not an issue for me. Also I've never cared for anyones opinions.. probably too little tbh.

[Ironic_Method]

That's easy. I don't really care what most people think.

[Asker]

In this specific case, we asked others because we care to know what they think about the situation that we are second-guessing

[Ironic_Method]

Sure, I suppose if you're second-guessing something. I just typically don't second-guess and am confident in the decisions I make, which has worked out wonderfully for me thus far.

[sawno]

If its a strong relationship where both really enjoy their partner it doesn't matter what they say because the reality beats any argument.

[AutumnSerenity]

By keeping your relationship private.

[Rc2020]

Simple don't listen to people