Guys, Be honest, do you think shorter women are more successful in dating than a 6’4” woman like me?

[AmazonChick171]

I’ve been having a difficult time with dating. Guys have rejected me for my height, I’ve been ditched before a date has started and quite frankly I think women under 5’8 have more success in date more likely to get married. My ex boyfriend and I dated for a year in a half. We were so happy and our height difference didn’t bother us. He’s 5’7. He then got annoyed that wearing heels (four inch that made me 6’8”) and told me I emasculated him and dumped me for embarrassing him and having an enormous girlfriend.
I went on a date with a guy and he was shocked how tall I was and excused himself to “use the restroom” but never came back 20 minutes later. He’s 6’7”.

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4 mo

I forgot to mention that I’m 6’4”

[DJB72]

If the guy is so insecure he's intimidated by your height then you're better off without him.

I had a friend as a kid whose dad was 6'6" and mum was 6'4". Her brother was 6'8" and at 15 she was 6'1". Last I heard her husband was 5'9" and they were very happy.

It's frankly pathetic if a guy can't deal with a tall girl. I'm 6' so not exactly short. In the time I was dating I had dates with girls taller than me and shorter. I had one date where I literally had to stand on a step to kiss her goodnight. The kiss was definitely worth finding somewhere to stand! It didn't work out for us because we lived too far apart. Although ironically my next relationship and the girl I married lived in a different hemisphere 🤦

Nothing should be insurmountable. Definitely not a height difference.

[AmazonChick171]

That’s amazing! I wish more guys can be like you. Tall women and girls are female too.

[Staximus]

Shorter women are in a common situation, you are in a very rare situation. Statistically only about 1 in 151,000 women are your height. Plus only about 1% of guys are taller than you. Most men don't approach women who are taller than them because most women want a guy who is taller than them. If you don't care about a guy's height, you'll have to let it be known. A lot of guys have never stood next to a woman your height and don't know how to react. They might feel intimidated or like less of a man. All I can say is start looking for some giants. There's tall guys out there who want a tall woman.

[AmazonChick171]

Yeah that’s a good point. I’ve even shown interest but I don’t get nothing. Can’t believe the 6’7” guy thought I’m way too tall for him. My friend cussed him out for ditching me like that.

[HawkPerception]

Most guys do prefer shorter women, including myself. The dynamic between men and women is dominant and submissive. Men tend to like shorter, smaller, weaker, younger, girls that weigh less than themselves, because those all relate to submissiveness and it translates to the bedroom and the dynamic of the relationship. Whereas women tend to prefer taller, bigger, stronger, older guys that weigh more because those all relate to dominance and that also translates to the bedroom and the dynamic of the relationship.

I personally would be open to dating a girl that's taller than me... even 6'4, if she was lean and in shape and very feminine because I'd still want to be dominant in the bedroom and stronger than her and I'd want her to make me feel masculine as well.

[Guido]

Most men prefer a shorter woman and many prefer a petite woman as they find that feature attractive.

You cannot change what people find attractive. My wife is 1 inch shorter than me and I would have like a bit bigger difference but that didn't stop me from loving her. Even if she was taller it wouldn't have changed anything. A big height difference may have had an impact, I can't say for sure.

You have an uphill battle dating at your height as many men will not find your height an attractive feature even though you may be beautiful and a very nice person. You have similar challenges to a very short man.

I hope you find someone that loves you for who you are. You deserve to find love and happiness.

[AmazonChick171]

If course men prefer petite women. That’s why I said petite and average size women are more successful in relationships and marriages while tall women like me have back luck or get dumped.
My mom is 5’10” and my dad is about 6’7”. She didn’t have boyfriends in middle school or high school because boys were intimidated by her height. She had a boyfriend before my dad. I rather be my moms height or shorter.

[Guido]

I can understand your frustration. I saw it with tall girls when I was in school and how unhappy they were. 5'10" is still tall for a woman but not too terrible.

[AmazonChick171]

Well I can understand because people sees us as freaks and people say, “You are very tall for a woman. That’s not natural.” Like it’s a bad things. Nobody makes a big deal out of tall men but when it’s tall women, it’s a HUGE DEAL. My mom was unhappy with her height and no guy asked her out in middle or school.

[Guido]

I would never use the work freaks. Most models are taller than average, but everyone sees them as beautiful, but they are also not standing next to them to see how tall they really are.

[AaronKrieger]

You remind me of a GTA Online RP character at this point, lmao.

If this is somehow real, then stop venting about it so heavily. You do not need to make being tall or any struggle you have your identity. All your questions I've seen so far have to do with you venting about being tall. Instead focus on the positive things in your life.

[AmazonChick171]

There’s nothing positive about my height. Well there is and I do like it but still. It’s the truth. I never understood why most women wanna be taller. Men don’t like it

[AaronKrieger]

A lot of guys don't like tall girls, but also a lot like it or do not care if she is.

You have no control over it, so there's no point focusing on it. I'm saying focus on the positive things in your life or even aspects of being tall instead.

[AmazonChick171]

And that’s why tall girls and women never get date’s because boys and men don’t like us. What is it about us you don’t like? We always end up single, well my mom is 5’10” and has been with my dad for three decades.
My ex dumped me for “embarrassing” him and having an enormous girlfriend.

[AaronKrieger]

Not all men dislike tall women and a lot like them. For me, I think someone your height is ideal, since I want someone similar in height to me. Some guys don't like that due to feeling less manly - who knows.

As for your ex and mom, I'm guessing it likely had nothing to do with your guy's height. There's a lot more to a relationship than superficial things such as height.

[RavVid]

Girls like men to be taller and men like girls to be shorter though guys are not as demanding on height difference as girls are.

I have heard taller girls complain that short girls go after tall guys instead of leaving them for the taller girls.

Sadly I can see you would have a difficulty. You probably need a 7 foot guy.

[AmazonChick171]

A 7ft guy is rare. I can’t believe that 6’7” guy though I was too tall for him. Im shorter than him.

[RavVid]

Yeah, the taller the rarer. Alexander Grace has the best stats I've seen on height preferences. Men prefer 3" shorter but women prefer to be 11" shorter and the most likely the compromise is 7.5".

On his stats the 6' 7" guy should have been OK with you. But even 5' women want really tall guys and I have seen them end up with them. A YT clip showed a 5' women explaining that she was so short she needed a very tall guy so it didn't look like they were a high school couple.

So there is strong female competition for tall guys. Men like to be physically dominant relative to their partners - I do. So yeah we like pixie sized slender women more than what we say I reckon. Explains the appeal of Asian girls to western men and why the tallest men I know have 5' girls. I can only remember one tall guy with an almost equally tall girl.

Which is no comfort for you sadly. Especially since there is little anyone can do about their height except wear flats in your case. Men do like youth in women and you are only 24. We do like slender and general good appearance. The character of a girl is important - notably co-operative, caring and a happy nature.

So my suggestion to you is accept your height is a disadvantage and focus on your advantages. At the same don't be foolishly picky. Be prepared to date 10 years older as your youth is then a more precious commodity. Improve your market position where you can.

This is the Alexander Grace video. It is male centric but you can invert as needed.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kH5kitiXLGY&t=630s

[AmazonChick171]

I’ll check out the video. Thank you.

[RavVid]

NP. We all have to play to our strengths and we only need one win.

[LeeVan]

It can be an expectation for some men since the woman being smaller is statistically more probable. It's what they're used to and anything else other than their norm can be a curve-ball. It may be easier for shorter women to find partners, However height has no bearing on the success of a relationship.

[syncheart]

I feel sorry for you. I think it is sad that this is happening to you. But really those are not the guys you should be with anyways. You need someone that is concerned on how to make things work with you, and keep them working. Those guys are concerned about how things look when they stand next to you.

[AmazonChick171]

We’ll my friend called out my cousin for ditching me

[syncheart]

@AmazonChick171
I don't understand. Who is your cousin? Who is your EX? I thought the question was about why your EX left you over your height.

[mrcurious98]

Heck that would be great I was married to someone that was substantially shorter than I was and mildly mean job in the house was to reach things that she couldn't get safely and she was no fun to play basketball with I'd love to hang out and shoot some hoop with you and it'd be nice to have someone reach stuff for me LOL

[mrcurious98]

I mean I'm 6'1 but that's just more woman to love in my opinion

[Berethor]

Yea, 6’4” is a very masculine height, and men tend to prefer feminine looking women.

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/One_Head_Taller

[AmazonChick171]

Thanks a lot. 😡

[AmazonChick171]

It’s not my fault I’m 6’4”
My mom is 5’10 and my dad is 6’7 and they e been together for about 30 years. My mom had trouble dating and had a boyfriend before my dad but she has a long lasting relationship. I wish I was my moms height (5’10”) or even shorter (5’5”). I never understood why most women wanna be taller.

[AmazonChick171]

I mean to say they’ve been together 34 years and married for 30 years.

[Berethor]

Most women wanna be taller? why? but wearing heels was your fault.

[AmazonChick171]

How the HELL is it my fault? It’s my ex boyfriend’s fault for discouraging me and dumping me for a pathetic reason! Tall women should not be told they can’t wear heels because that’s unfair to them! Petite and average height women don’t get judged for wearing hells. Tall women always get shit for it. My guy friend said it’s my own fault for emasculating and embarrassing him by wearing heels (making me 6’8”) and I don’t need them. He said no tall woman should be wearing heels at all.

[Berethor]

He right, you too tall even without heels, you making it worse by wearing them.

[AmazonChick171]

I disagree and it’s not my fault my relationships ended. You’re making it seem like it is. If a 5’10” woman wore four inch heels which makes her 6’2,, would you mock her for it? Tall girls should not get blacked for men being intimidated. If they can’t handle a tall women then that is their problem, not ours.

[AmazonChick171]

Blamed I mean. Tall women should not get crap for wearing heels!

[D3P0PowPow]

maybe just a little more of a challenge, but thats what builds character. Its ok to have challenges. Just depends if your going to give up. If your going to give up dating will be impossible. Because if your not gonna date then you'll never gonna find out the answer. Also stop comparing, thats silly.

[AmazonChick171]

I’m not comparing nothing. I just asked an honest question because most men wouldn’t go for a tall woman. Be honest, would YOU?

[D3P0PowPow]

I’m dating a taller woman. Didn’t I already say that?

[LiamJHayden]

Yes, because most guys prefer to date women who are shorter, and most of the remaining would likely fetishize someone as tall as you. Probably very few of us who care primarily about personality and not outward appearance.

[AmazonChick171]

Some guy said he would breed NBA players, not be in love with me. The guy is like 6’6”. Most guys say they would have tall babies but not in love.