Am I a bad person for being physically attracted by another man?

[Anonymous]

I am in a relationship, been together for 5 years soon. We have had some ups and downs as normal, he got a promotion and he started to travel much more and he is only about work, even on weekends, he just sits at his laptop and I would love to do more, he say I need to be patient but I’m not asking for anything more than some time and attentions. There’s this man, he owns a business in partnership with his wife. Me and my man we are regular customers and my man lately has become more jealous since he told me this man has been looking at my body and boobs and thinks he likes me. This guy is hot, and now every time I can’t stop thinking about that and to the fact that I have nothing against some well done sex. Not sure I should go for it and make all complicated

[OlderAndWiser]

1. No, you should not be unfaithful to your partner. Their actions never justify you doing something that you know is wrong.

2. The other guy is married. You need to decide for yourself that, even when you are single, married people are off limits.

3. Your guy seems to be all about himself and not about you two as a couple.

4. Do you have any children together?

[Asker]

No, no children

[OlderAndWiser]

That is quite fortunate.

Are you waiting for this guy to change?

[Asker]

Maybe, I don’t know! I love him, we had an amazing connection not sure what happened seams like the man I knew is now gone and there’s a workaholic, selfish and person instead

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you want to live like this for the rest of your life?

[Asker]

No, I want to be happy! But I also want to understand what is going on

[OlderAndWiser]

Understanding why a relationship went bad is a luxury that you don't always get. But deciding not to spend any more years tolerating what you don't really want is your right.

[Anonymous]

Only if you act on your feelings for the other man.

[riverrat3]

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