Can you understand a woman taking revenge when she's been cheated on?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Like how so? Some women self justify “taking revenge” on their bfs/husbands by cheating when they what was done against them was not cheating (not giving enough attention, etc.

But if you are believer that two wrongs make a right then you are part of much bigger problem in our modern culture.

That’s not to say I haven’t my own fantasies of “getting revenge” on people who have wronged me in the past. Particularly certain women. But dwelling on that accomplishes nothing.

The best revenge I can have is:

1) respecting myself and cutting them off

2) doing my best to improve my own life.

Now I know that’s all easier said then done. I do have an ego problem and I can be vindicative. But one thing that’s come from all my bad experiences is I got to quit being naive and trusting yet not being paranoid. It’s a tough tight rope to walk but I’ve gotten better at it.

For example I had a girl cancel on a date last weekend saying she got “called into work”. We talked for two weeks earlier almost every day. She acted excited about meeting up but then bailed at the last second. She said she would hmu when she got off “work” but I haven’t heard from her since.

I know what most likely happened is she “found a better deal”. A part of me wants to message her to let her know I know she’s lying but “best of luck”. But that’s not worth my time and mental energy.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

no i can't same thing goes for men. look it's just a moment in time. you're angry for all the wrong reasons.

we've been programmed to be a dick we've been programmed to take revenge reading program to hurt that person because they hurt us it's all bullshit. you have to look at it for the truth and what it is really going on what just happened when somebody cheats on you is they just told you that they are no good for you and this is their way out and you need to thank them because in the long run you're going to be 10 times happier without them instead of dragging on day in day out same old bullshit and eventually splitting up anyway.

if you cheated on for sure it's going to hurt for a minute but look at it for the truth of it it will be the best thing in the world that that person is not in your life anymore you need to think that person and become the best you can become because you know what they cheated on you they're going to cheat on the person they're with too so they're going to always want to come back to you and you just look good feel good be happy and already have somebody holding your hand

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

I don't understand people who want to seek revenge on others. Such a person loses a part of themselves, their soul, in the act of vengeance. And they gain absolutely nothing, often not even satisfaction.

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

What is the point? It isn't gonna make you feel any better.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I "understand" revenge but I neither encourage it nor do I condone it.

HawkPerception · Answer

Can you understand a man taking revenge when he got cheated on? If roles were reversed, the idea suddenly becomes much more disgusting, right?

No I cannot understand someone lowering themselves to the level of the cheater. Just move on and stop dwelling on it. You already win I character as the person that did not cheat.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

No, because even tho I know a situation like that is terrible, depending on how you look at it, revenge can be worse, cause doing something out of temptation compared to doing it out of anger are two different things, if someone is being vengeful from something like that it can show their character, the proper way to deal with that situation is to end it and move on.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

No, because nobody is perfect.. That was just apart of your exes imperfection.. Maybe sometime in the future they might realize the error of their ways and become a greater person because of it.. And you become a greater person because you realize even more than you don't wanna hurt somebody and betray the relationship the same way they did.

KillinItHard · Answer

I don't think being cheated on is a reason to lower one's self to the point of acting so petty. Just move on and live life. It hurts, it sucks, it's horrible to go through but it happened and nothing/no one you do can change or affect that outcome.

Kaamraj · Answer

Yes, revenge isn't limited to one gender. When a person is perceived to have been wronged. Their value of self diminishes and in order to restore that they feel like inflicting injury on the other person.

HighValue · Answer

Revenge is fine if it is deserved. If they were the kind of person that had casual sex in their past, or knowingly chose to date a person that had casual sex in their past, then they shouldn't expect a faithful partner.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

nope. being cheated on doesn't mean a person acts trashy back

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Yea, I don't blame people for disagreeing, but I just don't see how you can move forward without at least making it even. Or there being some kind of retribution.

JacobJordan · Answer

Of course of she is stupid, spiteful incapable of self control or anything that indicates she would be a healthy life partner. The healthy response is to break up and go your separate ways.

Anonymous · Answer

You don't want that behavior in your memories, also he's going to cheat on the next girl if its his norm, half or more of the population has stds, him being a serial cheater.. he's bound to catch one. Nasty man..

DryGermanGuy · Answer

„Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.“  - William Congreve, The Mourning Bride

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, not really. It is not the end of the world.

sawno · Answer

Understand yes, but in the end she's still getting fucked.

CozyCoffin · Answer

Nope. I find it to be rather stupid behavior. The best course of action is to leave them.

ienjoylookingatgreen · Answer

Yes although it's not right it's understandable and I can't argue with wanting to let some of the pain out. Provided it's to someone who isn't innocent

Jackblue · Answer

Depends on how she does so, leaving him fine, demanding she have the right to cheat herself ok, messing up his car maybe, hurting him physically unacceptable.

laly520 · Answer

taking revenge is pointless, a waste of time n pretty sick thing a weak person would do

hammeronfire · Answer

I can understand anyone getting revenge after being cheated on considering I got cheated on in back to back relationships with 2 different women.  Just don’t do anything illegal

exitseven · Answer

Yes, and I can understand when a guy takes revenge for the same thing;.

ODC2112 · Answer

Cheating is normally mutual, in experience those who complain that their partner is cheating on them are the first to cheat.

verylovelyguy · Answer

i read hercules when i was 7. hera tried to kill hercules and made him get angry and kill his family. she seemed psychotic to me

Anonymous · Answer

Can you understand a man taking revenge when he gets cheated on? Men are cheated on just as much as women.. Revenge is petty and idiotic though.

Paul09 · Answer

Nah, not worth it. More headaches for nothing. And you will steep so low to be like them? Leave then in the past and hope karma gets them.

kingmaker21 · Answer

Yes i understand but I keep quite n njoy the fun... I love listen to the lie when i know the truth.

HouseMoat · Answer

Can I understand her wanting to, sure Can I understand her acting on that, no. That is HIGHLY immature and is ILLEGAL

Jhonrembo36 · Answer

I can understand but not agree. Because I think it’s a stupid thing to do. She becomes like him.🤔🤷🏻‍♂️

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Yes. Being cheated on produces rage and shame which can cause people not to think clearly and seek revenge.

jahaims · Answer

Trying to get revenge on a cheater is an immature waste of energy

OtterMan68 · Answer

Why is it always women getting revenge? John Tucker Must Die The Other Woman Just move on.

Staximus · Answer

What I don't understand is why anybody would not leave a cheater

Guido · Answer

It's a poor quality and puts you in a category of stay away from the crazy woman.

91bryce91 · Answer

yes of course i understand it. hell hath no fury...

VanillaBomb · Answer

YES but its not worth it

Fireguy17 · Answer

yeppers, the best thing to do is to just move on.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I can understand, but I don't recommend it.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

I understand it’s a complete waste of time

Todd9612 · Answer

No, what good does this do?

litty736 · Answer

Even though cheating is wrong. I can understand.

Anonymous · Answer

You're a guy.

Anonymous · Answer

Sure, that makes sense to me.

Anonymous · Answer

Is it ok for a guy to do the same?

Danny_dan92 · Answer

It’s best to breakup

Anonymous · Answer

And cheated.

InspireGlow678 · Answer

Oh yeah

Anonymous · Answer

Nope.

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