What screams: I'm in a toxic relationship?

[mandyfire98]

[ohsheeT]

well I'm going to take a wild guess and I'm going to have to say it's probably my mouth I don't know if anything else that can scream but I wouldn't scream anyway I would just say WTF I'm not going through this crap I got to go bye as bad as loud as I would get LOL..

is the unhappiness the whole relationship is everything is not working nothing's working and you know that and your blood pressure is high and you don't like the person anymore and you just want to be away and why make it scream why not accept it before it gets to that level and just either fix it or change it I think once it gets to that level though there is no fixing it it's time to go

yeah if you're at the point where it's screaming has gone on way too long there's no hope for it

and if you really think about it life is so short happiness is so important and making somebody else happy or being happy with somebody else is even 10 times more important to have that type of relationship and that Bond is a beautiful thing so if you can't share that with somebody everything just has to change everything doesn't have to scream it just has to go away

[WhiteSteve]

Lack of trust, extreme jealousy, constant fighting, disparaging comments from/towards your partner, any brand of physical or emotional abuse, infidelity to the set boundaries of the relationship…

I have a general 90% Rule: if I’m not happy with this person 90% of the time…. what am I even doing here?

[WhiteSteve]

Oh, forgot comfort and inability to be yourself around them

[mandyfire98]

Agree on all of your points.

[7Phoenix7]

• When you feel the need to ask your partner before doing anything with friends, or family. Like you feel you have to get an "okay" first.
• Feeling like you're walking on eggshells around your partner.
• Giving each other the silent treatment instead of talking things out.
• Any time there's pushing, hitting, etc.
• Can't have a normal conversation when there's a disagreement, there's always yelling, cursing, or putting each other down.

Haha... so many other things but yea

[mandyfire98]

Yeah, this is absolutely all toxic behavior for sure. Nightmare fuel.

[BasedBaeBecca]

Insistently wanting to know where the other person is.
Demanding to monitor the phone activity.
Exerting pressure to have complete control of the other person's actions.
Showing up where the other person is without invitation and keeping tabs on the person in public.
Demanding obedience and punishing every attempt of independence.

[mandyfire98]

Oh absolutely. Lack of trust and insecurity and control is about the worst.

[BlissfullyCurSed]

If someone keeps saying "but" all the time.

"He cheated on me with a prostitute nextdoor, but he is sweet and caring."

"He beats me, but I know he has been through so many things... he is just confused."

"He doesn't let me go out with my friend while he is always out for the fun, but it is because he gets jealous of me which shows he truly loves me."

The list of never-ending excuses can extend from the US to China.

[mandyfire98]

That's absolutely true lol. Always a but.

[IslaTheWitch]

When you have no time to retrospect, to realize problems you have and think about possible alternatives.

When the thought of taking any action puts you in a state of panic.

When you are afraid of making even the smallest decisions alone.

When you are afraid to voice your opinion

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

Avoiding your significant other, because you are uncomfortable being around them for very specific reasons. Feeling like you're constantly being controlled or have large expectations thrown on your back well, not receiving any positive appreciate. Feelings of depression.

[Danny_dan92]

Nice pun. Constantly arguing/screaming at each other.




Holding resentment towards one another.




Doing things out of spite rather than talk things out like civilized adults or if that fails realize that the relationship is done for then break up.

[Notherndude84]

Controlling, gaslighting, passive aggression, physical abuse, degrading behaviour, isolation, financial abuse, using sex as a control mechanism, constantly checking in, putting conditions on affection.

[mandyfire98]

Definitely agree on all of this

[Notherndude84]

I had much of this behaviour used on me once sadly

[mandyfire98]

I'm sorry you had to deal with that.

[Notherndude84]

It was a long time ago, she is long out of my life

[Notherndude84]

I think a person should always have the opportunity and safe haven to escape abuse. I used to think only women could be subjected to domestic violence and abuse, was I ever wrong 😑

[krin_m]

Constant bickering over small things, an undercurrent of anger and unhappiness that overshadows even simple pleasures of life. In my experience it is inflicted by clingy , possessive jealous individuals who extremely insecure and need constant assurances.

[red324]

Why? Did you land yourself a toxic guy? Controlling, doesn't let you do hang out with your friends because they're insecure. Only wants to do what they want, abusive, calls all the time wondering your whereabouts and what you're doing etc. Better off being single than dealing with that bs.

[mandyfire98]

One time I did. Not currently.

[Kabluie]

A good one in our poly lifestyle are the people who want to date us and then think they can turn us monogamous, or make us cut off our other relationships. That's toxic and a non-starter.

[Beckybooboo]

When every conversation, no matter how benign it is, turns into an argument. I was with a guy once and I said, “wow, it’s such a nice day today”, twenty minutes later we were screaming at each other! Yes, about the weather.

[mandyfire98]

That sounds like a nightmare lol.

[NathanDavis]

when you just go around saying shit about men/women all over the place... lol

and/or relationships as well...

[getwiththepg]

Probably if your relationship looks like the picture linked to this question

[mandyfire98]

That's a misconception, they're actually just laughing very very hard.

[getwiththepg]

@mandyfire98 in that case, someone laughing very very hard in my face with their toxic hot breath hitting my nose would still be a no-no.

[mandyfire98]

It's a laughing competition. It's competitive laughing. It's all the rage in Finland.

[getwiththepg]

Ahh. Paying to see people laugh maniacally isn’t exactly my cup of tea.

[mandyfire98]

It's gonna be bigger than the UFC

[OtterMan68]

always being made to feel no matter what you do, you're wrong.

being blamed for your significant other's faults.

constant fighting

refusal to seek help

physical violence

emotional abuse

mental abuse

[Flower7]

Someone knows that their partner cheats, but stays with them anyway.

[MysticDevice]

Its hard to put in words but you know it when you see it. It's really easy to see from the outside looking in, but hard to see when you're actually in one.

[TaureanBull81]

Toxic relationships really aren't good for your mental health and well-being. My last relationship was toxic and I'm sooooooo glad to have left my exGF.

[MemeSupreme]

they broke up last week but got back together after talking about it

[Still-alive]

Big one would be if you feel like its a huge chore to be around them. or you constantly have that 'walking on eggshells' feeling with them like you really gotta watch what you say around them.

[mandyfire98]

Definitely. Walking on eggshells is the worst.

[LunarEclipse433]

That’s me!!

[Miah04]

Always fighting and their presence and attitude brings you down

[Elena_Stewart]

If your partner blames you for everything even if it is his fault and lowers your self-esteem

[Phoenix98]

Toxic behavior like manipulation lying, keeping secrets, etc.

[KittygosMeoWW]

Constant tiredness, never realized how tired I was all the time. Definitely feel like dating my ex aged me.

[Usersarepoo]

blaming each other and not yourself. being disrespectful, fighting over trust issue and blaming the trust issue.

[Squatting_Slav]

Controlling behaviour, extreme jealousy and just the vibe that you're not loved unconditionally

[Staximus]

Not being accountable for your actions, wanting to fuck other people

[loveslongnails]

This is such a silly question. If you don't come home to something you look forward to because it's the best part of your day, you're in a toxic relationship. Stop overthinking it.

[mandyfire98]

Sorry, I should've made it political. Then it would be a worthy question. Lesson learned.

[loveslongnails]

My sincere apologies; that came off in a way I didn't intend. What I wanted to say, in a kinder, gentler way, is "if you're unhappy in your relationship, it's toxic for you". I imagine that means different things for everybody, don't you think?

[mandyfire98]

Yeah it basically sounded like you were saying the question was stupid and shouldn't be asked. That's how it came off. I was like, what the hell?

[loveslongnails]

Hence, my sincere apology. When I first met you, I told you I thought you were smart, and I meant it. :)

[mandyfire98]

I appreciate that. That's very nice of you

[MarkDown]

- When they only talk about their needs and never consider yours.

[justabuddy]

Short answer.. when anyone tries to change you for their benefit and not yours.

[ChicoFromThe305]

That is a loaded question 🙃

[Likes2drive]

Verbal and physical abuse

[elaphe]

People who are abusive to each other.

[fuddly]

Screaming screams toxic relationship

[fuddly]

Oh @mandyonfire

You are hot your profile photo

[fuddly]

I mean @mandyfire98

[imfreeze95]

Physical abuse

[Anonymous]

That girl has a cyborg mouth.