What do you consider as cheating?

[Anonymous]

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Anything that's sexual and/or romantic with someone who isn't your partner. This includes: Sexting, flirting, kissing, sex, sexual activity, romantic advances, etc. Things like polyamory are excluded since that's discussed & agreed to by their partner, as they'll have to know every other partner that comes into the relationship.

[billmunch]

Well, my SO has had a boyfriend for about 10 years now. So long as there's no lying, sneaking around or pregnancy, I can handle it. We don't have any kids, so there's really nothing on the line. Plus, it kind of turns me on, I'm not the most jealous person in the world, so if the women I date want to see other guys, she can go ahead without having to sneak around and she doesn't have to pick between us. So long as a couple easy conditions are met, she can see whomever she wants without issue.

[robhazelnut]

That's a good question. I think it's best to categorize the term. For starters, it has to go against the agreed-upon boundaries of the relationship, such as "no one else but us", or in the case of poly, "No more than one more at a time" or something like that. The categories I currently propose are, "Date-cheat", "Sex-cheat" and "Valentine's-gift (not to be confused with a birthday gift which is on Valentine's day)"-cheat".

[robhazelnut]

For those who consider any above situations as valid.

[robhazelnut]

For me it'd only be if I entered a mutually agreed romantic relationship, and then only the Date-cheat and Sex-cheat. Valentine's day is just a custom as far as I can tell, though it'd be hideous for people to use it as a means to generate false hope.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Anything with someone of the opposite sex that you have to hide/do behind your partner’s back… because if you’re not doing anything wrong, there’d be no reason for secrecy…

[RavenDarkheart]

@Brainsbeforebeauty could not have said it any better if I tried.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@RavenDarkheart thanks 😊

[RavenDarkheart]

Doing anything that gives part of your heart and / or mind to someone other than your partner. I know some people will say that doesn’t apply to open relationships (and I’m not here to judge), I base my answers on how I see things, and I personally don’t do open relationships. If you do and all is okay with everyone involved then I’m all for people being happy.

[CozyCoffin]

Watching an episode alone of a show we started together. Copying someone's work during a test.
Being sentimentally or physically involved with someone else that isn't your partner.
If I wouldn't like it done against me I shouldn't be doing it myself. This leaves you to draw the line where you want.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Sexual or flirting interactions with someone while already being in a sexual or romantic relationship with someone else, whether consent is given or not.

It has to be an interaction between people, so things like looking at pornographic images or videos don't count.

[Nikki1989]

Doing ANYTHING sexual with someone or something without your partner's knowledge.

Note, I said SEXUAL. Kissing and hugging doesn't count.

[KillinItHard]

I concur with this statement.

[JHAYES317]

Uh if a girl kisses another guy I’d say that constitutes cheating. Unless it’s situation where the guy clearly forced himself on her…

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Think it depends what kind of kissing or hugging is going on

[JHAYES317]

Uh any kind of kissing…hugging doesn’t count as cheating though

[Anonymous]

Engaging in any romantic relationship with someone else. The few girls I sext with are keenly aware that I have a girlfriend and I am not looking for a relationship with them. I talk about my relationship frequently and tell them that por interaction cannot move beyond sexting. I don't consider sexting cheating because I promise nothing romantic or sexual and actually urge them to find a guy who can be 100% for them. Really it's just trading nudes and sexual compliments.

[Miah04]

If someone has a partner, and they find someone else attractive and decide to do something with them, that they do not want their partner to find out about.

[Zestyassmf1997]

Hmmm…cheating is when, while in a relationship, you engage in any sort of sexual behavior with someone (or something) other than the person you’re in the relationship with.

[aceleon]

even meeting without me there is cheating for me.

[IslaTheWitch]

I personally consider any physical contact or developing feelings as cheating

[JHAYES317]

Any physical contact? So he can’t shake another girl’s hand? Disagree with that. I’d say kissing on the lips or any sexual contact is certainly cheating unless it was unconsentee

[loveslongnails]

Whatever your partner wouldn't approve of is cheating. If he or she is good with certain behaviors or actions, whatever they are, you're good to go.

[Alex-Snow]

Anything that ur spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend would deem inappropriate. It could be as simple as a handjob, bj or sex

[SotiCoto]

Violating the terms of a romantic relationship.

[SpaceGalaxy]

Anything involving someone else which you try to keep as a secret from your partner!

[Stella98_]

Hiding things from your partner hiding the cell phone.

[Anonymous]

[Sonjita]

Texting other girls

[JHAYES317]

Eh what if it’s for work though? Sometimes coworkers can be girls…I think the content of the text message is important, or he deleted it or something

[TheSpaceGnome]

Texting only counts as cheating if its sexual or flirty, if its friends or family or collegues or a bisuness discussion, then its not cheating.

[jahaims]

Anything you wouldn't do in front of your partner

[Jamie05rhs]

Flirting and anything above.

[JayBones]

Getting caught