What do you consider cheating?

[Anonymous]

Men that watch corn, go to strip clubs or pay for 0nlyfans... if your woman was sending other men $picy videos/pictures would you be okay with that?

What's cheating?

[SolitarySolace]

What do I not consider as cheating? 🤣


- Sex with another man
- kissing another man
- hugging another man
- spending time alone with another man
- getting gifts for another man
- touching another man either sexually or otherwise
- telling another man she loves him even if it's as a brother or friend
- cuddling/snuggling with another man
- sharing a bed with another man without sex
- confiding in another man
- smiling at another man
- winking at another man
- blowing a kiss at another man
- etc


You develop this after being constantly cheated on. It aparently doesn't happen to the majority.

[Asker]

I like that you have a clear definition of what you consider cheating. I think everyone should start a relationship with certain terms.

What about sharing spicy photos with another man?

[SolitarySolace]

I consider that cheating as well. If her body is so sacred why flaunt it? Does she need other men to tell her she's sexy other than her man? Why? Is he not enough for her? That is why I see it as cheating.

[Asker]

I agree, but...
What's he doing though? If he's indulging, shouldn't she as well?

[SolitarySolace]

When do men ever do the same? What woman actually likes recieving dick pics? Can't compare that to a man recieving tit and nip slip pics

[Asker]

If he's watching other women, I'm sharing my photos with other men. Fair is fair.

[Amy10223]

I think all of those are cheating. What is left?

[lil_will_12]

Okay, hugging another person? Smiling? Really?💀
So in your relationship, neither you nor your partner can hug or even smile at the opposite gender?🤨

Those are some strict as flip rules my dude, no wonder youve been cheated on /hj

[Amy10223]

I think women, some of them if not most, have this need to be complimented on her looks. Let’s face it— women are conditioned to always look their best and remain sexy looking for the opposite gender. That’s why the need for verification that she’s still beautiful, especially as she ages. I don’t consider that cheating, I think that’s more of a security issue and emotional need.

[lil_will_12]

I think, both partners have to have the same ideas of what they consider cheating for it to work, if they dont, there could be double standards and perhaps one or the other might be trying to cheat because of it🤷‍♂️

in my opinion, i think CLEAR cheating would be having sex with another person, kissing someone else (unless there is some other reason they did it, but that would be a hard one to give an excuse for💀) and just seeing a different person (i mean this as in like literally going on dates with them)

But, its not black and white, there are a lot of obvious grey areas with this question, which vary from person to person it seems🤷‍♂️

[Amy10223]

I think that anytime a man pays more attention to someone else, rather than his girlfriend or SO, he is cheating. Especially if he finds that lady attractive. This may lead to meeting that person somewhere. Even going to a "lady of the night" would be cheating for me, although in Japan, the same thing happens and some men don't consider it cheating there. The same applies to women.

[Asker]

I agree. What about a man watching corn?

[Amy10223]

I think you mean porn. In this case--I don't think that is cheating--because he is watching actors. It's more like voyeurism. He is not one on one with anyone special. Also, masturbation isn't a form of cheating of course, it's just sexual relief.

[Asker]

I appreciate another womans point of view! Thank you 😊

[Amy10223]

You're welcome!

[SugarSugarplum]

Cheating is having actual sex with another woman. Kissing/making out is not cheating, but it IS a strong indication that there is cheating in secret.

"Spending time" is not, and "Focus" is not, as there are people in a man's life that require extra "management" in order to get along in life.

[Asker]

This applies to men and women right?

[SugarSugarplum]

I'd say so.

[Asker]

Thank you for your opinion. I appreciate it 😊

[AI Opinion]

Diving headfirst into the hot tub of what defines cheating, it's like navigating a maze with no lights on – thrilling but oh so complex. Cheating, in my flirty book of love drama, goes beyond just the physical; it's also about emotional betrayal. Watching an adult film might just be a solo adventure into fantasy land for some, but if it starts replacing intimacy or becomes a sneaky act away from your partner's knowledge, red flags start waving like a matador in a bullfight.

Strutting into a strip club or subscribing to an OnlyFans could be viewed under a similar neon light – context is king. If it's behind your partner's back or replacing the connection you have, it's bordering on foul play.

Now, flipping the coin, sending those spicy videos or pictures to someone else? Oh, darling, that's setting the stage for a drama no love coach would buy tickets for. That's personal, intimate content being shared outside the relationship – a hard boundary crossed for many.

In essence, cheating could be anything that breaks the trust and agreed-upon boundaries within your relationship. Always best to keep the communication lines hotter than your last summer fling to navigate these waters. 😉

[Asker]

Isn't it kind of the same thing though?
You're indulging in your fantasy using corn. She's indulging in hers by feeling wanted by other men since her man can't satisfy that need. Both instances are only visual.

[lucas262]

I'd rather see her strip than go to some club, im no simp so I'm not buying an OF, if I watched porn I'd be very open about it.

[Summeroflove]

Either way it’s cheating also reading porn is cheating

[HighValue]

In my opinion, something that is watched passively without interaction with another person isn't cheating. (porn is the same as sex scenes in movies.

Interaction is what makes something cheating. For example, messaging others about sexual things they like or want to do, sending pictures back and forth that are not just regular pictures that would be posted publicly, commenting on each other's pictures and telling that they are sexy, hot, etc. From what I have heard on here, it sounds like onlyfans is interactive, so that would be cheating, but watching a pre-recorded anonymous video isn't. I've never been to a strip club, but from what I have seen in movies and GTA, it looks interactive with actual physical contact so I would consider that as cheating.

For physical stuff, kissing, feeling them up, sex, dancing close and grinding on them, etc. are all cheating.

[Asker]

That makes sense! Thanks for your answer 🙂

[normalice]

Proximity is a defining characteristic of Cheating, to me. If I had a girl that sent lewd pictures to a million guys, I would just think it's weird that guys are into that and maybe even be a little smug about how millions of guys want her but I get to have her.

[Asker]

So you're open to it as long as there's no touching.

[normalice]

No touching, yes. But I would say "near touching" may be a little too inviting, but could be fine depending.

[Asker]

Interesting! You're a very secure man. A lot of men would feel jealous.

[exitseven]

My wife caught me watching corn. She was very upset.

[Asker]

😂
I'm not a high enough ranking on this app to use dirty language apparently so I had to improvise.

[4ngelic]

if you do anything sexual or romantic with another person besides your girlfriend/boyfriend. like kissing, hugging (if it's not in a friendly way), holding hands, bj, sex, going on a date, sending nudes, phone sex, flirting (unless it's joking around), etc

also going to places like hooters & strip clubs, subbing to onlyfans pages, being a fan of a couple instagram thots, is kinda cheating but not full on cheating.

watching porn isn't cheating to me at all

[RubyFrench]

anything that you do that you know your partner is not comfortable with is at the end of the day, cheating.. or a form of it.

[Anonymous]

Only fans is cheating. So is getting nudes from someone else. Porn is normal. I watch porn once in a while and read erotica a lot. A strip club once or twice with the guys or girls is ok, but going all the time or going by yourself isn’t just cheating, it’s creepy.

[bowenw]

I'm not sure that the those things are equal in terms of cheating. I would say it's okay for the woman to go male strip clubs, watch corn, and pay for male OnlyFans.

[LiamJHayden]

To me, cheating is giving to another what rightly should only be given to a partner.

[Asker]

I agree to an extent.

I believe in fairness within a relationship.
If I allow a man to lead and he chooses to do these things, he's basically giving me permission to do the same. ⚖️

[Berethor]

Watching videos and doing videos is two different things, I am okay with her watching porn.

[hashmi12]

Cheating can vary depending on the relationship and its boundaries, but generally, it involves breaking trust or violating agreed-upon rules. This could include physical infidelity, emotional connections with someone else, or even secretive behaviors that go against a partner’s expectations. It often comes down to what both partners define as loyalty and commitment...

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Kissing another person in the mouth.

Sex with another person.

Looking and desiring another person.

Emotional intimate connection with another person.

[jojouzumaki]

When a person has an emotional or sexual relationship other than their commitment partner.

[Babygirl_S]

It’s cheating if he interacts with another woman in a romantic and/or sexual way. I don’t consider porn watching as cheating but visiting prostitutes for whatever services they provide is definitely cheating.

[worldscolide]

Doing anything that you feel the need to hide from your significant other with someone else.

[Twalli]

If I interact with another girl in a sexual or romantic way.

[FunkyMonkee]

She starts dating and fucking some other guy.

[Asker]

What if she has self control? Probably more than him.

[FunkyMonkee]

So far, I've never come across that.

[Mati91]

When you have to hide something from partner.

[Asker]

Men that hide porn use from their partner?

[Mati91]

Are you against porn?

[Asker]

Only when he's against other men getting off to my pics & videos. I don't like the double-standard thing.

[Mati91]

Sounds like he maybe be cheating is projecting guilt on to you to hide what he’s doing.

[jahaims]

Anything you would hide from your partner

[Asker]

A lot of men hide corn use from their girlfriends so is that cheating?

[EnjoytheDay777]

I don't watch corn a lot so that's something

[Asker]

That's a plus!

[negrl4a69]

Girl fucking another guy and vise versa

[Asker]

So you're okay to kissing and touching?

[Anonymous]

Sexting, phone sex, and anything physical.

[Asker]

I agree with anything physical.