What would you do if your best friend or friends didn't like your boyfriend or girlfriend? Have you been in such a situation? If yes, how did you act?

[Elena_Stewart]

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I've been in that situation with my absolute best bud of years when I started dating my wife and especially when we got engaged.

He had to deal with it. I'm not going to choose between him and my wife.

That said, he didn't dislike my wife, per se. Actually he really got along well with her. His issue was that I was staring to spend a lot more time with her than him. He expressed this worry to me that I will not have time to ever hang out with him once I marry.

I started to appease him by hanging out together with him and my wife at the same time. Later he actually became really close friends with her as well. He now lives in Hiroshima which is pretty far from where we live, but we hang out and visit each other at least once a year or so and all of us together (my wife included).

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

He's one of those lifelong bachelor types, 45-years old now (two years older than me), never married, with no interest in it whatsoever. He just lives for the party. We teasingly call him "Peter Pan" since he never seems to want to grow up and take on bigger responsibilities.

[Elena_Stewart]

That’s a very nice friendship👍🏻👍🏻

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Cheers! 🍻 He's certainly a fun one. My wife and I keep wondering if he'll ever get married. He's actually reasonably popular with women but has a tendency to just get a girlfriend for a couple of months and then break up and repeat.

But he was definitely quite stubborn when I started dating my wife, and had that stereotypical guy talk with me trying to question me out of my decision to marry. You know, the conventional, "You're actually going to be happy with one woman for the rest of your life?"

[Elena_Stewart]

One day he will find the one, until then if he is not with the idea of ​​marriage, I will not ask him to get married😁

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Yeah, we try not to pressure him that way! It was mostly him trying to pressure me out of marriage back then. 😅 I think he might just live to party for the rest of his life.

He is originally from Hiroshima and his parents managed to survive the atom bombing during WW2, which allowed them to receive a very generous government pension making them relatively rich. Then they give him a lot of that money monthly so he never has to work. The few times he ever tried to hold a job, he quit weeks after. So all he wants to do is party and have fun.

[Elena_Stewart]

Why do you want him to get married then, maybe you are jealous😏
Just kidding😁

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Perhaps so! 😂

[Elena_Stewart]

Oh my goodness, don’t let your wife see this😁

[handsomelad70]

If my boy of 44 years didn't like my broad, I'd put our buddyship on hold, but unless he sniped at her, I'd revisit it later.(That's if I REALY liked this gal.)

[KrakenAttackin]

@GuyAnswersGirls123. 'Peter Pan", he should tell you to GFYS.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@KrakenAttackin It's not something I ever called him, just our mutual friends. 😂 He enjoys it though to the point of calling himself that.

[NathanDavis]

yes... I've been in that situation before, lol

my best friend in high-school did not get along well with my high-school girlfriend... at first they did sort of tolerate each other and not so much drama, then one day the drama started on both sides, and they tried to get me in the middle of it... lmao

so I right away told them "NOPE" I am not going to get in the middle of you two, you two need to grow up, stop being childish and fix it... if you can't get along then at least be civilized... because I won't be pick any sides, and I won't be quitting any of you...

both or none... make it up

and then both of them walked out on me right away (=

I was friendless and girlfriendless for about a week, lmfao...

[Elena_Stewart]

Oh my goodness 😁😁😁

[NathanDavis]

both came back... after a week or so

nowadays... today, we're all great friends to one another, lmao

[Elena_Stewart]

Cool, but a very nice memory😊

[Squatting_Slav]

That's the definition of assertiveness. Well played

[ohsheeT]

that's one of the first things in the conversation that I will let it be known that I have tons of friends or people that I call friend people that call me friend and always is that true I only have a handful of really good friends and hundreds of people that we call each other friends but but the handful of friends most are girls and I will tell the girls that I'm dating the truth and we are just friends and we are good friends and she has nothing to worry about and I will introduce her to them and they will tell you the same thing but I've had that happen to me before and I would say okay well that's okay but they're still my friends and if they need something I would be there for them but you have to at least give it a try and get to know them before you actually can judge them... and if they wanted to walk away because of something like that then that just shows me how strong of a person they are in two different ways and I would accept it and I would probably become friends with that person if they wanted to remain friends

[smne35]

Whose boyfriend and girlfriend is it? Yours are your friend. Gives a damn what they think but you're not with him for them. Say that with your parents they don't like who you're dating with. Much respect to them say but I do and this is who I want in my life. I'm sorry. If you know something about doing that they're bad or something tell me. From what I've seen I'm treated good with respect and I'm happy and that's all it is. You don't do things for other people you doing for yourself. You don't get with people for other people's sake. You get with them because they make you feel good and you're comfortable and is who you want you to live for yourself. Don't be on display for anyone else. It's your life. Your happiness live it. How you want and anybody think it's your life to live as you. Please not be judged but what others think you can't please everybody and people always think always about you. Live for you. Do for you who is not satisfied or like how you do. Damn them and cut them loose. You need no jealousy response. You need those who are genuinely happy for you that you're doing what you do

[Bricealan]

Maybe not exactly what you are asking: In my 20's a girlfriend told me that her BFF told her that she "could do better than Bruce"... Of course I was hurt. (Stupid of Susan to tell me that, since it was hurtful)

A month later, I took the same girl to a wedding, and ONE OF MY women friends said to me "What are you doing with HER Bruce"? "You can do much better than her"! "Geeze she is ugly"! (sue was not ugly, and I never told her of the comment by my friend.

I guess, what goes around comes around !!

[Elena_Stewart]

She was never supposed to tell you if she loved you, it is really hurtful , but it all in the past now.

[Elena_Stewart]

Very nice of you, you didn’t tell her.

[KrakenAttackin]

@elena_stewart. He wasn't her first choice.

[Bricealan]

@KrakenAttackin I knew it, and that was one of the main reasons I did not marry her.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Bricealan. Good man.

[Bricealan]

@KrakenAttackin Never wanted to be the guy she 'settled' for

[Squatting_Slav]

I have never been in this situation before because my mates are loyal to me and respect my judgment/decisions so follow my lead. However if it were to happen I would for sure put my foot down and call them both out for making my life harder and to end mutually as I would not get involved.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I'd ditch the "friends".

If they don't like any woman I pick, they won't like me either, so they aren't friends.

[Massageman]

Just try to figure who is more important in your life- boy/girfriend or the other friends and go from there.

[katiesmuff]

It's choice's we have to make once in awhile!

[OtterMan68]

usually when that happens, they're right

[Cheerfull009]

It is my personal, I don't care others

[californianjoe]

I behave well