Why is my boyfriend and his mom against me taking weight loss supplements?

[Anastacia1989]

I had told my boyfriend that I invested in weight loss supplements and he seemed to be ok with it then as soon as I told his mom about it she was against it and since then my boyfriend is against me taking weight loss supplements and even said he would throw them out if he saw me taking them again cuz he thingks they’re going to make me “sick”….. im 20 pounds overweight and my bfs parents seem to make comments that me and my boyfriend should be going out for walks…..

so what’s the problem here? Why is my boyfriend so opposed to it?

Jealously of me becoming attractive to other guys

Doesn’t want me getting sick

Both /other - please explain

[Effably]

To me it reads like this:

Boyfriend supports you because well, he likes and supports you.

His mom who knows more about these supplements, or thinks she does, shares list of side effects with him. She does not want you to risk these.

Your boyfriend, now worried these effects will harm you, does not want you to use this method.

They both just seem to care. I assume they told you about the possible side effects too. While they always differ they are often real.

Reality of weight loss is both simple and complex. Most supplements do not actually so much except ease hunger. They are in that way risks that bring no tangible benefit except maybe making it easier to skip a meal.

Very few people specializing in weight loss would ever suggest you take supplements. My go-to suggestion is always simple: Start walking. 30 minutes a day. Leisurely at first then briskly. Do this every day.
Paired with this, don't eat outside of meals and stick to a healthy diet. Its okay to have a snack on the weekend, just not always.

That's all it takes. Yes it will take a year. Maybe two. And then you are in good shape. The benefit of this slow approach is manifold. From health benefits rather than risk to things such as less or no loose skin.

Its about a few good habits every day. It is not easy. But often putting a pen and papert at your door with a "Walked today: [ ] that you can turn into an [ X ] does more than supplements.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that is kinda weird that your boyfriend and his mom flipped like that after being okay with the supplements before. A few thoughts on why they might be against it:

- Weight loss supplements can sometimes have side effects they're worried about, like impacting your health or something. Sometimes people do get sick from them.

- His parents may think you shouldn't need to lose weight and want you to feel confident as you are. They don't wanna see you obsess over your body.

- Or they're just super overprotective and don't like the idea of you changing anything about yourself. Parents, amiright?

- Your boyfriend might be worried you'll like your body less if/when you lose weight and won't be as attracted to him. Or think you'll ditch him for "better options."

Maybe have a calm talk with your boyfriend alone to understand where he's really coming from. Reassure him you love yourself and your relationship. As for the parents, just ignore their comments - you do you, girl! At the end of the day it's your body and choice what you do with it. Don't let anyone make you feel bad. Just do your research on safe supplements and don't overdo it. You got this!

[kiara23]

I went on appetite suppressants to lose weight as what I was doing wasn't working anymore. Lost 10kg but hit a wall for 6 months before I took them. They are working slowly but surely, and my partner supports them but his parents don't. They are so shocked (positively) at the weight loss but the suppressants definitely have an image linked to eating disorders which they see.

I think they are judging you taking them thinking you'll develop an eating disorder.

Otherwise, they are jealous you're making a positive change for yourself that you'll be better than them in someway

[rosemilk]

because they're not good for you. and the reason your boyfriend changed his mind is because he didn't know much about those pills until his mom told him the truth. i just think the people who care about you would rather have you lose weight a more healthier way than pills. it has nothing to do with jealousy of becoming attractive.

[molonski2]

You are overweight , and you certainly need to be doing something about it , diet and exercise are the keys , but you can use these supplements to start off. But look , this guy of yours is a softcock , he was fine with it , until his stupid mother commented.

Tell this guy to go " Grow a pair " and defend your thoughts a bit more , rather than just following his mother all the time , he has issues.

[loveslongnails]

Most weight loss supplements are a waste of money, so I can see that angle. If you're going to try one, make sure you do as much research as possible on the product, and only buy it if it gives you a full, money back guarantee, even if you use it all. I don't think it's a potential jealousy issue. I think your boyfriend is a momma's boy and she still has control over how he thinks.

[Anastacia1989]

He lives on his own and he’s independent so how is he a mamas boy?

[loveslongnails]

Because he changed his mind and took his mama's side once he found out she was against it, instead of supporting you! Just because he lives on his own doesn't mean he's not a momma's boy. Odd that you chose to address that part of the question instead of confirming if you did any research on the product or its return policy?

[spartan55]

@loveslongnails
Do you REALLY think she did ANY research or due diligence on those products? Magic 8 🎱 ball says... NO.

[loveslongnails]

@spartan55 I don't think so at all, I was just saying she should have. I'd wager she bought the one that promised to lose the most weight fastest and advertised "no side effects". LOL

[Anastacia1989]

I did my research first of all and secondly I’m going to be taking to my doctor about it as well

[JacobJordan]

Why don't you go for walks? Weight loss supplements aren't great for your body. I am saying this as a biochemist who has studied the effect of various chemicals and chemical compounds on the blood and on people. If you want to lose weight have 3 meals a day 2 snacks. Ensure your meals are not large. Exercise for up to 2 hours. You want to put yourself in a calorie deficit and you will lose weight without having to resort to things like weight loss pills

[Massageman]

Get a good exercise plan started and then begin some moderate diet modification without weight loss supplements. I would, however, take vitamin and mineral supplements, just not any weight loss supplement. I would worry about the need for your body to "require" them to keep the weight low artificially, potential side effects, and the heinous cost of most of them which give sketchy results at best.

[Likes2drive]

They are not good especially if you’re only 20 over, you can probably do it with out pills, those things are dangerous because they can cause heart problems or make you sick so he is worried about you and I’m sure his mom made him more worried

[OddBeMe]

Uhh, “investing”? What does that mean?

I’m always suspicious of supplements that claim to cause weight loss. A person loses weight by eating better food, thus less calories and exercising which expends more calories.

There are no elixirs that will help this. You can do “protein” shakes, or other dietary supplements. But “weight loss investment “ sounds suspicious.

[TonyV]

Well 20 pounds isn't a huge hurdle to over come, the drugs might make you sick, the safer more natural option is to go on walks or jogs.

Taking mystery drugs to loose 20 pounds when you haven't tried going on walks sounds lazy and dumb to me.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Most of those are horrible for your heart and they don't replace bad habits. Do some cardio and establish a caloric deficit and lose it the right way.

[spartan55]

Oh yeah... it always comes to back to jealousy... so stupid.
You are 34 years old and entertaining comments from your boyfriend's parents? Wow...

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm not really sure. But why is he threatening to throw them away? That seems a bit extra. They're yours. You paid for them. He doesn't have a right to touch your stuff.

[Anastacia1989]

He thinks they’re gonna make me sick….

[Jamie05rhs]

Doesn't matter. That doesn't give him the right to throw them away. You could sell them on eBay and make money.

[Sevenpointfive]

i have a really good idea. tell them you stopped.

and continue taking them. and get a new guy when you get hot

[RedInnocent68]

Probably think you already look fine, and are worried about your health.

[Anonymous]

They are full of caffeine if they are legal probably amphetamine if not

[Celticwolf78]

Because they don't want you to feel good about yourself

[jahaims]

Because they aren't healthy