If you forgive someone, do you have to speak to them again?

[Anonymous]

[Cody2004]

Well my girlfriend cheated on me I'm not going to forgive her for that especially because I refused to date and then when I do that shit happens so personally depending on how bad it is maybe but most likely fuck no lol forgive my vulgar language still trying to deal with that bullshit

[Drew-1990]

No you do not, forgive and forget is not true. You can forgive someone but it doesn't mean you will forget. I had a guy who completely screwed me over with a girl. I forgave him eventually but I lost all respect for him and could never trust him again.

[Account]

No, you don't have to. Forgiving someone is more about yourself rather than about others.
It aids into no longer holding onto negative feelings regarding the situation.

You don't have to see or to speak to them again ever if you don't want to.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

^^ This: this is also how we define forgiveness in Japan. It doesn't necessarily mean taking the person back or giving them second chances. It just means we let go of any grudges and vengeful thoughts towards them, to avoid doing this:

[Account]

Although it is difficult for me to forgive, I think that is how it should be. We deserve peace and calm. The only thing I have managed so far is to be fully indifferent towards them after some time.
I also I agree fully with the image you provided!

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Cheers! Indifference might actually suffice. I just see it like we want to reach a state where our judgment isn't clouded so that we can make decisions that aren't governed by strong passions. I often see that as one of the distinguishing factors between vengeance and justice. Vengeance operates on strong passions. Justice operates on principles and rationally asking what's best for society.

[sheikalana]

Depends on who the person is. I would probably not initiate conversation but I wouldn't ignored them if they asked me whatever.

[JacobJordan]

You forgive someone for you. You don't forgive them for them. Had a rather unpleasant experience with someone trying to kill me with a shovel. I don't care to waste time being mad or getting revenge so I forgave him. I told him and then said if he tried that again I'd cut his fucking head off and put in a jar. Haven't seen him since.

[newboy78]

Yeah, why not give them a chance by not making them feel guilty for what they did. If you stop talking, whenever they see you they will feel guilty because you guys stopped talking of what they did.

But after giving a chance by forgiving and talking back to them and if they do the same mistake again, then you need to have the person away from you.

[SoJust]

When we forgive someone, we may not be in the same intimacy with him again, which is very difficult for me, I don't forgive the person here, if I'm upset, I forgive myself, I can't go down the same path as that person again, which is very difficult for me

[ChicoFromThe305]

No forgiveness is letting go of any grudges or hatred you have stored in your heart for whatever situation it may be, it's where forgive and forget comes from, it doesn't mean second chances, that's something else.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

It’s easier to forgive but not forget & it’s your choice when it comes to speaking. As for life it moves on & if truth be told I think you should move on & move forward as well.

[slatyb]

No, you don't. It's not a transaction. Also you don't owe people forgiveness. If you are ending the relationship, then you haven't really forgiven them and that's ok.

[ManOnFire]

No, not at all. Forgiving them means you aren't holding on to what they did anymore, you're not letting it make you angry. But that doesn't mean you have to talk or be their friend anymore.

[DJB72]

No. Forgiveness does not establish or restore relationship. There's no obligation to speak to someone again.

[MemeSupreme]

no bc forgiving someone is for yourself

they don't even gotta know you forgave them

[Alwayreckles93]

I seriously dont undesirable why society expects forgives. This really aggrebates me.

[Daniela1982]

Some say I can forgive, but will not forget and fall for it again. I guess no second chances.

[ProbablyClueless]

You don't have to actually talk with them, but you do need to have the ability to have a rational conversation.

[bobby_bush_eater]

Nope. Sometimes it can be good for closure between two people but that doesn't mean things can go back to the way they were or you have any expectation to associate with them.

[DreamLife7]

You're 25-29 years old asking this question. Why? You're too old to be asking such an immature , insecure , common sense question. We're u abused as a child?

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Nope. I always forgive quickly cos I can't hold grudges lol but that doesn't mean I want to talk to someone that did me wrong. I just let go and move on.

[LiamJHayden]

No. Forgiveness has to do with punishment for a past offense, but in no way necessitates opening oneself up for a repeat.

[Anonymous]

Think about it for a minute - who is forgiveness for primarily, yourself, the offender or both? Is forgiveness giving someone a do-over, or is it just a way for either or both of you to move on separately?

[CozyCoffin]

Of course not. It's your choice for you to decide if you want to.

[Massageman]

Once you forgive them, the next move is theirs. Base your response on that.

[krafty_Ngro]

I know that this sounds abit cringey but you can forgive but never forget which means you don’t have to talk to them at all. Unless you do want another relationship with that person.