How do attractive AND socially awkward people get treated by society compared to socially adept people?

[Anonymous]

What kinds of obstacles do they experience due to their looks paired with lacking social skills? Have you ever witnessed this? What kind of assumptions do people make on them?

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I'm not sure if I was so attractive, but one thing I noticed a lot as a shy and socially awkward teenager was that many people thought I was mean and cold-hearted and had no interest in them.

I heard from my little sister, for example, that many of her friends who met me in school told her that I was so cold and uninterested in them when my intentions were the polar opposite. Yet being shy and reserved must have inadvertently given them the impression that I had no interest in talking to them.

Once I started overcoming my shyness in uni, everything changed for the better. Started making some real friends and not acquaintances, dates, got a girlfriend, etc. I don't think anyone these days could ever mistake me as someone mean and cold-hearted.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Something also in my case is that I had resting bitch face. People used to constantly ask me, "Are you okay?" Me: "Yep, why?" Person: "You look really angry/upset." So maybe that contributed to why people thought I was so mean and cold-hearted if I had a look on my face all the time that looked angry or upset.

Oddly after I started getting over my shyness, my whole body language changed radically to the point where I developed what people now call resting happy face with people constantly asking me, "Why are you so cheerful today?" Me: "I'm not." 😂 But people treat me way better nowadays.

[Anonymous]

For men, usually, you are treated like garbage and are made fun of.

For women, usually, other women will support them and even like every single one of their posts on X or social media sites. They will be seen as cute and dorky. So for you, it should be fine.

[Asker]

Ok then apparently I must be ugly since women don’t like me

[Opinion Owner]

No, it is because you don't put yourself out there. If you did, you would 100s of guys asking you out. You're a woman, so getting people to like you should be very easy unless you are not doing anything or avoiding men who think they are beneath you. I am sure I had guys in my friends before.

[Opinion Owner]

If all you do is hang out with women who are assholes then that's all you are going to see.