I’m currently staying with my boyfriend’s parents for a week (first time meeting them). There is an en-suite in the room with a dodgy boiler. My boyfriend told me a servicing man was coming in the morning to look at it. My phone died in the evening and I couldn’t charge it. So I had no alarm clock. So in the morning, instead of waking me up when he got up, he woke up and left me sleeping. The service man showed up and the next thing I know they come barging into the bedroom and start talking very loudly in the bathroom. It was like a bull storming into a china shop. The serviceman, my boyfriend and his parents were all in the bedroom. And I woke up with a start because of the noise and commotion. I just had to hide under the blankets until they left. Thankfully it was only 3 minutes or so. But still I felt like a boundary had been crossed. I don’t like people coming into the room while I’m sleeping, especially strangers! I also could have been naked. Bear in mind we are in India so that could have been a shock for the old guy coming to fix the boiler. When my boyfriend came in alone I had a quiet go at him and said ‘could you not have said “wait a minute, let me check if my partner’s awake” or something to that effect’. He said that he did check if I was decent. And I said ‘that’s not the point! It’s about boundaries and consideration for my privacy’. I’m so frickin irritated at his inconsideration. I’m not his brother who doesn’t mind people coming into his room, I’m his romantic partner, and sometimes I think he forgets about that. I wish he’d just be more considerate of my boundaries. I’m also PMSing which doesn’t help, and he knows this. WHY do men always do inconsiderate stuff when women are in their luteal phase? WHY? He is generally a considerate person, but when he does stupid sh*t, generally it’s when I’m hormonal AF. Anyway what do you think, did he cross a boundary? He did apologise but I’m still peeved off.
2 mo
Boyfriend is inconsiderate of my privacy, would this annoy you?
