Should I feel guilty about wanting him to come over?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend and I agreed that he would come to my place on wednesdays for dinner as Im at his almost every weekend. I asked him if he was coming tonight to which he said it works better for him to come tomorrow night. We arnt big on valentines day but thought it be nice to just hang out. I told him this and he said "okay if its what you want, ill come" I feel bad now because i feel like I'm forcing him to come when he clearly didn't want to. Now its bothering me and I dont know if its just going to mess up the evening...

How do i go about this as i feel guilty for "forcing" him to come over tonight when he wanted to come tomorrow?

[Oliverlogan263]

Don't feel guilty, girl! It's totally normal to want to see your man, especially on Valentine's. But I can understand why you'd feel bad if it seems like he wasn't that into the idea.

Here's what I'd do - send him a quick text saying something like "No pressure babe, if tomorrow works better then that's cool too. I don't wanna force you to change your plans if you've already got something going on." Reassure him it's no big deal either way.

Chances are he'll still come over to make you happy. But this takes the guilt off both of you. Maybe he's just tired from work or something simple. Don't overthink it!

If he does come over, make sure to thank him and let him know you appreciate the effort. A nice dinner and some cuddles should turn that frown upside down. But please, don't stress yourself feeling bad. You've both gotta compromise sometimes in relationships. Hopefully you guys can find a good middle ground.

Either way, don't let this small thing ruin your night! You've got nothing to feel guilty about - just communicate openly like always. I'm sure everything will work out just fine.

[Asker]

Great answer, I ended up doing this exact thing and he told me when he got to mine that Sometimes he is super busy but he knows how much this means to me and put his own things aside and is glad he did because we had a lovely evening.

[Oliverlogan263]

That's awesome boo, I'm glad it worked out well for you guys! It's cool that you just talked to him casually about it instead of making a big deal. Good thing he was honest with you that he's been busy too, communication is important. And it's really nice that he was willing to come over anyways cuz he knows you wanted to see him. You've gotta find that balance where you both compromise and make time for each other. Sounds like you had a really nice Valentine's Day together then if he said he's glad he put his stuff aside. It's always good to hear when your girlfriend appreciates you making an effort for her. Good for you two for working it out!

[Billlewis]

You should never feel guilty about making a guy do anything, because that's the way it should be, always;)

[AngryCarl]

What kind of a guy doesn't want to spend time with his girlfriend?

[Asker]

A busy one lol... No he works long hours and he makes time for me a lot but it does get hectic in the middle of the week to see eachother.