Yesterday, when talking about our days, my girl mentioned that at work they were talking about me but that they do not know who I am. My girl said at work they call me mike from the gym. I asked her why this was & she told me that she doesn't want people knowing about her private life.
'Background: so my girlfriend works as an outsourced auditor. So she visits around the different locations in which I am part of. So she visits the same 10 locations once a month.
To which I said, "everybody at each location knows who I am & that we are together, apart from sea view"
she then said that she told the manager at sea view when asked who she was dating, that she was dating a guy called mike from the gym.
I said "how come"
She said she didn't want any 'grief' from him.
I said "why are you bothered, about what he thinks?"
She said I'm not but just don't want loads of questions being asked.
I then asked how her own manager knew about the mike from the gym thing & she said the manager from sea view had spoken to her manager, asking who he was.
I said, why does this manager speak with your manager. She then said he calls about work. I then said is your dating life work? She then went silent.
The conversation made me feel angry because 1 I felt like I'm being hidden & don't understand why. Then 2 I know this manager from sea view has a reputation with women & that makes me feel uncomfortable.
I've tried understand why I feel this way & am frustrated because it's affected how me & my girl have communicated last night & this morning.
I guess I feel threatened by this guy, but don't know what to do to feel better about it?