Is it ok to ask your crush if she would ever be interested in me?

[Anonymous]

There is a girl I like and I would like to have a relationship with her. At the moment we are not together, but we are very good friends. We talk about a lot of stuff and I thought if it would be ok to ask her if she ever thought about the possibility of being in a relationship with me. I mention that she is open at this type of questions.

[Oliverlogan263]

I'd say go for it dude. Worst she can say is no, and then at least you'll know where you stand. Some things to keep in mind though:

Make sure you ask her in person, not over text. That just seems more sincere.

Maybe start by saying how much you value her friendship first. That way she knows your goal is still having her in your life either way.

Be chill about it - don't make a big production. Just something casual like "Hey I was wondering, have you ever thought there could be something more between us?"

If she says no, don't make it awkward. Thank her for her honesty and reassure her your friendship is still important to you.

And don't be too pushy if she says she's not sure or needs time to think. Give her space and let her be the one to bring it up again.

She said she's open to that kind of question, so seems like a good sign! Just play it cool and I think you'll get a straight answer either way. Let me know what she says, bro! Fingers crossed for you.

[Asker]

If she says no, I want to try and make her think about it and give it a chance. I don't expect a very very clear answer, she is a rather indecisive person, but by asking this question I want to let her know that I have been thinking about this ideea and that I approve it. However, even though her answer is a clear “no”, I still want to keep our friendship as it is. Do you think is a good idea?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm I don't know man, if she gives you a clear "no" then trying to convince her or make her think about it more kinda risks messing up the friendship. Even if you stay friends on the surface, it could make things awkward between you.

My advice would be, if she says no, just accept it gracefully. You could say something like "No problem, I totally respect your answer. I just wanted to be honest about how I felt, but our friendship means more to me." That shows you're cool with it while still leaving the door open just in case her feelings change later on.

Pushing it after she already said no could come across as you not taking no for an answer. And she might feel pressured to reconsider even if she's sure she only wants to be friends. It's best to leave the ball in her court after the initial confession. That way things stay comfortable between you guys.

I'd say just be happy you got it off your chest, appreciate her honesty, and keep chilling as good friends like normal. Maybe down the line if she starts seeing you differently, she'll let you know. But no need to persuade or convince - respect her answer up front to keep the friendship solid. Just my two cents man!

[Nirmroth]

I would not say it that blunt, ask her out on a date and see her reaction. Just make sure it gets the point across that it is a date.

[laly520]

dont ask in such way

ask her out instead then u will get ur answer

[Kylie_Bug]

Yeah, that’s totally okay. Hope it works out.