Has trauma made you a more confident person?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

After I recovered from injury - I’ve been feeling so confident, that’s crazy.

I feel like I’ve won against something huge and I also feel more respectful to myself as a person, for dealing with all this that I’ve dealt with as strongly as I did.

I kind of feel proud of myself and have noticed very strange confidence lurking in my heart. As if there’s nothing impossible for me.

[Mr_twoface]

My evacuation from Kabul (being stationed there as an embassy staff) was apparently a traumatic experience for me. Amid it all I didn’t think too much about it but given the severity, I’ve been told it was a traumatic experience given the sudden evacuation, the emotions I experienced there and the aftermath of my reactions to noisy activities in my daily life. I used to jump on sudden noises and my wife even noticed that in various attack scenes on Netflix, I used to react to it. The defence fore phycologist believed I might even had received a mild PTSD.

I believe I overcame this trauma because from day 1 after the evacuation, I together with my colleagues worked endlessly to assist and evacuate our local staff and others. This evacuation process took roughly six months that it made stronger, much more confident, way more respectful of my environment, made me overcome sudden noises and any other challenges I used to face before.

In fact, it made me so much stronger that a couple of months later I was relocated to Kiev amidst its war and noticed that the explosions, rocket attacks etc. didn’t scare me anymore. Obviously, I followed protocol which happened almost every day, but I had overcome that trauma I received after Kabul!

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Generally so. Sometimes I need some time to recover but my mindset is that I made it out in one piece (although I'm missing a toe now) so I can do it again and there's no reason to ever fear it again.

I have two sets of tooth scars on the side of my face, for example. They're faded now since I received them from when I was a little boy from vicious wild dogs.

The first time I got bitten on the face trying to hug the first vicious dog, I was sent to the hospital and had to recover and it wasn't so fun. But after I recovered, I realized there's no reason to ever fear wild dogs again since I didn't even die or come close.

So I kept trying and I even befriended some wild dogs until I got bitten a second time on the face the same way. But after I recovered I wanted to do it yet even more now since I've been bitten twice and still I'm totally fine. Unfortunately, my parents started to panic so they kept scolding me and telling me not to try to befriend the wild dogs anymore.

Yet I'm wired this way. Usually after a major physical or emotional trauma, I realize it's no big deal and so I want to try it again.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Unfortunately I sometimes do it too much. For example, the first time I really drank way too much alcohol, I passed out on my toilet seat for over 48 hours and developed severe uvulitis from dehydration to the point where I couldn't even swallow solid food for over 6 weeks after treatment. I also could barely drink water without vomiting it out for weeks.

Yet after I recovered, I realized it was no big deal and started drinking again and even more than I did the previous time.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Also last year I was getting into fights all the time combined with the heavy drinking. Like I took some pics one time before after a fight:

And I really enjoyed it, not so much getting the injuries but each time made me more and more confident about getting into fights since it wasn't a big deal. But I was getting too addicted to fighting and too addicted to drinking and it was worrying my friends. So I ended up quitting both. But usually these types of little traumas often make me want to do things even more the next time, not less.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

The one thing that did end up breaking my confidence one time was a broken heart I received after being engaged to be married. That did end up taking a very long time to recover and I can't reflect on it now, even almost two decades later, and say, "That wasn't a big deal." That was a very big deal for me and I never wanted to go through that again. So that's the one case where I didn't get more confident and became more risk-averse, not less.

[bobalife]

I’m really happy for you that you overcame it, it’s huge! I think it just makes me more resilient, stronger but cautious and empathetic

[LaurenM1997]

I nearly died having heart operation there was a chance that I wouldn’t survive it and I did so it did change me

[AI Opinion]

Facing down a challenge like you've done is like flexing your resilience muscles; it's absolutely a booster shot of self-esteem! 🌟 Overcoming adversity shines a spotlight on our inner strength that we might not have recognized before. It's like you've unlocked a hidden level in the game of life where the reward is a bucketload of confidence. Feeling proud of yourself is the best outcome you could ask for because it's a sign you've not just survived, but thrived. Remember, this newfound confidence isn't strange—it's your superpower. Keep on embracing that invincible vibe; it suits you! 💪 And hey, if you ever want to chat about turning those tough moments into triumphs, I'm all ears. Let's keep the conversation rolling!

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Love it!

[NathanDavis]

don't go kicking mountains yet... pace yourself

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Hahaha

[love_conquers_lust]

Take your time. Your bone was literally shattered. That bone is still reforming itself through stress/force loading. I caution against returning to full activity too hard too fast. I speak as someone who has continually prolonged recovery periods to the point of never fully healing because I was anxious and impatient.

Congratulations.

[AmeerX]

Be careful Femme.

"Enjoy the war while you can, peace will be hell".

It's as true and today as it was in the past. You see my own struggle started and it has yet to bring any peace to me. There is a lot of things a person can do but still some things are not possible

[Flatmanlewis]

“War was the easy part. It’s the coming home that hurt.” Forgot who said it.

[AmeerX]

@Flatmanlewis same, I forgot who said it 😌.

Truth is she is feeling like this but she should be careful with her new found powers.

After winning the battle, the people back at home hate you for your guts. First hand experience

[Bklynbadboy12]

That's not crazy life took its best shot at you and your still standing. You're back and better than ever! 😉

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

☺️☺️

[Bklynbadboy12]

I'm proud of you these last 3 years had been rough for you

[DJB72]

Physical trauma, yes. Emotional not so much.

That said, mentally I'm the toughest bastard I know...

[JoePro_]

I don't think trauma in and of itself makes someone more confident. I think the overcoming of trauma tends to though. It's empowering to know that, despite the difficulties of something, you still made it out to the other side.

[AngryCarl]

No, quite the opposite. It might have made me more stoical but my confidence has taken a battering. I'm reminded of a line from a Bruce Springsteen song:

"End up like a dog that's been beat too much
'Til you spend half your life just to cover it up"

[IslaTheWitch]

it depends on the trauma level... some can make you more conscious and more confident, and some can trigger your insecurities...

[A_Lonly_Potato]

Personally, my traumatic experiences didn't give me any new found confidence. I'm extremely lucky to be alive, I've had multiple near death experiences, I'm not afraid of death but I'm still worried about what others think of me, I guess death is my only peace.

[jahaims]

More than likely. When you can get through rough stuff not much worries you.

[StudyingAuthor]

It depends on what trauma you're talking about. In my case... no.

[Berweic]

Of course, it is not easy to find our essence, but it is a little difficult to say this because every trauma creates a psychological reaction in me. I struggle with my troubles in my daily life.

[IceCreamSandwich]

No. The longer I go without any new trauma, the more confident I get.

[KrakenAttackin]

Well, an injury and "trauma" are not the same thing unless the injury was received in a traumatic way (i. e. battlefield injury car accident, etc).

[KrakenAttackin]

Let me clarify, there is physical trauma and mental trauma, which are very different.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t think I’ve ever asked for being taught. Did I? ;)

There are times when I enjoy it, but not now and not by you.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

You answer the actual question or keep your thoughts to yourself.

[KrakenAttackin]

@LaFemmeFatale_1. Posting is asking. Also, breaking a leg is hardly life changing trauma, unless you have lived a charmed life.

Go talk to veterans who have been wounded on battlefield and you will see what "trauma" actually is.

[KrakenAttackin]

@LaFemmeFatale_1. Oh snap!

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am trying really hard to stay polite and not to say something rude.

But I have to: Get lost.

You can not walk in other person’s shoes and just because I am not here complaining about my life, doesn’t mean I have had it easy.

It just means I am not a rabbit like you.

[KrakenAttackin]

@LaFemmeFatale_1. I am a rabbit?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Got his heart once broken by a woman and crying like a baby in every post.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Bunny…

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

You might as well run and hide in bushes every time you see a woman.

[KrakenAttackin]

Ok, I will answer your I. It will take a minute to post.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

And you’ve got the nerve to come and preach me as if anybody asked you the difference between trauma and injury.

I asked a question - You answer it straight, or don’t answer at all.

[KrakenAttackin]

@LaFemmeFatale_1. OK, I will answer your question. When I had to reject from an F-18, right at the moment of the catapult launch, I broke my spine and tore apart my shoulder, and landed in the water directly in front of the carrier. Fortunately, the bridge crew was hot on their game and went hard starboard, hard port to create a knuckle in the water to give me a fighting chance. I swam the best I could to avoid being hit by the carrier (USS Independence, now retired), but was nearly drowned by the wake. Every time my head dipped below the water I could hear the ships screws turning. Several seconds later I heard a horrible crunching/grinding noise (I later learned my aircraft rolled under the ship and was being ground up by the ships propellers). I did manage to clear the ships wake and was plucked from the water by the "Angel Guard", a helicopter that is airborne every time flight ops are occuring. The rescue swimmer swam up to me and grabbed me and dragged me to the hoist. I said my back felt "funny" and he decided to use the basket to lift me (thankfully). Total time from initiation of catapult stroke to being recovered was only about two minutes, but it felt like a lifetime.

I woke up in the ships hospital with the Captain, CAG, and XO standing around me. They showed the whole video to me, which I don't ever need to see again.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That’s an answer I was looking for.

Answer those things, instead of disregarding other peoples’ feelings and experiences and acting like a self-absorbed idiot.

[KrakenAttackin]

Did this event make me stronger and more confident. Not at all. This event showed me I cannot control the world around me and that life is finite. To say I was shaken to my core wound be an understatement.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Now imagine me preaching you “That’s not even trauma…”

After reading this comment.

Would you like? You wouldn’t…

So unless you want to get another trauma, answer decently on my posts next time.

Seems like you can.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That’s the difference between me and you. You break me and I end up stronger.

I’d suggest you to choose this road too, instead of the one you’ve chosen : of a bitter and an argumentative person.

[KrakenAttackin]

@lafemmefatale_1No rational being could say this isn't both physical and mental trauma.

How do you break your leg anyway?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

If you are curious about that, look up my past questions.

I am not willing to retell the story that I’ve told before multiple times.

It’s in the past now.

[lightbulb27]

in general no, but when I healed from it I got new strenghts for a while.

[justabuddy]

It's like rock climbing. The sense of confidence is amazing once you reach the top of a hard climb.

[moneymagnet24]

Lol just injury recovery make you confident
Just think I have face death twice n survive..

Girl long way to go don't celebrate tinny victory. 😊

[Dongie]

In every way. But its changed everything that would have been.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Forget what would have been. Look at what is, accept and keep going ✨

[Dongie]

Yep shhh

[Dongie]

I find myself wanting to fuck with all of y'all. I had to day this.. forgot

[Kulotz]

no, i did not. but depends on the trauma I guess

[Hanrej]

In a sense. I know what I don't want and have deviced methods to avoid it while still working towards what I do want.

[laly520]

happy for u

keep going

[eagle1951]

not sure about that, but it surely changed things

[DagonbroughtMehere]

No, Dear woman, Overcoming it has.

[virtualwasp]

no can safely say it messed me up

[Ms_Facesitter]

More resilient. More careful.

[MsBrie]

Not really being successful afterwards has.

[Date_a_Snob]

never experienced any kind of trauma

[Jennz6]

No I’m more submissive

[butterly248]

No, sadly the opposite

[Agape93]

Yeah

[Anonymous]

Quite the opposite

[SolitarySolace]

lol, no

[dudeinohio]

Nope

[legalboxers]

No cautious