Why does no contact increase attraction?

[LadiesFavoriteToy]

Me and this girl talk on and off but over time we became closer and closer. Then I stopped talking to her then Christmas rolled around and she said Merry Christmas after maybe 4 months of me being off social media. She was thrilled to hear me as I was with her. But I kept my head down and worked hard, I did things with my life and she saw that too. She started calling me "love" and using emojis with hearts and kisses. However we live so far apart from one another and have never seen one another in person.

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

People always want what they can't have - popular idioms exemplify this: "keeping up with the joneses" and "grass is greener on the other side." If I showered you with attention, it would become a baseline and perhaps interpreted as 'he's clingy,' 'he's suffocating me,' or my personal favorite: 'he's love bombing me.' Whereas with the dichotomy, little contact, your controlled interactions would only show off your strengths. Her imagination would go wild and the idea of you would become an addiction for her.

[lightbulb27]

Because the mind fantasizes and perfects. Why does going without water increase desire for same? There is a thirst to quench. Deep inside there is a biological design to it.
Try senyimg your need… hahahahaha.
Solution is reality projected and real replacement if can't secure that well!

[IslaTheWitch]

it doesn't. in general, no contact means no interest and people move on... with exceptions. Those exceptions are people who don't believe they can find someone to love and be loved by. People with insecurities... They will wait for you... for anyone who will return to them and show them some feelings...

Of course... I can be mistaken, she can be genuine about her feelings...

[MzAsh]

It doesn’t increase attraction. It triggers anxious attachment in insecure girls or girls otherwise in a scarcity mentality. And since you don’t really know each other, she’s clinging to validation so it’s got nothing to do with you.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Aiming to sprinkle a bit of wisdom on the magic of "no contact," it's pretty fascinating how it can sometimes revamp attraction, isn't it? It's all about creating a sense of mystery and making the heart grow fonder by absence. When you take a step back, it gives both of you space to miss each other and reflect on your feelings. It seems like during your time apart, you’ve been living your best life, leveling up, which is seriously attractive. It showcases confidence, ambition, and growth—all superbly enticing characteristics.

Now, here's where it gets interesting. Your digital darling's use of pet names and affectionate emojis? That's her lane of showing interest has accelerated; she's clearly feeling the vibes. But, considering you've never met in person, this excitement is sprinkled with a bit of the unknown, adding an extra layer of allure to your connection.

Remember, though, while the no-contact rule can indeed spark attraction, genuine connections thrive on communication. So, if you're both feeling this magnetic pull, exploring ways to shorten that distance, even just through a video call, might be the thrilling next chapter you're destined for. 😉 Ready to take that leap or curious for more insights into the enchanting world of relationships? Holler at me!

[Pinay_ako]

Absence makes the heart go fonder. But also no contact makes you get over someone. It could go both ways.

[CallmeTheKnight]

It’s not so much the no contact, but more so time changes many things. She may have gotten some help with some matters of her own that didn’t involve you. She may have been keeping tabs on you to see what you’re up to through social media. Or perhaps she just missed you. As time passes, so does matters of the past.
Another thing, you stopped talking to her for what reason? The distance? Or lost interest?

[Anonymous]

Eddie Murphy explained this in standup he did a long time ago. We have a way of idolizing people when we like them and they're not around to f*** that up with reality.🤣

https://www.youtube.com/embed/gtuYiAMX65I

[didichi]

I think it just has to do with Insecurities or that they know you’ll accept them back since you have a good heart. I may be wrong but just my opinion since I had an experience.

[Overandunder89]

The allure of catching something/someone elusive is a very powerful motivator for some. Be careful though because people who are driven by this almost always lose interest once they capture what has evaded them.

[Joshydavid25]

Well, basically it's the opposite of out of sight out of mind.. Obviously she liked you enough before but time made her heart grow fonder for you.. Obviously she probably started wondering how you were doing, and whatnot..

[grega239]

This "no contact" seems to only work for a few.

I've been no contact for years with every woman I've ever met and I've never ever recieved a text or call.

So i doubt no contact is the only factor here

[bobalife]

Personally not me, less contact decrease my interest and attraction.

[Vegasrunner]

Women's main currency is attention take it away from them and they struggle

[DreamLife7]

She has no one to use lol. She doesn't like u She just doesn't have someone to talk to when she's bored and when the guy she likes isn't available

[LiamJHayden]

Does it? If she goes no contact with me, I move on and don't look back.

[Lara_Croft]

with distance the heart grows fonder

[WhitneySnow]

She missed you when you disappeared

[Lokiion]

Curiosity more than likely

[Anonymous]

Absence makes the heart grow fonder as they say

[Anonymous]

It doesn't.