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Actually, the no contact strategy is useful as a reset switch. Essentially, it helps you forget about all the negativity and come to terms with them. There is no specific time period for a no contact. You'll know it's over when you don't feel as bad about them as you used to. It also takes care of any unhealthy little obsessions or infatuation that might have developed in the relationship.
The thing about no contact is, while negative feelings might be more intense, they tend to fade quicker than the positive ones. As a result, at the end of no contact, the individuals in a former relationship can take their time and come out of it with a calmer mind, and a lack of hatred towards the other. From there, it is quite easy to make decisions about whether to get back together or not. Most of the times, people do get back together and stronger unless the problem lay elsewhere.
If you're wondering whether it's gonna be easy to have minimal contact while seeing their face everyday, it's actually easier than no contact. Looking at someone and purposely making least necessary contact possible not only is easier, but it also makes the healing process faster. You don't think about them so much, and you don't read too much into their actions.
That being said, the success of no contact depends upon you facing the facts, thinking less about them, and coming to terms with whatever you've had. It's a personal space to solve problems in. At the end, if your significant other did like you, they would initiate contact again. If they didn't, move on. That's what the no contact period is for, after all.
The less you see or have contact with him, the faster you get past this. You want to stop having things happen that make you think of what you are dealing with. It's much harder when you have constant reminders. Do your best and don't dwell on thoughts you might have when you can't avoid him. Think about something else immediately. It may be hard, but is important if you want to get though it as fast as possible.
You're describing "lust", and this is a direct result of pheromones. Nature is telling you that of all the males around you, this one would produce the strongest and most healthy babies. If course, this is purely in the physical sense, and had zero to do with his character or personality.
You can eventually "train" your body that this person isn't for sex as it gets used to their scent and doesn't get that itch scratched. But if you ever did have sex with them, that need would come back with vengeance until and unless you allowed him to impregnate you. If you were to be around him while pregnant with another man's baby inside you, for example, that would definitely fix it.
Do obviously this is just something that you'll have to wait out.
Having no physical contact is a good way of trying to maintain control over yourself and the situation. If this is due to lust, which 9/10x it is, you have to do whatever it takes to stop it. But it won't help it disappear. It disappears because it's out of somebody else's choice if not just your own. Everything is always about choice. So be glad it's gone because you don't need lust. You either learn to love them or you won't. Lust is fleeting and immediate. Love takes time and it's entirely up to you.
But when it comes to mental contact, it can take on the same effect as having no physical contact. It still applies.
out of sight and out of mind works... whenever two people who have been close enough have chemical interaction in their brains as well... right!! that's how you make that special bond with some people only.
. the hormone that's majority responsible is oxytocin. so when you stop interacting physically with a person... with time that oxytocin release subsides too... you can start developing a new oxytocin relationship with other people... hug your other friends more.. interact and hangout more with them instead of that person you want to get rid of...
that works
Depends on the intent. I have a friend who wants her first kiss to be on her wedding day. I'm sure the no contact her and her boyfriend have will be full of desire and VERY charged. If I'm in no contact with a guy because he's unavailable, even if there's real chemistry, it will help fade the attraction for me. The body listens to the mind. This is pertaining to physical contact.
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It will help you get over them more quickly yes but ultimately I think they'll still always be attractive to you but just not as much and it will help you want to pursue other people.
It may disappear. I think you really need to be careful as it could consume your every thought and affect your decision making.
Speaking from experience I know what I'm talking about, luckily I got a grip on myself and snapped out of it.
Your infatuation and attraction to your co-worker is strong,, almost strong enough to ignore consequences. It is one thing to be infatuated with a co-worker, it is another if that infatuation affects how you think.
Hell no it dont disappear, it makes it stronger, now this could both a pro and a con. Meaning "pro" it could make you miss your mate more. Which could make your intamacy that much more intense and the sex explosive... now ! The con to this is, tension flares up then so does frustration, doubt, curiosity and on and on. So depending how close you are to this person and if you communicate well. As to why no contact when your standing their with a morphed out boner and she's not paying it no mind... well somthings else is going on and she needs to binked upside her head with your bratwurst yeah?
nope its viewed as a punishment or a not interest if they see you wanting to hang but not touch its a mixed signal, they will want to still be close and around but they will find sex... just not with you. get over it and yourself and buy a big big big box of condoms. and enjoy the attention geeze you only live once get up in it and cover yourself with that person.
what are you saving it for? the after life? dont punish himor make him feel like that. no contact has no place in a relationship what so ever.
Fucking hope so.. But I don't think so. When you see them again it just comes back. It does help you go about your day without thinking about them if you haven't seen or talked to them in a while tho
Yes it does.
Imagine eating something very tasty. You eat it often due to which the taste and the feelings stay ripe in your memory. Makes you want it more.
But imagine if you don't eat it for a very very long time. What happens to the memory of its taste and feelings attached? They slowly fade away.
Yes, at least at some point. Reducing contact can make some people see it as a challenge and make them want to try even harder. But everyone has a limit so at some point, they'll lose interest. There's no fun in trying to chase someone who literally never throws you a bone or shows a sign of interest. Also less contact = less of a presence in your/their life = an opportunity to think about/focus on other things.
It depends on the two people. If you're equally attracted to each other, then I don't see the harm in having fun. But if one of you doesn't want anything to do with physical sexual attraction, it's best to make that clear or else someone might be looking for signals and that can be a bad mess.
It increases the tension, the longer you wonder how their touch would feel, the more you will want it! You will start trying to imagine making contact and how it would feel! But then as soon as it finally happens it will be like a huge weight has been lifted and you will feel so amazing and satisfied
my personal opinion is that being away from each other and trying not to have contact only makes me hornier than hell and then all I want to do is screw the hell out of someone particularly the person I'm attracted to so no it doesn't help get rid of the sexual tension it just makes it more stronger but that's my personal opinion
I think it will help but the thoughts will come back as soon you see him again or interact with him one on one. I had that situation, we stop progressively hang out alone but each time we see each other and can feel the sexual tension coming back and I just want to touch him again.
ps: I'm not really 14 .
it does and it doesn't. for the most part it depends on you and your partner.
unless both of you are absolutely mutually connected, if even one of you loses interest, attraction and sexual intentions becomes reduced.
but some people enjoy the mystery and wonder of less contact.
no. it just raises emotional stress if you plan on getting together with them. if you made a "no contact rule" to get over them and never do anything with them again, it´s the best possible solution. but only if the no contact thing is a permanent thing.
Depends on the situation. If we can't be together, then distance helps me move on mentally, emotionally, and physically. If we are still in a relationship but are just apart, then distance makes it worse because I know that as soon as I see him again, I get to ride his dick until sunrise. And we are usually still talking/texting while separated, and the innuendo is a real panty soaker.
You getting any different suggestions, or is the GAG community pretty much in agreement over what's going on and what to do next? ;-)
Yes no contact definitely helps, as keeping contact live will give rise of new questions and curiosity weather good or bad.
But it won't solve it completely, as it also depends upon your thinking, keeping no contact but continuously thinking about him/her is a issue bigger then that. It'll occupy your mind so the more imp thing is to free your mind, and that can be achieved by keeping yourself busy. Busy in work or hobby or with family etc. :-)
Focusing on other things helps... and limited contact helps too... like u just have not be reminded of this person and they will go away in your mind eventually... takes time though so be patient and u will be fine...
For me, my guy is away for 2 months. We stay in contact, and that definitely intensifies my sexual urges and attraction. I know that when he comes back, it'll be a blast.
Over long periods it makes you start to lose touch with each other and puts a strain on relationships over short periods infrequently it makes you miss being with each other more (assuming you both actually enjoy the other ).
Ahhhhhhhhhh, nope. well, it can, but it can also backfire. it's the whole forbidden fruit paradox: if you're told you can't have it, you want it more than if no restrictions were applied. think Prohibition
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