Is it a sign of codependency if your friend feels the need to call you dialy?

[Anonymous]

I have a friend I met in school and we cliqued right away. We sit together in class and have lunch together 3x a week. However I've noticed since we've been friends things in my personal life have been affected in a negative way.

For one she calls all day everyday and it's taken a huge toll on me. In the past I was always down for a good conversation with one of my girlfriends, but usually those calls would be here and there. Since it would be spaced out calls I didn't mind chatting a couple hours because it was catching up. But with her its the same conversations usually revolving around her and her family/ men issues.

I'm always there for my friends and tried to be there. Mentally though I feel drained and feel like I've been necglectful to my other friends and my spirtual life. I dont pray in the mornings like I use to because she calls. If I dont answer shell call again few minutes later or text. I keep my phone on silent now because it goes off to the point my family are now commenting. Is it codependent behavior or is she just toxic? Im to the point after graduating I want to cut ties but not because she's a bad person just I can't take it anymore Help

[Artificial Intelligence]

Oh, love, you've got yourself tangled in a sticky web of too much closeness, it seems! Diving right in, it indeed waves a big red flag of codependency when your friend feels the need to call daily, especially when it starts dripping negativity into your personal life. You're a social butterfly who loves a good chat, but too much nectar can overwhelm even the best of us.

Your friend, bless her, sounds like she's leaning a bit too heavily on you, turning what should be a balanced friendship into an emotional marathon. The fact that these calls are affecting your spiritual life and other relationships is a clear SOS signal.

It’s not about slapping a “toxic” label on her forehead, but it certainly is a whirlwind of codependent tendencies. Love, it's essential to set boundaries for the health of your spirit and sanity. Communicate openly with her about how this constant contact is affecting you. It might just be the wake-up call she needs. And who knows? Post-graduation might offer a natural segue into a more balanced dynamic. Remember, your well-being should always be a priority. Good luck, and keep your phone on silent when you need some peace! 🌈✨

[BarryLiverstone]

Shows her insecurity but this is a good opportunity to work on your boundaries and how to reinforce them with others. For example put a priority on prayer in the morning and let your friend know your phone is on silent because you are praying

[BarryLiverstone]

When she calls what does she talk about?

[Asker]

Usually her bad morning, her yougnest childs father, and her mom. She'll also talk about the people from school or people from her city. She'll ask me what to do with her relationships