My girlfriend stays out late without calling me during weekdays. Is it unreasonable to ask her to call me?

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We both have 9-to-6 jobs and usually wake up at around 7 every day to get to work. I know that she is not a child but I cannot sleep when she stays out late until 3-4 am. Should I talk to her?

Seinna · Accepted Answer

It is very reasonable. She's your girlfriend so as a man it's normal that you feel responsible for her safety. It'd be abnormal if you didn't and she should understand it as well. Even if she's a feminist, being your girlfriend she should be sensitive to your feelings... unless she's a brat, but if you're 36 then I'd assume your girlfriend is at least 25 so she should understand how relationships work. In my opinion, if you cannot reach an agreement that's takes into account your feelings then you might as well look for another girlfriend because this relationship is not working.

Lady_Heart · Accepted Answer

Yes u should talk with her and tell her ur concerns. Unless she is working n she should tell u about it then why would she be out that late🤷‍♀️

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Do you have an agreement with her to date exclusively? Sounds like she has someone else.

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

You have bigger problems then a phone call lol

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Absolutely, communication is the key here! It's all about finding that sweet spot between showing you care and not stepping over the boundary into overbearing territory. Let her know gently how her staying out late makes you feel, focusing on your concern for her safety and your peace of mind rather than laying down the law. Remember, it's not about demanding she calls; it's about expressing your feelings and discussing what would make both of you comfortable. Falling in love is easy, maintaining a relationship is where the real magic happens 😉. Maintain that flirty, loving energy and approach the topic with understanding and openness. You got this!

Apple1996 · Answer

That is odd for her to stay out that late

nicole · Answer

Navigating expectations in a relationship is totally normal, and communication is key to making sure you both feel comfortable and respected. It's not unreasonable at all to want your girlfriend to call you if she's out late, especially on weekdays. It's more about wanting to ensure she's safe and also feeling connected. Maybe frame it as a matter of concern for her safety rather than monitoring her whereabouts.

It's also a good idea to discuss and understand each other's expectations about communication and time spent apart. This conversation could actually strengthen your relationship by opening up more lines of communication. Just be open about how you feel, listen to her perspective too, and you might find a middle ground that works for both of you.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Honestly? You shouldn't have to. The fact she cares so little about you to let you know she's ok shows me how little she thinks of you.

If it were me? A couple of weeks of that and the next time she tried to call me would be her last, as I'd wave bye bye to her!

worldscolide · Answer

Red flags all over here. It's not appropriate for her to be going out like that while in a relationship. She's attempting to behave as if she is single, when she is not. It's especially wrong for her not to call you..

Set your boundary. If she refuses or leaves, you have your answer.

Miristheiss · Answer

You DUMP HER!!!

That is NOT girlfriend behavior or character. If she is out until 3am with other people, drinking no doubt and interacting with other guys then you dump her.

Do you not recognize red flags? Do you not have standards? This is not someone you get serious with.

Walk away.

4 billion women, do pick another one.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Why, she has a life that may not include you 24/7
There is nothing wrong with that.
If you start telling her she needs to call you when she is out you may just drive her away, as you are too clingy, or controlling where you need to know where she is, who she is with.
If she was going to cheat on you it could be a nooner at lunch time with someone from work, not early in the morning.
Let her enjoy her life and it sounds like you need one that doesn't revolve around her.

DextroShade · Answer

She belongs to the streets!  Bro, this is completely unacceptable. You are 100% being cucked by Chad, Tyrone, Pookie, and Rayray. If you had any self-respect you would not tolerate this behavior. Kick her to the curb and let the streets have her!

lorenzomichael · Answer

Listen you either trust her or you don't. And you might come off as being needy, if you want her to call you all the time. chicks don't like needy guys. However she should give you heads up as to where she's going. Put your relationship to the test tell her you're going somewhere with your buddies just don't tell her where even if you're not going anywhere. See if it bothers her that you don't call her while you're out.

Iceland874 · Answer

Sounds like she’s being totally disrespectful towards you. You need to put your foot down and tell her you do not agree with this type of behaviour and that she needs to contact you to let you know her whereabouts. Even better, have her stop going out and certainly staying out that late. She’s probably getting up to no good anyway. You’d probably be better moving on with your life and finding another woman who doesn’t act that way!

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

Definitely something to bring up. If I'm out late, I'll always at least text my boyfriend letting him know where I am and that I'm ok.

Nikki1989 · Answer

You seem you are possessive and controlling or what to be. She doesn't owe you daily phone calls.

molonski2 · Answer

Red Red Red flags , she is ' out and about ' for sure..

slatyb · Answer

No, you should accept that she is a separate person and is entitled to live her life without your approval. How does this affect you?

LaurenM1997 · Answer

I wouldn’t go out and not tell my boyfriend if I had where I am going that’s lack of communication and communication is key

laly520 · Answer

does she stay out late each night?  before u start calling her whenever u feel worried u gotta talk to her about it n express ur concerns

exitseven · Answer

If she is staying out until 3 in the morning you gave bigger problems

rienna888 · Answer

Yeah you definitely should. How is she towards you, has she been the same? Is she loving, kind or ignoring and angry, etc?

Booklover_90 · Answer

Is there a reason why  you  can’t call her? If you’re concerned about her, call her!

magiusX26 · Answer

honestly, it sounds like you are not her only guy/bed partner.

Alex-Snow · Answer

You do not own her and she is free to do as she wants

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

Absolutely talk to her about it. It's a red flag that's completely inconsiderate of you

strateguy632 · Answer

that is reasonable, ask.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

She is getting railed by rando Chads.

sheikalana · Answer

Ask her to give you a call.

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