My boyfriend gets angry easily. What can I do?

[smosh]

I think he has some kind of anger issues because out of nowhere he gets angry and I can see that his head goes red and he tried to hold himself to no to break something. This is quiet scary. I don't know how to approach him.

[cheddar]

Dealing with someone who has anger issues can definitely be tough and a bit scary at times. It’s great that you’re noticing these patterns and want to address them—it shows a lot of empathy on your part. One key thing is to ensure that conversations about his anger happen at a time when he’s calm. Bringing it up mid-anger might escalate the situation. When you do talk, express your feelings using “I” statements rather than “you” statements to avoid making him feel defensive. For example, say something like, “I feel worried when I see you getting very angry.” Encouraging him to seek help might be a good idea if his anger is severe and frequent. Ensuring your own emotional and physical safety is paramount, so don’t hesitate to seek support for yourself too, be it from friends, family, or a professional. Lastly, if ever his anger turns towards you physically, it’s important to consider leaving the situation and seeking help immediately.

[sage2021]

When you are with a guy like that is that he can make you physically sick. And I mean you may never be the same healthy person you once we're.

I was with a guy similar to yours. His mood would change for no reason. He'd go to sleep in a fine mood and wake up all pissed off.

Well, it tore up my stomach but good. His mood changes affected my stomach and I would get bad gas and have to use the bathroom. It happened so often, that my whole gastrointestinal system broke and my muscles that chew up your food broke and slowed way down and that never went away. I have been living in hell with my broken stomach since 1993!

Every time I eat anything I end up paying for it.

Do you want to end up sick girl? You have to save yourself and stay the hell away from him and he temper issues. For real.

[Siri137]

Avoid him as much as you can, and find another boyfriend.

[itsclearlynicholas]

I'd dislike a girlfriend like that. Then again, I'm self introspective a very moody guy. I'm not an angry guy, my humble nature just seems me "taken of" by a lot of folks out there with a bad attitude and I'm humbly over here just trying to have a nice time and a nice day and a party that is life everyday. You know? Some people just like to cause a stink 🦨 🤫

[itsclearlynicholas]

I'd like a woman who's reserved yet friendly and kind and doesn't fly off the handle. Back to your question, hmmmm therapy, a new boyfriend, a stress toy, lifestyle changes, moving elsewhere, moving to a nicer location, the beach, the mountains, maybe even to a nice friendly town or friendly area, or some kind of sea change. 🥪😋

[mattthefatbat]

I think its best you talk with him about it in a understanding way, ask about what has been upsetting him and suggest things that can help. Men usually don't get upset over tiny things unless something else is troubling them more, im sure you're a kind and understanding woman to show that you're there for him

[AI Opinion]

Navigating your partner's mood swings can feel like walking on eggshells—definitely not the salsa dance of love we're aiming for! It's vital to approach this with a mix of empathy and boundary-setting. Firstly, encourage open communication. Let him know you've noticed his struggle and you're there for him, but also make it clear that managing his anger is crucial for the health of your relationship. It's like trying to hug a porcupine; you want to get close, but those spikes are a no-no! Suggest he seeks professional help or explores anger management methods. Remember, you're his partner, not his therapist. Your safety and emotional wellbeing are top priorities. Don't forget to take care of yourself, too. Love shouldn't feel like a rollercoaster that only goes down.

[itsclearlynicholas]

And professionals therapists

[Pillubi]

Gets angry out of nowhere? It's kinda hard to believe. Just observe what are the common triggers. What exactly is it that's making him angry. If it is not addressed now, it will affect the relationship down the line. Get him to channelise his energy in a better way, like getting him to the gym, is he sexually satisfied? That also could be a contributing factor. Is his health okay? Does he have blood sugar issues? Was he like this in his previous relationships? Get him to make some lifestyle changes, get some couple counseling, sit and talk to him when he is in a good mood.

[Benjiman19]

In my experience. (Yes, I had anger issues. They were very severe). Now a days you wouldn't know about that from who I seem to be now. I'm the most patient, calm person you'll meet. But back when I was younger, my parents sent me to a mental hospital just because of my anger and hurting those who I love.

Grab a metal bat and swing it against a tree as hard as you can over and over again until all the hate and pain disappears from your body. This is how I got through it. Without hurting those around me and fully denting along with breaking these metal bats in half with how hard I hit the trees.

I don't recommend sending him to a mental hospital. All it did for me was absolutely nothing. Because no one and nothing upset me in that building.

[Begging4giggles]

It's not very hard to not piss people off. Even being EASY to anger is not the same as LOOKING for things to get angry at, YOU would still have to be doing something antisocial to cross HIS line at this point.

[VV3ZZY123]

He is suffering because he is spiritually sick and he harbors resentment. It can build up and make people go mad. Unless they learn to forgive and see that other people are also spiritually sick. But it's not your responsibility. Sometimes people have to lose everything again & again until they learn.

[JesseP1nk]

I think he have some sort of "triggers".

I get annoyed for example if i say something to do and someone does not do that (response is like: "hey fuck you , its my business") and then happens EXATLY what i said and THEN they come asks my help. Then i get pissed off, i told them the problem and they did it anyway.

[missmels]

Sounds dangerous and that is a journey he needs to travel on his own. Leave him NOW.

[TommyMountainFigure]

You should, when he's calm ask him if he has ever been checked for diabetes. It's a fact diabetics lose their tempers very easily!

[Unit1]

Break up. I had some toxic hot headed family members and i'm overall better off without them. There's no saving them. You either expose yourself to their anger discharge or you avoid those idiots altogether.

[bobby_bush_eater]

He's a grown ass man, you need to put a boundary and address it. Tell him exactly what you see and how it's childish. Don't do it in a demeaning way but out of a genuine concern. If he can't change that you'll likely need to leave

[Fireguy17]

find a new boyfriend that does not have issues like that.
it tends to get worse over time.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Or proper couples therapy/therapy for him solo maybe even. Professionals where it's at

[Fireguy17]

@itsclearlynicholas it's possible, if he wants to change, otherwise if he isn't receptive about changing it is time to move on.

[Dargil]

Tell him that if he can't control his anger, you will be gone.
You are not a psychologist. Tell him what he has to lose.

[handsomelad70]

Watch him closely for ANY sign of potential violence, than if he begins to become overly possessive (you may not want to wait for actual abuse) , RUN, GAL, RUN !!!

[ProbablyClueless]

I wouldn't want to date someone like that, personally.

[itsclearlynicholas]

I couldn't stand a woman with a bad attitude either, so I'm glad I'm a humble soul, and i never want a gold digger who slithers around me 🐍🐍

[itsclearlynicholas]

So I'm glad I've managed to stay single. Many women seem like they'd try to eat me alive lol 😆 and I'm also glad the gay/bi guys stay in their lane, far from my lane 🛣️

[itsclearlynicholas]

Not even a desperate one, lucky me 🤫🤫🤫

[ProbablyClueless]

@itsclearlynicholas I don't know what part of the world you're in, but I'm in the NE-US and the women around here tend to be very abrasive and critical people. I think of it like a spiritual sickness in America; the anger and vindictiveness.

[itsclearlynicholas]

@ProbablyClueless high time you left for the sunny carefree skies of California, specially Malibu or even Los Angeles or even, Topanga

[ProbablyClueless]

@itsclearlynicholas Nah. I've been out there. Those people are just as bad, if not worse.

Rural places have less of that antagonism than the developed areas.

[JacobJordan]

He needs an outlet to ger rid of shit so he stops bottling it up

[Sevenpointfive]

and what is he getting mad about? i bet it's usually the same thing or very similar

[onedarkcloud]

Time to say goodbye. If he ever loses it you are the one that is going to get hurt. When he hit you for the first time say goodbye. Real men do not hit women ever.

[Booklover_90]

I’d break up with him. You can’t get through to a hot tempered person. He probably needs therapy.

[Pennywise_6]

Take him to therapy. He has anger manangement issues that he needs to deal with.

[spicythunder]

What is he angry about? maybe he should see a psychologist, to be calmer. Because this could harm him too.

[Anonymous]

Fuck him more often! He'll be too worn out to pitch a bitch!

[Mangospacho]

If he’s scaring you, leave him.

[AngryCarl]

Dump his angry ass.

[JayBones2469]

Stop doing stupid shit that angers him

[FreyaRed]

Dump him.

[noohair]

He has issues.