Boyfriend takes his anger out on me , not physically just always wants to argue when he’s in a bad mood. what should I do?

[Anonymous]

[anonChineseMale]

So yeah... red flag. This is something he needs to work on. No one can really help him and if you are the source of his style of venting then you might be putting yourself in danger. That is an abusive relationship waiting to happen. Tell him he need to take a step back, then find a safe place to stay at so you two can cool off then come back together and have real discussion. He needs to know his actions are not acceptable. This issue runs deep. He should seek help from a therapist. And you might need to too if you have had a traumatic response to this. Verbal abuse is not something to brush over.

Its not easy. And I wish you the best.

[Asker]

Every since he lost his job all he’s been doing is trying to argue with me calling me annoying , then on social media talking about him wanting to be single I just left it alone

[anonChineseMale]

okay... Well... I cannot decide for you. I think you know best. You know him, can he change? or it is just wishful thinking? has this happened before? is this going to be a reoccurring thing in the future?

I know you love him, and you care. However you still have to look out for you health and safety. Words hurt and can bring you down too. so... Yeah, take it slow. see if he can change a little bit. Call him out on his abuse or anger and walk out. if it continue then leave the relationship. Talk to friend about it. and make sure someone else got your back.

[abhi_97]

Well unless you like being a punching bag, it's not good for your mental health. Someone who can't deal with his anger and vents it out on their loved ones is unfit for a relationship. You can try sitting together, talking it out, find out ways perhaps that help you both deal with arguments but if that too doesn't work, you should be wise enough to understand the next step.

[Asker]

I tried to then he ignores me calls me annoying so I ignored him back after that he kept blowing my phone up texting and calling then when on the phone tried to make me jealous

[abhi_97]

Read my last sentence and act on it. Good luck

[jeemm]

You need to tell him that you're not someone to vent his anger on. If he doesn't respect your wishes and your dignity then you should really reconsider being in a relationship with him.

[R4zor]

warn him; you are not treating me in good manners if he apologized and agreed on changing behavior or maybe good explanations he or both of you need to work on yourself unless things will fall apart
If things didn't work out tell him you're done and never come back plenty of passionate good guys out there

[I-C3_ME]

Talk to him about finding other ways for him to deal with he's anger. Actively talk to him as in "u SHOULD have another way to deal with it" cuz if u don't make it clear that it ain't an option, he probably won't search

[Asker]

I tried to then he ignored me so I ignored him he kept blowing my phone up texting and calling then when on the phone tried to make me jealous

[hornyafbi69]

Does he want to argue or maybe just vent most of us don't argue with our girls just for having a bad day

[flashgrandad]

I noticed you said not physically!
If you are constantly taking verbal abuse, how long before he gets physically violent sweetheart?
I would suggest you get out before it gets violent.

[JamesRandiDebates]

Stop putting him n a bad mood. when he gets argumentative, drop to your knees unzip his pants and put him in a good mood.

[Anonymous]

Get rid of him as it is a lot of chances that it will end up in phisical.

[Avgbrisbaneguy]

Simple leave. No woman should have to go through that

[Aguy565tt]

When he behaves like that, record him and call the cops.

[Pete671]

Dump him, he's not going to change,

[Asker]

Literally we were just speaking about him losing his job and he just starts to lash out on me talking about I’m annoying and this is why he wants to be single

[Asker]

I get you lost your job but I didn’t do nothing

[Pete671]

grant him his wish, if he has such a hissyfit over losing a job, how is he going to handle important stuff, maybe his behaviour contributed to losing the job?,,,

[Asker]

Yeah it is but why take it out on me all I’ve been doing is being there

[Pete671]

because he's a spiteful little bully who doesn't respect you,

[Iron_Man]

Talk to him about it today

[Asker]

I didn’t even do anything we were texting he was being dry he just lost his job okay I understand , then he started calling me annoying because I asked him a question , started posting about being single and kept trying to argue with me

[Iron_Man]

OK since he just lost his job give him some time but definitely make an appointment for a very serious conversation about his actions

[Asker]

Every time I try to talk it’s I’m annoying or thinking I’m trying to argue

[Iron_Man]

Then why stay with somebody like that

[okeydoke]

Tell him to fuck off and how you feel.

[In_Trance]

stop engaging with it

[Anonymous]

Give him a happy ending to get in a better mood.

[AmeerX]

Endure it