My boyfriend of several years is having the worst time of his life.
It involves a lot of money in his business and he could lose everything he worked for his entire life. He's depending on some corrupt authorities to sign on his business etc etc you get it. I've only seen him once a week a few hours the past 2 months. He said he's so mad, not at me, he doesn't want to take his anger out on me. That he's not himself he doesn't want to say something to trigger me or him or us. He says do you know what I'm going through. It's my whole life on the line and I borrowed lots of money from people who trust me.
So we haven't seen each other except last minute once a week according to how he feels.
Like yesterday he calls me 8pm to join him at a restaurant he was headed to alone. Then I'm about to leave the restaurant he says come over. Or he calls me 8pm on sat eve to meet him and his partner in a bar. I go there he's drunk so I had to babysit him, then I slept over. I'm not liking how he's treating me with Last minute late get togethers and so on. I'm trying to be understanding but im. not sure what to do.
Any advice from guys?
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Yes and no. No if he he wanted to save you from him. Yes if he went out with out you. I mean, I am sure you have ways to relieve his extreme stress… 😉😂
But is this how guys act when their life is falling apart? They disconnect from others?
Oh, that’s legit for sure. He will appreciate, in retrospect, anything you do to relieve the stress. He needs your complete acceptance to feel cared for and supported.
Ahhh ok. Instead of feeling rejected and used.
Yeah, he’ll push you away, but it’s not about you, it his self esteem and really a cry for help. Don’t try to understand or fix, just listen if he needs to express the anxiety, and, well, relieve him 😉 then leave him be. He’ll eventually come back around.