I want to date Black, Asian or Hispanic Guys but my Parent's ( Mainly my dad) will lose his shit and be very angry at?

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One of my best friends told me I should just wait until I get older and than tell my dad "screw you dad I want to get laid" LOL even though I told her i do not think that will help as my dad will lose his shit even more.

I really want to date Asian, Black and Hispanics guys but I can't because my dad is Racist despite he act like he is not and tell me all the time he only want me with white guys. I am a virgin so my dad want me to wait until i find the right white guy when that time comes but its my body and my business and i should loose it to who i want. I am bored with white guys (no offense) and want to date out my race with more exotic cool looking guys. There is a black guy I been talking to and oh my goshhhh he is so f*** hot even though he is a few years older than me (We both are teens still) but I am scared my dad will start to get suspicious and ask to see my phone and lose his shit. Should I stop talking to this guy or just tell my dad i can date who I want as he isn't in control of my body?

NetSapien · Accepted Answer

Personally, I'd like to think we're more than just our 'exotic' qualities. Just FYI.

I would suggest not following the suggestions of your friend. Listen to your dad until you're legally older and financially independent. Life's just starting for you, there's time to experiment and date whomever/whatever you want. Nothing's worth sacrificing or disrespecting your family for.

When I was in my teens, I would not date anyone who's parents would not accept me. Not because of some personal pride, but because I did not want to be the reason for discourse in another's family and there's plenty of girls around.

Taking into account that racism includes a certain level of 'hate' for other races:

From only what you've stated, I don't think your dad not wanting you to date out of your 'race' is necessarily racist, albeit it comes across as it is and there could be a hint to it, but I don't think it's necessarily the case. His thinking may be a little outdated and/or product of maturing in a different time.

jshm2 · Accepted Answer

Nothing wrong with dating, just don't get laid by them... until you're older of course.

But really, you want to play your dad at his game. Say you're dating them so you can find the faults and flaws he's always talking about. You're not looking to start a family or anything, you're his White princess... or other such platitudes.

You're his daughter, you should know the kind of shit he likes to hear. You're living under his roof and he's your food and shelter. Can't piss on that picnic, at your age. Be mature, all those guys might not even like you, for all you know.

So don't burn bridges you don't need to.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Okay firstly, your dad is older so may be under some influence of wanting you to be treated traditionally with a guy from your own culture for your first experience/s as he may be under the impression that it’ll be better for you. Secondly, you’re hitting that age where you want to explore everything in life to figure things out (news flash - different cultures won’t be any different, you’ll possibly experience the same kinds of problems there (and yes sometimes worse) than anywhere). I think you just need to be patient and gain a bit more wisdom first before you jump too far, yea life is for exploring at your age but don’t rush it and make too many mistakes. Do whatever it is that feels right for you but also don’t forget that your parents have lived and got a wealth of experience, if you trust them you’d be smart to take their throughs on board too.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think you should date them all. by the way, what does hispanic mean? @Hispanic-Cool-Guy? 😳😳

hahahmm · Answer

1. As long as you live at home you should respect your dad's wishes. And I would say that regardless of the races involved. If you don't want to date a white guy then don't. I think you'll survive without a boyfriend.
2. With a lot of people, what they're afraid of is not actually race -- but they're too dumb to realize it. What they're afraid of are certain cultures (and each race has many different cultures within it). So depending on the guy's background/family your dad might have a different opinion. Then again maybe your dad just hates black guys as a general rule.
3. You're better off not dating ANYBODY until you really know what you want out of life and who you are. That probably won't happen anytime soon. Takes time for people to figure it out.

K-I-S-S · Answer

Follow the house rules when you live at home.

Sucks, but you have plenty of time to date/bang etc whoever you like.

Nothing wrong with that.

Just show some respect to your dad, when you live in his house. He has given up tons of his dreams and has to endure his asshole boss to provide for you over the years.

Hasn't been easy on him too, give him some slack. He is a bit of an ass but you are also at a difficult age.

Take care, work on your future instead, for now.

Z1pTD · Answer

You should be able to date any race so when you find the right guy just date him no matter his race and just tell your dad “I really just think he’s the one”

Unit1 · Answer

Well, you have a long list to accomplish then to claim your independence.
Turn into an adult.
Get a job and make as much money as possible.
Find a new home and move in there. Live alone and by yourself.
Then do with your life as you please and tell no one who you are dating/seeing.
Money is the most important thing to enable everything else.

vald9inches · Answer

He sounds racist af but honestly its not his decision

Manuel2 · Answer

I will say this. He may have had fantasies of sex with an ethnic moiety woman. But fear the shame of friends finding out.

I will add, there was a White woman no one liked. But once the rumour was out that she had sex with a black man. She had more offers of sex from white men to sleep with her

bowenw · Answer

You probably shouldn't do anything to risk being thrown out by your dad just yet. After you move out, date whoever you want. In the meantime try to subtly work on your dad's racism.

exitseven · Answer

It seems to me you are just acting out. You are using these guys to make your father upset. It makes you a racist as well.

NotARobberYet · Answer

The only people who care about white gurls are their stupid fathers. I don't know why the fuck white men support white wives and daughters. They're always ungrateful fucktards anyway.

White men's lives would be a lot better if they stop giving any kind of support to their wives and daughters.

Be smart and spend your money on Latina and Asian hotties my dear white men!

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Well for one, you’re under the age of 18 So in that regard you need to chill. Secondly, once you’re 18 he cannot tell you who you can or cannot date. Cause you’re a legal adult at that age

Browneye57 · Answer

Your best friend is an idiot. Oh well.  Time to move out on your own, support yourself. Then you're free to do whatever the hell you want.

Wise4myage · Answer

Looks like you might have to wait till your 18, so unless you can do this secretly, then just be patient. But he prepared to move out once you turn 18.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Doesn't matter what race you date as long as there nice to you.

msc545 · Answer

You can't win a fight like this with your racist father. Wait until you are older and have moved out. Sorry, I know it sucks.

Anonymous · Answer

Dad's not a racist. Just doesn't want his daughter to be raising a fatherless bastard as happens with many dimwitted white girls who think blacks, Hispanics are grand.

Anonymous · Answer

You’re dad is looking out for you. He is trying to keep you from being a single mom with no money and no prospects. Read for yourself:

EverglowHushh · Answer

Screw him do what you want sis

Cicero79 · Answer

Who gives a fuck. I hope you fuck an array of colors and have zebra colored kids.

hello_kitty_man · Answer

Wait until you are 18

Anonymous · Answer

You really just want to piss off your dad, right?

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