My boyfriend always takes his anger out on me?

[Caliigirl]

I've noticed a lot of times when my boyfriend is upset, he always takes his anger out on me and yells at me. After saying stuff to me, he'll ignore me most of the day and then the next day he'll act like nothing happened. For example, this happened yesterday, I haven't seen my boyfriend in over a week (we live about 10 min away) and I really wanted to spend time with him and he completely blew me off (third day in a row) so I got a tad bit upset with him and told him that I'm tired of always asking to hang out and always getting excuses. He ignored me for 12 hours and then says "hello" to me and today, says good morning to me and is having a conversation with me as if nothing happened. And then when I bring this up, mind you, in the most nicest way, he then turns around and tells me that I stress him out. His exact words were "I'm already stressed the f*ck out and you're stressing me out even more" and also says "Maybe this isn't going to work out with us". Totally was not expecting it. If he is stressed out, shouldn't he just let me know that he has a lot going on and that he doesn't want to really talk? I would have understood that, but instead he lashes out at me.

[Kyren]

He needs to understand that a relationship is a two way street. When you love someone, you'll want to spend time with them naturally because you appreciate and enjoy being around your significant other! This behavior of his with him ignoring you a lot, lashing out at you instead of communicating with you in a calm manner and pretending nothing happened is a recipe for disaster on your emotional/mental health in the long run when you may fear what he'll do when something doesn't go his way.

I'd recommend two types of action you can take here. Either have a serious talk with him about effective communication and compromising where you both can get what you want or simply leave him for acting so immaturely and disrespectfully for not considering your feelings as of lately and earlier. It's never comfortable to either feel ignored or afraid ofyour partner lashing out at you; see what's on his mind to get to the bottom of this problem. I hope it works out for you both so this cycle doesn't keep repeating itself. If you love him very much, just be patient and try to empathize with his feelings and thoughts to help put his mind at ease as well as yours. If you don't love him enough, maybe it might be best to find a better partner who'll respect and treat you significantly better! Hope this helps to what you're looking for!

[NeglectedChild]

Why do you love this dude, why do you care for him in the first place?

You gotta stand up for yourself. And tell him that his behavior towards you is unacceptable. And if he wants the relationship to continue he can't keep taking his anger out on you, or anyone for that matter. And tell him you're there for him when he's ready to talk. And that he is hurting you with his actions.

It's difficult but be patient with him, don't be his punching bag. Stand your ground but be understanding.

Give it a little time, if he doesn't change, pack up your things and hit the road.

[Dim1213]

Well you know how he takes out his anger on those around him. Time to break up or accept that and receive it.

[slatyb]

What is in this for you? It sounds you are stressed every moment you are with him. DTMFA.

[Anonymous]

You are asking the wrong questions here... as usual, another that appears to crave what's bad for her.

[BeyondPlusUltra]

Not enough context. You probably are stressing him out.
Just ghost if you think he's in the wrong.

[Reggieray]

It's not going to work out. Move on.

[abc3643]

DUMP HIM ASAP.
NOW.

[wannaplaytoy]

fuck him off now!!!

[Anonymous]

Yup, I do the same.