Guys, My boyfriend shoved me out of anger?

[Calilove44]

Yesterday my boyfriend of three years got up to go to the gym at 5am. The day before we had a verbal argument over the phone while I was at the gym, him threatening me to leave or he would show up start a scene. I usually always does what he says, so I left, met him at his house and drove us to mine for the night. ~ Now 5am ~He knew I was exhausted yesterday but turned on all the lights and demanded my car keys. I got up to drive him home to take his own car instead but he insisted. I told him no. We argue, he packs everything of his at my house and now wants me to take him home. I tell him to walk I was so furious. (We live a few blocks from eachother) As he is walking out the front door seeing I'm not changing my mind he starts getting in my face. Saying "fuck you, fuck you" repeatedly. I normally never say fuck you to him but I did. He then shoved me backwards really hard. He is 230lbs and I am 110lbs. He walks outside screaming what a stupid b*tch cunt I am over and over in front of my house before finally leaving. He used to get physical with me to a worse extent. It's been a year since he has put hands on me promising to never again and now this. I love him a lot, he is my best and only friend. This has happened a lot in the past and this time he really didn't seem sorry at all. Despite texting me today saying sorry but that I should have given him my car keys. Advice from a guys point of view?

[Jake99999]

Get rid of him. Get away from him. This guy is an abuser. He is going to hurt you. He dominates you. He has laid his hands on you in the past. Even one time for a man to lay his hands on a woman is too many. He may act all sorry later but he is not sorry. He will do it again. I fucking hate guys like this. He dominates you. Threatens you. Hurts you. What a piece of shit.
Get some help. Google some women shelters / battered women place near you where you can call and talk to someone. Of if you don’t know who to call, contact the police and ask them to refer you.
Do not tolerate this. Yes you love him, etc. it’s a classic case of an abusive relationship. Trust me wherever positives you see in the relationship are erased by him being abusive.
A man who hurts you / abuses you needs to be ejected from your life. If you are afraid of him, get help. Talk to the cops don’t put up with him. Dump him. This never ends well.

[Calilove44]

Thank you for your thoughtful reply I greatly appreciate it. I screenshotted what you wrote so I can re read it anytime I feel uncertain. My father passed just before I met my boyfriend and I haven't had any male figures to open up to about this or get advice. What you said is what I feel my father would have wanted me to be told. So thank you

[Jake99999]

My heart goes out to you. You don’t deserve this crap. Please take good care of yourself. Be careful - and be brave enough to get help and get away from him. You can do it. I am sorry to hear of your father. Sorry for your loss. I am sure he is watching over you. Good luck.

[Calilove44]

Thank you so much for your kind words ❤ It means a lot to me. You should never see another post like this from me 🙏 you please take care of yourself and keep up the helpful, encouraging but honest comments to those who reach out for help.

[MrOracle]

Actions have consequences. Kick him to the curb and choose better next time.

[Calilove44]

Thanks for putting a little smile on my face! Your words resonate with me in how simple it should really be.

[MrOracle]

If you have respect for yourself as a human being, it's pretty easy to make that call. No one should be treated that way, especially more than once.

[MTC29]

If he shoved you once he will shove you again, only harder. Then he will hit you. It's a pattern. Get out and away from him now, while you still can.

[Calilove44]

Thank you for taking the time, you are absolutely right.

[slatyb]

You should have dumped him the first time. Do it now.

[Calilove44]

Very very true. Thank you

[Rrmat]

Besides the obvious item most people mentioned- get rid of him!!

I copied and pasted this from your story "he is my best and only friend"... Seriously? If this is true, you need to put some time to get some quality friends. You have to be able to go hang out with some of your own friends when you are in a relationship. Very important.

For now, you must break things with him and cut him out of your life.

If you had some quality friends, they would have advised this a long time ago.

Good luck

[IcedLemonade]

"You're in an abusive relationship"
Take responsibility for being a spiteful baby yourself. You triggered the incident, that's not abuse, that's consequences. Him being a gentleman would've been nice, but no being a gentleman to a girl in a bitchy mood is not abusive.

[Calilove44]

Thank you for saying that and being open and honest. Exactly why I wanted to post this. It does take two to tango.

[Calilove44]

I am a baby 😅

[IcedLemonade]

I see

[Jackblue]

Do not listen to this man he will lead you to your death. Your boyfriend is violent.

[IcedLemonade]

@Jackblue Men don't kill nice women

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

You're in an abusive relationship. If you can't accept that fact, then no advice anyone gives will help.

[Calilove44]

Man you definitely speak the truth. I guess it was silly to post this at all. But thank you for saying that as I know you are right

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Hey, there are no bad questions. If you can recognise the reality of your situation, then you can take action to extricate yourself from it.

[FireFox001]

You want to get killed in a stupid argument. Because that's how you get killed in a stupid argument. This guy is not "best", he is an asshole, a control freak and you play into that. Leave him ASAP.

[Calilove44]

Never thought I'd be so submissive or even in a relationship like this at all. But man you are nothing but right.. he is not best even though everyone thinks that about him. Thank you for the encouragement and wake up

[FireFox001]

If you need to talk about the issue, hit me up. I can lend you a pair of eyes.

Wake up calls are always hars, and it is rare that people start seeing the light. You are the rare exception here.

[Calilove44]

That's kind of you, thank you Firefox. Wake up calls in relationships are the worst. Sometimes you have to hear it from others. This was one of those times as I'm at my wits end and want us both to be happier.

[bigchanges]

Sounds like an incredibly healthy relationship that won't result in you giving him one too many chances and he uses that chance to seriously injure you out of a fit of rage

[Calilove44]

I guess just that it was better for about a year that gave me hope again. But you make a good point and my gut agrees with you. Thanks for commenting

[Jackblue]

You have got to leave him and file a restraining order against him or have him arrested. If you are worried about being lonely seek comfort in any female friends you have, if that is not enough maybe go to a women's shelter for a while.

[FilmGuy93]

Are you asking for permission to leave him? Because you have it. This is a WILDLY toxic relationship that you need to GTFO of.

[DWornock]

You were not physically harmed so get over it. If it bothers you that much or if you believe he may actually hit you, drop him and find another boyfriend. As a woman, that only takes a few days.