How do you react when people you thought are friends/someone special ignore you suddenly?

[Pinay_ako]

[Arav210]

Devastated. It actually happened with me. It would be with my family who did that to me but in a away I was the one who did that to myself. My family didn’t change much. I was the one who cared and was thinking that they are my entire world or I would always be thinking about their happiness. I never had any desire for worldly things like money, beauty or success. For me, all I cared was the time well spent with my family. It all vanished when I went to my graduation. I seen them going apart. I mean, I first thought they changed. Recently figured it out that I should change. I spent my time with them. Always gave them my first priority. Always gave them my savings. Ig I was obsessed with spending time with them and I know it’s not possible but even if it’s not possible, I used to make sure they are happy.
At first, I felt lonely. Whatever I do, they started complaining. Maybe they started thinking I was a failure in life. Honestly, I graduated from my counties top university and with decent grades. I don't know what they complaining about. I worked for 2 years in a job and I felt like lonely still. I slowly drifted into depression and some sort of mental illness where all I seek was someone to love. I couldn’t find because I never looked at the world but I only wanted it from my own family. I ignored all the girls around me but just wanted my mother and sister to respect me and love me back. I wish they like spending time with me. But lately I realised it ain’t going to happen and can’t force them to like spending time with me. I quit my job to fix myself since I couldn’t handle their constant complaining. I cried and slapped myself alone in my room for so many years. I felt so unstable. I mean, I never had a father. It’s just mom and sister but I never felt respect towards me from them. That’s when I started introspection myself. I found the reason I turned out like this. I focused way too much time on them that I never really cared for myself. Never really loved myself nor tried to develop any skill for myself. It still sounds awkward thinking what is self love and I don’t know why it feels pointless when I do things for myself. Like I really don’t care if I have money or good looks or worldly stuff.
So, answer to ur question, I first react unstable and going all crazy that I feel better hitting myself alone in my room. If other side people see me, they would surely think I am mentally ill which I am. But they would think I might turn into a psychopath. But I didn’t. I just introspection to fix myself with all the free time I got during being jobless. I still wouldn’t say I fixed it. But now I know the solution and I ain’t worried about not spending time with my self growth. I don’t mind that my family used me for their own growth. I am just going to spend time alone now until I find a reason to live. Hehe, it’s a long reaction but it’s just my story rather than a reaction for how I reacted to someone who ignored me for all my life.


I again wouldn’t say I don’t love them now. It’s just that I know they aren’t smart enough to love me like I want.

[Flatmanlewis]

I had to really learn to grow around this very issue. It happened a few times and its very hard to process.


I usually let it go the first time or…
Approach them and say something like “Hey, I care about you and you don’t seem like yourself. Is everything okay with you?” I have been surprised how often people, once asked, just pour out an issue that’s weighing on them. It usually has nothing to do with “us”. In fact, I’m pretty sure in my youth I lost some friends because when they ignored me I responded impulsively or immaturely and ignored them as a response. This silly emotional tit-for-tat led to them (working through their own issue) isolating from me when they didn’t realize they had ignored me and then did the exact same thing I did - ignored me in return!


Also, if I think there is a more substantial issue brewing and I want to work through it, my second approach is usually “Hey. I wanted to catch up to you and see if we’re all good. Do I owe you an apology for something?” It comes from a place of humility & respect and lowers the potential for an attitude being perceived that wasn’t there or intended.


This was given to me by a good friend and has paid off dividends over the years.


In the end, there are just some people at work that don’t matter and I pay them no mind.

[Pinay_ako]

Wow I like this answer

[Flatmanlewis]

Well. Thank you. I guess I’m paying it forward then. I hope it serves you as well as it has me.

[DancingQueen16]

I'd be kinda confused but this has actually happened to me before a girl I thought was my best friend just stopped talking to me when we started middle school and to this day I still don't know why because as far as I know I never did or said anything to make her shut me out and it wasn't until we stopped talking I realized she actually wasn't that good of a friend in the first place because she would put me down like I told her about a toy idea I had once and she said it would never work

[Dinklex3]

“Hey just checking up on you, is everything okay”?

If they’re ignoring me, it’s for a reason. They might just need some space and they’ll talk to me when they’re ready.

[imtiaz45]

When someone I considered a friend or someone special suddenly ignores me, I might initially feel a mix of confusion and hurt. Wondering what caused the sudden change in behavior can be quite disorienting. It's natural to question myself, wondering if I did or said something wrong. This self-doubt can be unsettling and lead to feelings of rejection and frustration. As I come to accept the situation, I might feel a sense of sadness but also a realization that I can't control others' actions. Eventually, I focus on healing and moving forward, whether that means seeking closure through communication or prioritizing my well-being. While it's not easy, I try to learn from the experience and use it as an opportunity for personal growth and understanding in future relationships.

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[NathanDavis]

I gave her time and space... till she had to meet me yes or yes, and we met that day along with everyone else, and then yes... she ignored me entirely that day, lol

I went to the gates and stood there and watched her walk away to the bus stop for that eternity, and she looked at me at last... right before she took off

so I just stood there and said to myself, damn... she really is into me, lol

and then I just went home... to think and think, and think again, about how I was or we were going to do about all that

[sirderpsalot123]

I reach out and ask if something is wrong. They could just being dealing with something and it has nothing to do with you. If nothing changes, I just accept that people grow apart.

Granted I miss them sometimes and reminisce on the good times. But I’m fine without them.

[dustybiker2]

Unless it's me.

[sirderpsalot123]

@dustybiker2 how many people can say they're friends with a real witch? You're different

[dustybiker2]

Sssshhh

[sirderpsalot123]

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[dustybiker2]

.👍🏻

[KostasKouvalis]

Unless they initiate contact first, I try to avoid talking to them or running into them, because it makes me feel awkward and uncomfortable. I used to harrass them, but as I got older I realized how stupid and awkward it is to try to talk to people who want nothing to do with you.

[Xia1994]

It’s sore but I just leave them alone I’ll make new friends or new relationships.

[DishLady]

I shrug it off. It’s something they’re doing. I try not to let such things get under my skin or ruin my day.

[Lottydotty]

I ask what gives brah, what rumors were spread. Just go on, say it, you love me, I get it I'm the whole package it's fine. I love you too. We could go smash some stuff at one of those anger management venues. Try and blow up the joint.

[dustybiker2]

I give them space. Will reach out after a few days. It's usually heavy distractions.

[CrabCakes11]

I figure that they are just busy with something in their life. Depending on the person, I’ll reach out or leave them alone.

[Account]

Ι shut down any feelings I might preciously had regarding the matter and I get over it.
It is not the healthiest coping mechanism, but it works.

[Belgie]

It's unpleasant but I assume they have their reasons and so I accept it.

[exitseven]

It is one of the few things that really bother me.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Some gag users it'd be nice if they at least said "chat later" or "not right now" as it leaves a person waiting hahaha 😂

[itsclearlynicholas]

Or hi or bye. Lol. Where the courtesy at like I do myself 😂😂

[yulbsari]

It's very upsetting. It has happened to me twice. I have learned to control my emotions and just walk away... even if they try to reach back out...

[beebella]

I either leave them alone or bug them to see how they react. 😂 Depends on who it is.

[motownplayer2000]

I also move on. I don’t dwell on the people that don’t care to talk to me whatever. We move on

[Markymark92]

Ask if there’s a problem, ask politely not with aggression?

[litty736]

I've never been in that situation but if that had ever happened to me, I'll ignore them just the same and move on.

[CocacolaGirl1993]

I cut them from my life I don’t need toxicity in my life.

[JacobJordan]

I move on with my life