How to help a girl to relax?

[drummer]

I am not good with interacting girls at all. I know she is stressed and I want to be there for her but I don't know how to help.

[DishLady]

How well do you know this girl?


1. IF SHE'S FAMILIAR TO YOU: If you know her and you're sort of friends then it's not as awkward to sit with her and just let her talk to you about her problems. Don't stress or react or offer to DO anything for her. The thing she needs is an understanding ear to just listen and allow her to vent. (Guys ALWAYS tend to get thrown off by this because they want to run out and go fix the problem. It's not what we want.)


2. IF SHE'S A STRANGER TO YOU: If you don't know the girl at all then it's very awkward to just go up and OFFER to be the person listening to her. I have one or two brave guy friends on here, though, who started off with a sympathetic IM after reading one of my questions and it slowly encouraged some dialogue that we still carry on with, years later. To do this, you have to shake off your self-doubt and just go up to the girl to ask "Hey, are you ok?"


3. DON'T KEEP BEING NEGATIVE ABOUT YOURSELF: Try to stop thinking of yourself as being awkward with girls. It's kind of like telling people "oh, i don't write well" or "I'm no good at this." The more you reinforce that in your mind (either out loud or in your thoughts), the more true it will be and the more awkward you'll actually be around people. Try to think positive. No one is perfect. Find at least one thing daily that you like about yourself and that will help shake off the negative feelings of awkwardness little by little, ok?

[StarWarGirl]

Make her to get engaged in some fun activities. Like some kind of light game like bingo, scrabble tic tac toe, ludo or having race etc etc and let her win or going somewhere where we can do some fun activities. Or ask her to help you in doing something which requires some kind of attention somewhat. Make her to do ANYTHING.

I mean try something so she can get distracted for a small period of time any how and forget about her stress. And then... If she opens up or willing to open her mind you can ask her what happened. And if she is willing to share listen her (without much trying to give solutions). Or if not just tell her don't worry if anytime she needs any help she can reach to you. Or tell anything light comforting words.

[JacobJordan]

Go talk to her and tell her you are there to listen. Then do 2 things. First shut up. Second listen. You will want to solve the problem and it will likely be easy to solve. She doesn't want a solution she wants to let it out so she doesn't have to carry it around.

[whiskeyontherocks]

Take her for a walk or a car ride. Or Just hold her and give her a few pets maybe rub her belly after you feed her.
Definitely get some treats so when she exhibits good behavior you can reward her.

[whiskeyontherocks]

Lol
this should not have gotten to the most helpful spot I’m dying

[octopus]

Here are some general tips on how to help a girl relax:

Listen Actively: Sometimes, the best way to help someone relax is to simply listen to them. Offer a non-judgmental ear and let her express her thoughts and feelings without trying to fix or solve her problems unless she asks for advice.

Create a Calm Environment: Help create a soothing environment where she can unwind.

Suggest Relaxation Techniques: Introduce her to relaxation techniques that she might find helpful, such as deep breathing exercises, meditation, or gentle yoga stretches. You can offer to do these activities together if she seems open to it.

Encourage Light Physical Activity: Sometimes, light exercise like a walk in the park, a short hike, or a leisurely bike ride can help release endorphins and reduce stress.

Offer to Help with Tasks: If her stress is due to being overburdened with responsibilities, offer to help with some tasks to lighten her load.

Plan a Relaxing Activity: Organize a relaxing activity that you know she enjoys, such as watching a movie, reading, crafting, or cooking a leisurely meal together.

Encourage Professional Help: If her stress or anxiety seems severe or chronic, gently suggest that she might find it helpful to talk to a professional, such as a therapist or counselor.

It’s important to ask her what she needs instead of assuming, as each person's idea of relaxation ca

[bobalife]

Be gentle, active listening, understanding, do things to make her feel better, supportive, and give her some space when needed :)

[andreasderjuengere]

Give her a reason to smile.

Which is NOT: making funny faces in front of her, of course :D

[laly520]

gentle nice talk, keep ur distance aka dont invade her personal space

[mbarsi01]

Ask if she wants to talk and take the hint if she doesn’t say yes

[Anonymous]

Tell her "relax". Because when has just telling someone who tense to relax ever failed?😆

[Twalli]

Tell her that you can help her with anything she needs.

[Avicenna]

Offer a massage

[BonzoInBitburg]

Remain calm, listen and be supportive

[Nikki1989]

Music and massages.

[AngryCarl]

Works for me!

[lorenzomichael]

Give her an orgasm she fucking go to sleep

[Anonymous]

Make her cum and give some neck kisses

[bobby_bush_eater]

Listen.