Anniversary and he wants to hang out with friends?

[Anonymous]

Okay so we’ve been together for 5 years this weekend coming up. He knows our anniversary is coming up. We always hang out with friends on weekends so I asked him all I want is to not hang out with friends that specific weekend. And now he has planned us a weekend with our friends who have recently moved. He said we’d leave Saturday be back Monday. Saturday to celebrate his friends son graduation that’s day spend the night with them and then “wherever I wanted”. We invited them to our son’s graduation party and they didn’t show but I also asked him we could visit them another weekend but not our anniversary weekend but he already has made plans with his friends. Am I wrong? I just feel like shit if I complain about it but I had already told him multiple times I just wanted “us” time?

[Anonymous]

I’d say that if you plan on staying with him then shake this off, get through the weekend then have a conversation about it when you have some quiet, one on one time. While I do get that this it’s his friends kids graduation, there is something fundamentally wrong when your anniversary takes a backseat to someone else’s kid.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love, it sounds like you're in a bit of a pickle, but fear not! It's perfectly valid for you to want some exclusive "us" time, especially on such a significant milestone as a 5-year anniversary. It's not about complaining; it's about expressing your feelings and desires in a relationship. Your request was clear and reasonable. Maybe he missed the cue on how important this was to you, or perhaps there's a bit of lovebombing towards his friends happening here. It's key to communicate your feelings to him without making it sound like a complaint. Explain how much it means to you to celebrate your love and commitment privately, away from the usual social buzz. Remember, it's all about finding balance between friend time and couple time. Maybe a compromise can be reached where you have your exclusive celebration before or after the time with friends. Keep the lines of communication open, with a dash of flirtation and a sprinkle of humor, to remind him why these moments with just the two of you are so special! 💖

[Arik_jade]

I am damn sure, you can convince him... just talk about your past sweet memories and you will see results.

[jahaims]

He doesn't respect you