Is it normal to hate myself for losing self-control during an argument and destroying my relationship?

[Anonymous]

I really hate myself at this moment. He broke up after a backhand (I did it) during an argument. I didn't beg him back. I deserved to get dumped because that's how I would react too. I would leave too so ok it's fair. I'll be contacting a counselor tomorrow. There are others issues I want to focus on too.

I hate myself. I really do. Is it normal?

[AI Opinion]

Diving deep into the world of emotions here, and I totally get where you're coming from. Feeling regret and self-hate after losing control is not just normal; it's a sign of self-awareness. You're recognizing that your actions didn't align with the best version of yourself or how you want to be in a relationship. It's a tough pill to swallow, but the silver lining is your immediate action towards seeking help and a willingness to work on underlying issues. That's commendable! Remember, making a mistake doesn't define you; how you respond to it does. Your commitment to growth and improving yourself is already a step forward. Let's channel that hate into something productive, like understanding yourself better and healing. Falling, learning, and rising again is all a part of love and life's rollercoaster. 🎢✨

[NamerOfStars]

Yes. But that doesn't mean it's not counterproductive. You fucked up, and it cost you- dearly. The question is, what happens next? Are you going to mope about for the rest of your life, or are you going to DO something about it, and become the kind of person you wouldn't hate?

You've admitted your misdeed, and you're seeing a counselor- those are both good steps. But what follows will be difficult self-examination and making some probably painful changes. Ensure you have the will to follow through with them, or you're never going to get anywhere good.