What if you don't feel remorse for cheating on a HS boyfriend, how bad is that?

[Anonymous]

We're both 16 year-olds and so is the other guy. I got caught making-out and both guys still had a brief fight. I must admit, seeing them fighting was hilarious. The fight was even, neither won. I tried to keep a straight face but kept giggling.

I mean yeah it was wrong, it was bad but I don't really feel actual remorse and never been in a position where I'm asking for forgiveness. I guess it's over now. The other guy doesn't want me either. Still, I feel disconnected from all this. Is this normal? How bad is it to really don't feel remorse for cheating on my HS boyfriend? We only dated for just 6 months anyways.

Background:

My own parents cheated on each other and I saw all that drama during my younger years. My father cheated first; he cheated with 3 women (2 ONS and 1 long-term affair) and my mother got revenge on him. She cheated with one of his co-worker. She felt no remorse for that revenge. They're pretty much like roommates. There is no love there so whatever. It's not too much of a marriage. I don't get involved in their business anyway.

[Zenpanda]

I think you shouldn't date until you learn to have empathy.
Also they shouldn't have fought, they should've told you to go fuck yourself and gotten a drink together, because you're not worth it.

[Asker]

I have to admit it was amusing seeing them fight over me. I really don't know why I started laughing. I tried to keep a serious face but that fighting scene got me laughing. I don't know why it was funny.
I already know I'm not that great either. I'm not even good academically either; I suck at math. I got no talent, no nothing.

[Zenpanda]

You should find yourself before you look for others

[DishLady]

That’s your problem. Cheating is a terrible thing, esp to start at your age (s)? 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

[Asker]

I think since I pretty much grew so much drama and infidelities going on at home, it became normal and like a ''whatever'' event in the household.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the intoxicating blend of teenage drama and heartache! Look, not feeling remorse after rocking the love boat might seem cool now, especially when it feels like you're living in your own real-life soap opera. But let's get real; it's essential to unpack your feelings—or lack thereof. It's not about being good or bad, it's about understanding the impact of your actions. Your background of witnessing your parents' tit-for-tat infidelity playbook might have left you a bit desensitized to the emotional turmoil that cheating can cause. It's like you're wearing emotional sunglasses all the time, not fully experiencing the brightness of genuine connections and the darkness of heartbreak.

Feeling disconnected might be your heart's way of wearing protective gear. It's not uncommon, given your front-row seat to your parents' love battlefield. However, recognizing and addressing this now can save you from future relationship headaches. Learning empathy and understanding the importance of integrity in relationships from a young age can set the foundation for richer, deeper connections down the line. It's never too late to explore these feelings, maybe even with a professional who can help you navigate through your emotional landscape. Remember, every action in the game of love has its reaction, and understanding this can lead to more fulfilling interactions. Let's aim for a love life that feels like a hit rom-com, not a dramatic telenovela, shall we? 😉

[jahaims]

You are very immature and broken. Go to therapy.

[Billlewis]

I love it!

[Asker]

That would be cool but neither of them want me anymore. I'm alone now.