Would you get back with your ex if things ended amicably?

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So i'm in a situation were I still talk to and even hangout with my ex from time to time. I broke up with her after 5-6 months of dating because at the time I felt in over my head and in hindsight for some other petty reasons, none of which I shared with my ex, I told her it was because of me and I think you know how that goes.

That was probably over a year ago now, and I think I still have feelings for her. Were going to be hanging out soon and she only invited one other person whom we both knew wouldn't be able to come cause they're always busy. What do y'all think? and what would y'all do in my shoes?

wiltingrosepetal · Accepted Answer

I have gotten back together with my ex, actually. We dated for 10 months when we were 13-14, then 8 more months when we were 17-18. He tried countless times to get back together with me while I went on a few first dates and eventually, I gave him a shot. Now we've been together for about 3 weeks.

Life is short. If you have someone you really enjoy the company of, then go for it. On our first date together since our break up, I sat in a shopping trolley and he ran me around an abandoned car park, then we got shitfaced while quoting Breaking Bad. He's my person, even though we're idiots who keep finding reasons to split. When you're young you're allowed to make as many dating mistakes as you want, so why are you worrying about what-ifs? Just have some fun 🙃

Vesuvius87 · Accepted Answer

At this point in my life, I only have two spots available for a man in my life.

- The relationship leads to marriage and he becomes my permanent companion, part of my family. I'm engaged now.

- The relationship ends and he becomes a random stranger I don't care to even acknowledge. My first ex boyfriend tried contacting me and my only reply was "I don't have an ex boyfriend, bye".

Therefore, I have no exes. I only have a fiance. I have no time for temporary people. Either be with me long-term or get lost.

RebelinSteel · Accepted Answer

Potentially yes and I sort of have done in the past.

My last long term relationship ended fine, we just could not manage the mix of me being away, her being away (out of country for both of us) and then her job changed with a move of country, so we ended it before it got ‘stressy’.

The one that was a sort of, was dating a girl before University, splitting up and then dating after university for a bit.

BCA6010 · Accepted Answer

I think it would depend on why exactly. Having a serious relationship and mutually deciding that we aren't good for each other isn't worth attempting to rekindle, but if it fell apart just because of distance or something like that, then maybe.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Diving back into the sea where an old love boat once sailed, huh? I'm here to navigate these waters with you. Let's unpack this trunk of feelings and memories. 😏

Rekindling a romance with an ex can be like re-reading a good book: you know the plot, but the details seem new. However, before you sail back to familiar shores, let's make sure you're not wearing rose-colored glasses. Reflect on why you broke up. Have those reasons truly vanished, or have you just learned to live with them?

Feeling in over your head the first time around but now considering a comeback tour suggests you've grown. But here's the real tea: Communication is key. If you're serious about giving it another shot, spill your heart out, but also lend an ear to her feelings and apprehensions.

It sounds like she might be setting the stage for a duo performance rather than a group gig, which could be her way of saying, "Let's see where this goes." Before you play your heartstrings in her presence, ensure you're tuned to the same key.

What would I do? I'd make sure I'm not just chasing nostalgia. If my feelings were genuine and I believed we've both evolved beyond our past issues, I'd express my feelings honestly but gently. No grand gestures or lovebombing, just a heartfelt conversation about where I stand and an open invitation for her to share her thoughts.

Remember, love is about harmonizing, not performing solo. Good luck, and may your love story have a beautiful encore! 🎵

AviatorTom · Answer

Shortly after the breakup, I would have considered it. But we have both moved on. She has remarried and I have an SO... 8 years and counting.

_Maya_ · Answer

Yes, I would if I were single and things were right to get back together. I have had an amicable breakup. The person I was dating transferred schools to about 7 hours away. She had changed her major and the school she was transferring to was better suited for her new career path. So we ended things. We didn't want to do it but we both knew that a 7 hour commute to see each other was not practical. So we did what any reasonable people would do and had to say goodbye to each other. If I was single and we crossed paths again and things were right to date or have a relationship then of course I would consider it based on what a good relationship we had in the past.

provokeesmokee · Answer

Not any of my current exes.

I have since raised my standards and found better people, and better skills in avoiding bad ones.

My exes are not worth it:

Underemployed cheating vanilla as fuck loser
Asshat American Idiot (it was COVID LDR ok and he nearly got barred from the country)
Late blooming anxious-avoidant lesbian horsegirl who didn't know she could also be asexual

PreferNot2Say · Answer

No relationship ever ends amicably. They all end bad or they wouldn't end at all. You just have a problem with letting go of your past. Hanging out with your ex is destructive to you and all of your future relationships. Move on and stop talking to her. You don't have to be mean and you can be friendly if you run into her.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I dated one girl where we broke up not for any incompatibility but because she was going to the East Coast for university and my business tethered me to California. If she were to come back here, I would consider dating her again. For all others, we tried and it did not work so we parted on good terms but I cannot see going for a second act with any of them.

sage2021 · Answer

I would if they didn't cheat on me and wouldn't cheat or lie to me. Sure, why not?

Nirmroth · Answer

Before you proceed to do anything more go into you and think about whetever you're really missing her as person or the benefits of what a relationship brings like intimacy, having someone close to talk to, etc

beechseason23 · Answer

I haven’t hung out with any of MY ex’s but my girlfriends ex yes we have invited him over 3 times and not go watch movies and gossip. Soon as I realized how turned on I was when she showed me a picture of his 10 inch weapon, we had to go for it see what happened.

sheikalana · Answer

Never! I'm happily married now but when I was single there was never an ex I wished to go back with. Once you're my ex you'll never hear from me ever again.

Account · Answer

I do not feel anything. Nothing, zilch. Why would I? I am not a masochist and I wouldn't want to be with a person I have zero feelings for.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

We got back together and married now.  we were in a very diff. situation compared to you.  you two should talk…see how things go.

Princesspd · Answer

My exes will always have a place in my heart. I think about them when I have an argument or disagreement with my husband.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

You broke up with your ex and still hang out with her…… bro just tell her you wanna get back together and make things work for the better. If that don’t work, leave her alone

Likes2drive · Answer

It never works, sure you can be friends but the same problems come up and people never change

Radiate143 · Answer

Leave her alone. You'll just break her heart again. Find a different way to fill the void within you instead of using women as a band aid.

Anonymous · Answer

He’ll Yeah. He F—KED me like a God. Like a superhero he F—KED me.  Like a damn baddass he F—KED me. Like a badboy , like a jock/ stallion.

blueonblack22 · Answer

I have never had an amicable breakup so this option doesn’t apply to me.

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

In a hypothetical sense maybe. None of the exes I currently have though.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Sure, if they came back to the locality because we split rather than trying the ever-doomed long distance

thisAppIsGarbage · Answer

I'm still friends with all of my exes. I'd spend time with them but I would never open up emotionally again. This isn't baseball, you don't get three strikes to break my heart.

Alex-Snow · Answer

It might be worth a try as long as we were both open and honest with each other

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Why? She has been getting run through for the last year. Move on.

triatletha · Answer

Why not? Sometimes you need the support of someone who knows you before

DishLady · Answer

Nope. The ex is always an ex for good reason.

LaurenM1997 · Answer

Nah an ex is an expired date 😂

SotiCoto · Answer

Don't see why not.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Sure why not?

dudeinohio · Answer

Nope

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