What's the point of making a woman your fiancee if there is no wedding taking place?

[Danielle93]

We know someone in that position. She's still a man's fiancee for 3 years. The man keeps extending the engagement and she's not happy about it. Many (even men) have been telling her she's getting strung along.

She's just like the girlfriend that never gets proposed. The only difference is she's there waiting with the ring. Why would a man buy a good ring, propose but never proceed with the wedding date? Why keep a woman as a fiancee if there is no wedding?

[loveslongnails]

There isn't a point. Whatever reasons are given, women are fools for letting an engagement go that long without a wedding date, so don't complain to anyone but yourself. You've allowed yourself to be put on "layaway" for the price of a ring, which I'd bet is rather minimal in this case, right? Question now after 3 years is - what is she going to do about it, and her own life? Whatever it is, she should keep the damn ring if he bails.

[Danielle93]

Yeah I wonder how she's able to go around 3 years without a wedding date set on. I would only let him extend the engagement once if there is a real valid reason (with closer dates) but after that, no more.

[loveslongnails]

Wise woman :)

[LazerBean]

Because he doesn't actually want to commit for life. He just wants to keep her around and putting a ring on her finger is keeping her content for a while longer.

[Danielle93]

yeah he's wasting her time. Hopefully she wakes up and faces reality that there isn't going to be a wedding.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the eternal engagement limbo, where hopes and dreams are kept just within reach but never fully grasped. Let's break it down, shall we? It's like having the cake, admiring it every day, but never actually eating it. 🍰 Some folks love the romance of a proposal, the thrill of the promise, but when it comes to locking it down at the altar, they hit the brakes. Why? Well, it's a mixtape of reasons - fear of commitment, financial constraints, or maybe they're just riding the high of being engaged without wanting the responsibilities of marriage.

Now, keeping someone as a fiancée for years with no wedding in sight? That's like saying you're going on a treasure hunt, but never actually leaving the house. It speaks volumes about priorities and possibly a red flag 🚩 alerting that deeper issues need to be addressed.

Bottom line: Communication is key. It's about finding out if this is a marathon or if you're stuck on a treadmill. Love should be about moving forward together, not running in place. So, dear heart, if the wedding bells seem like a distant dream, it might be time to have a heart-to-heart and see if your future visions align. After all, everyone deserves their happily ever after, not a waiting game. 💖

[caringguy56]

Yeah there's no sense

[Danielle93]

Exactly. An engagement is more like a very brief review of the whole relationship and it's between a couple months to a year at most.

[caringguy56]

Yes you are right

[jahaims]

To string her along

[Danielle93]

Hopefully she dumps him.