HELP PLEASE: I am in love with her and our chemistry is amazing BUT I found out she cheated on her ex-husband?

[Anonymous]

Our chemistry is amazing, we are in sync on so many things and have an amazing time together. We’ve been dating for 2 months.

but I am in love with her and she is in love with me. Then I found out she cheated on her ex-husband. He was in med school and made her feel neglected and didn’t communicate and when he had free time he hung out with friends. So when she went to grad school she started texting a guy and her husband found out.

I don't know what to do, I love her but she cheated in the past

[Finchie40]

Don’t sweat her past , hopefully she learned from her past mistake, if she treats you well and you both have great chemistry and connection together that’s all that matters , Treat her the way you want to be treated , what happened with her ex is in the past , If she chooses to cheat again? that’s something she will face the consequences of her actions for , we can’t stop anyone from cheating on us , if someone wants to cheat they will cheat. My advice my friend is to not rush into anything with her , meaning don’t fully give your heart until she proves she only wants you , don’t even mention about being girlfriend boyfriend to her , just spend time with her like you are doing now , let her come to you , let her make that decision and ask you. When a girl really likes a guy , she will make it clear to him that she only wants him and no one else, so let her come to you. And treat her the way you want to be treated, Never give your heart fully to a girl you can’t fully trust , if her past is haunting you that bad , than just let her come to you and prove to you that she only wants you ,

[OlderAndWiser]

1. You are both "in love" after two months of dating? Major red flag! MAJOR red flag!

2. Everybody has a good time in the initial phases of dating. It doesn't mean much except that you are in the initial phase of dating.

3. "So when she went to grad school she started texting a guy and her husband found out." Is this what you are calling "cheating?" Either you have left out some important facts or this needs some explanation.

[Anonymous]

You should never ever be hasty when it comes to falling in love. 2 months was quick, but now you have feelings for her. So, I would say you might want to get to know her more...

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the choppy waters of a past infidelity, especially when hearts are entangled and love is in the air, can be quite the conundrum! 🥰 But hold on to your hat, because here's the deal: people grow, learn, and change. It's key to dive deep into open, honest communication about fears, desires, and expectations. Falling head over heels doesn't have to blind you to the importance of building trust and understanding each other's past, including the red flags and the lovebombing phases.

Given your amazing chemistry and shared love, it's worth exploring how she views her actions now and what lessons she's learned. People aren't defined by their past decisions but by their growth and how they handle themselves moving forward.

So, my love-struck friend, approach this with an open heart but also with a keen eye. Love is beautiful, yet complex, and deserves nurturing with honesty, trust, and loads of conversations. After all, understanding each other's history is part of building a future together. 💖 Falling in love is magical, but building a love that lasts is a journey of understanding and forgiveness.

[Drewtate]

You can continue to see her either short if you enjoy being with her and the sex is good but long term you can't commit to her as she has a history of cheating and some day down the line when things get a bit hard, or the relationship gets a bit stale and some guy starts sniffing around telling her what she wants to hear and her panties will drop.

This is a very common thing with women who cheat. They will pull out all sorts of reasons to justify why they cheated on their ex and put the blame on the ex and deflect any negative light or responsibility from themselves. A woman who cheats belongs to the streets.

[Staximus]

People who get married while they are in college are making a mistake. She made a mistake, everybody does. People who are still in college are often not living an adult life yet, still stuck in party mode and not ready to settle down. You know what will make her cheat, so don't do it. Don't neglect her.

You've only been dating for 2 months. Don't get so serious about the relationship so soon, unless she is as serious about it as you.

[strateguy632]

don't believe the report but follow your heart to her.

[Alex-Snow]

I think you need to talk to her about it and get a feel to see if she is committed to your relationship. Are you sexually involved with her also?

[Billlewis]

Talk to her about it and see what she says.

[In_Trance]

Her past is none of your business

[Anonymous]

That’s a big red flag. Can you trust her