She cheated on her boyfriend with me. Girls and Guys I really need help , in a very difficult situation!?

[kdog3000]

well lets start at the beginning, first she had a boyfriend for two years then she started to like me when she was still in the relationship . Then she cheated on him with me ...he never found out . They broke up we dated for like 2 months after that then she was caught up in the past and now she is sorta back with him I don't know what to do though because I still like her. I have told her I really like her and will be there for her...we go to the same school and are also in the same classes I have been ignoring her , Is that the right thing to do? I need some positive long responses on what to do!?

[Anonymous]

I'm an older guy, so let me give you some advice.

If she'll cheat on him, she'll cheat on you. She's got low integrity to do what she done. Albeit she was probably having problems with him and in her warped judgement got in bed with you. Women get this "self justification" for cheating...which is backward. But not all of then. A classy girl would of not done that.

This girl is no good for you. I know it's exciting that she got in bed with you when she was supposed to be unobtainable. But still she'll be problematic in the future.

Your best bet is to stay away from her. I know that's tough to do since you are in school with her and all. Also DO NOT do anything that would because her boyfriend to find out...that is if you respect this guy or not. In his situation, fiction is a good thing. It REALLY IS WOULD BE BETTER if he never found out.

I've had girls cheat on their bf's with me twice before. Not proud of it at all...but the a**hole part of me took over at the time. It's BAD KARMA.

[cavmanier]

She was with him long term. She probably got angry or felt unappreciated in that relationship so she turned to you out of resentment of her boyfriend. She was only with you for 2 months and went back to her boyfriend. Obviously he is who she really wants. I think you were just used to fuel her anger for her guy momentarily but she probably loves him. I'd give up on her even though I bet it hurts. I know she's your friend but personally I would morally be inclined to tell her boyfriend that you guys hooked up behind his back. I'd try to do it in a non threatening way and wouldn't try and hold it over his head.

[kdog3000]

I have no respect for her boyfriend at all ,and when like I see her in school she just looks miserable and it does suck knowing that you deserve a girl more than the actual boyfriend does. I would do anything to get this girl back, but I just don't know what she is thinking and if I did know what she was thinking it would help.

[Yriuqni]

This is obviously not going anywhere.. you seem to be the good guy, and she seems to be the bad one who will most probably hurt you! I really wanna be positive and help you , but a relation that starts on wrong grounds, never ends up well! First she cheated on her boyfriend , so basically she doesn't mind cheating .. which is a huge deal! .. second , she is playing with both of you , she doesn't love either of you .. she is just choosing the " better" and she just keeps a "spare" for herself .. you my man are her spare.. do you like that ? I understand that because you like her, you are gonna try to find a ton of excuses , but come on , this is reality .. she is not good!

[cavmanier]

Doubt he's that much of a good guy enabling her cheating.

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[Ingestmarley]

Honestly, what you have said to her is already said. STOP telling her things, like you really like her etc... she already knows that. Girls don't like to be overwhelmed w./ information, just knowing is fine. If we want to hear it again, we'll make it clear trust me. Second of all, of course don't ignore her, but don't be too clingy either. Just saying HI would be fine. If she likes you...you will know. good luck!

[waaaa]

nice answer!

[kdog3000]

Is there anything else I could do maybe besides for just saying hi?

[Ingestmarley]

ask her how she is, small talk...nothing big. Definitely don't say anything about ya'lls relationship or anything to do with it. By doing that, that'll show her you respect her and no matter what you'll be there

[kdog3000]

Wouldnt that be a good thing though I don't know like there has to be something else I can do I don't like just giving up on something I spent two months likeing

[Ingestmarley]

No. All you really have to do is let nature take it's course. There is a match for everyone out there. This girl might/might not be the one. If she is, you'll have her. And if she isn't you'll find yourself happy with someone else. It's always important to love yourself first, because before you can love anyone else that should be the main thing. Just trust me on this one.

[Kladdpapper]

If she cheated on her boyfriend then why would she not cheat on you if you two got together? I think it was already a bad move of you to help he cheat despite knowing she had a boyfriend. I would advice you to look for a woman who do not have a history of cheating :)

[kdog3000]

There was a little differen circumstances because we had been really close friends before that I don't think she would do it to me if she does come back...It was a bad move for me to assist her in cheating as well and I would do it different if I had the chance . She is just different than like any girl I know of

[Kladdpapper]

I'm just going to say this; If she lied and cheated on her boyfriend, what makes you think she won't lie and cheat on you once you get together too? My advice is to let her sort herself out. A person who cheats clearly do not value their relationship and if she didn't value her boyfriend then why would she be fateful to you? I think she might just keep you on the hook for an ego boost, but it's up to you if you want to go for it or not.

[Anonymous]

So she cheated on her boyfriend with you and then she broke up with her boyfriend to date you but now she's back with her boyfriend and you think she'll be good in a relationship why?

I never understood why people would want to get into a relationship with someone who's already proved they'll cheat on you if something better comes along. I'd sleep with a girl who had a boyfriend but I'd never make her my girlfriend. Wtf is wrong with you?

[karenk93]

Honestly she sounds like she's trying to string you along. Ignore her and find someone else.

[kdog3000]

Im not sure if that's it either because like I spent two months with her , I think she just might be really caught up because that was really her first anything

[Yriuqni]

I second this answer.. she is so immature and she ll most probably end up hurting you .. No wait , I am actually sure!

[BCRanger10]

Man, she's not worth your time. Keep doing what you're doing: ignoring her.