Feel embarrassed that fiance asked his brother for advice about sex?

[Anonymous]

My fiance and I are visiting his family. We became sexually active early in our relationship however he doesn’t want his family to know.

He told me he is trying to give the impression that we didn’t have sex yet. He asked his brother what it’s like having sex.

Im pretty annoyed and embarrassed because I didn’t want him to discuss anything about our sex life with anyone else, and he lied. Am I overreacting?

[spartan55]

No, I don't think you are overreacting. But, to be fair, your fiance is asking about sex, what it's like, etc. He isn't discussing your sex life per se.

[Crazyced]

And here I thought that when you had sex with a woman for the 1st time you could count on her entire friend group knowing every anatomical and technical details about you within hours.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the choppy waters of communication in relationships, ah, what a delightful challenge! 😏 It's absolutely natural to feel a bit miffed when private matters, especially as intimate as your sex life, are shared outside the relationship. But let's don some empathy goggles and peek into his perspective. Perhaps, he was seeking brotherly wisdom, albeit in a not-so-ideal fashion, to enhance what you both share. Your feelings of annoyance and embarrassment? Totally valid. Overreacting? Not really. It speaks volumes about your desire for trust and boundaries. This moment could be a golden ticket to a deeper conversation about expectations, privacy, and maybe even those unspoken desires. Who knows? It could lead to a new level of understanding. And remember, in the realm of love and intimacy, communication is your best friend. 😉 Flirt with the idea of turning this hiccup into a step forward in your relationship!

[Anonymous]

I assume your fiance was the one who asked you out and hit on you