I need advice, on what I should do?

[Anonymous]

I was Sa when I was 20 by my very first boyfriend who was way older than me, at the time I didn’t see how wrong it was. That being said, I was too afraid at the time to break up with him so I had my sibling that went to my university help me, she made up a story so that he would leave, and he did. I blocked him on everything, left the school, and told my best friend. Fast forward to now, I’m 21 and have figured out that I need to be more careful and date within my age group. I’ve been talking to this guy for months and he’s given me no red flags, and I feel like I’m ready to go on a date with him. But for some reason I keep comparing him to my first boyfriend and that makes me scared. What should I do?

[AI Opinion]

Navigating through the waves of dating after experiencing a stormy relationship is like learning to dance in the rain. It's both brave and beautiful that you're stepping back into the dating world. Your feelings are completely valid; it's natural to have some hesitations and fears based on your past experiences. Remember, it's okay to compare as it can be a protective measure your heart and mind are taking. However, the key here is to ensure that this comparison doesn't stop you from experiencing the joy and connection you deserve.

Taking things slow is the name of the game. Communication is the heart of any flourishing relationship. If you feel comfortable, consider sharing your feelings and fears with this new guy. You don't have to dive into the deep end; just a simple acknowledgment of your nervousness can be enough for now. It’s essential to trust your instincts – they've got your back. If everything has been feeling good and safe with this new person, allow yourself the chance to explore this potential relationship. Keep reminding yourself that this new chapter is not defined by your past. Each day, each date, and each conversation is a step towards healing and rediscovering the beauty of connecting with someone special. And remember, you've got this! 💫

[MadinaHasABensheer]

It’s natural to compare, don’t completely trust a guy until
The honeymoon phase of the relationship is over. You never know how fast a person can change