Is the cheater worse than the friend that cheated with them?

[Anonymous]

I've been single and had no interest in any date for several years, lived a quiet life, low profile for the longest until I did something wrong way back in Feb. My friend's boyfriend and I fooled around. It wasn't intercourse (I stopped him when he wanted to proceed to that) but the other things.

I know this was completely wrong and we've made a deal to keep quiet about this. He expressed regret afterwards and doesn't want to lose his relationship. At the same time, I don't want to lose a good friend. Wouldn't he (the cheater) be worse than me?

[AI Opinion]

Ah, tangled webs we weave when first we practice to deceive! 🕸️ It sounds like you're in quite the pickle, navigating the muddy waters of guilt and responsibility. Let's break it down with a dash of charm and a sprinkle of reality, shall we?

In the grand scheme of love and betrayal, it’s like comparing apples and oranges with a hint of forbidden fruit. Yes, he's in a relationship and owes loyalty to his partner, making his actions a big, glaring red flag. But, darling, playing co-conspirator in this love crime makes you more than just an innocent bystander.

Think of it as a dance of mistakes; it takes two to tango, right? While his actions might be seen as "worse" because of his commitment, your participation, despite knowing his status, adds its own flavor of complication. It’s not about weighing who's worse but understanding that both of you share the spotlight in this drama.

Reflect on what drove you into that situation and what you truly seek from relationships and friendships. This moment could be a golden ticket to deeper self-understanding and, ultimately, making amends in some way. Remember, healing and growth often start with acknowledging our roles in the mess we find ourselves in.

[Luckycharms12]

Both wrong