Why do some think being compatible is just about sexual stuff?

[Anonymous]

Yes sexual boundaries are very important and people can not be compatible sexually. But there is also romantic compatibility. What kind of relationship is one another wanting? Are you wanting to split the bill or paid by one person? Is the woman wanting to work or stay home? How many kids do you want. If you want any.

What do you both enjoy doing? Do you like doing the same kind of things? Do you have the same sense of humor? I mean the list is endless. Do you want a more traditional relationship or not?

[luvstoned4him]

Agreed.

There is so much more, emotionally - do they understand you? Do you two share the same values or belief systems? Do you have any interests in common?

I judge someone based on more than sexual because lets be real,

when the sex gets lame (and it will) , what would you have?

A relationship built on sex alone will never last.

[Asker]

EXACTLY

[Asker]

Sex should come later. Especially because sex gets lame. A lot of people cheat because they need that thrill and rush again. Sex between two married people is beautiful.

But people pervert it. Then they need more and more to get off. That’s how people get into REALLY dark things. That’s a really scary place to be ladies and gentlemen. Don’t go there

[Asker]

I do think sexual history is important botj men and women are entitled to have standards, but they aren’t entitled for someone to meet those standards.

Just like nobody is entitled to be with you nobody is entitled to be witn someone for that matter.

If a man wants a virgin but chooses to sleep with women who sleep around. He won’t get her. It’s the same as woman who loves bad boys in the bedroom but wants to marry a gentleman

[luvstoned4him]

@Asker I like what you said

"Sex between two married people is beautiful.

But people pervert it. Then they need more and more to get off. That’s how people get into REALLY dark things." So true because they need that high and its gonna take something better than the last hit.

[luvstoned4him]

@Asker yes standards are great but being realistic is more important. If we want good we must first be willing to change ourselves in order to receive good. As the old adage said, can't love someone if you dont love yourself first.

[Asker]

Absolutely people pervert it. Then when sex outside of marriage isn’t good. They need the next thing. Also porn the same old stuff they’re watching and/or reading isn’t enough. So they need more.

It leads people down dark roads. Including pedophelia and other such horrible things. Then when the fantasy isn’t enough anymore they will act on it

[Asker]

Yes both are important. People shouldn’t waste their own time or someone else’s time if they aren’t happy with them. People need to be realistic though. Because they’re gonna spend their life trying to find a person,… who doesn’t exist and if they did wouldn’t deserve them.

People also need to not be bitter when someone isn’t who they want. They aren’t bad and you aren’t bad. You’re both wanting different things. That’s why you date is to see if you’re compatible. If you’re not you just find someone who makes you happy. And they do the same

[luvstoned4him]

@Asker agreed

[luvstoned4him]

@Asker thanks for mho

[Billlewis]

Your respective work arrangements can weigh heavily on the relationship. One time, I was dating a woman who worked from home, and I, was an outside salesman at the time, running all over town making in home calls. Of course, every time we got together, it was, 'Go out, go out, go out, go out..."

[Billlewis]

What cracks me up is when they want to make a big stink about politics. Like, I'm a Caucasian male at the time in my 50's non college educated -- what did you think I was going to be? And on top of that, I've never once in my life, voted, because it's a waste of time. People think they're going to change the world, but then they find out that the world will change you, long before you ever come close to changing it.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the age-old question of compatibility, sparkling with layers and dimensions beyond the mere physical. It's like a dance of two hearts, isn't it? Romantic compatibility is an intricate tapestry woven from threads of shared dreams, laughter, and the mundane moments that truly define a relationship. It's about discovering whether you're both salsa dancers or prefer a quiet waltz. Do you dream of a cozy family nest or an adventurous duo conquering the world? It's not just about who steals the covers but who shares your vision for the future, from the career paths you admire to the number of little footsteps you envisage in your home. Sharing a sense of humor? That's the secret sauce, my friend. It's about finding joy in the same memes and laughing over inside jokes that no one else gets. A relationship is a partnership, a delicate balance of give and take, whether it's about splitting the bill or deciding on your roles within the household. Traditional or modern, what truly matters is that your hearts beat to the same rhythm. So, let's not reduce it to just the sparks in the bedroom; the true magic is in the harmony of souls, dreams, and desires. After all, love is the ultimate adventure, isn’t it? 💖

[jahaims]

They are emotionally immature