Boyfriend refuses to delete embarrassing footage of me?

[Anonymous]

This is going to make me look like a total weirdo but I promise it was all in harmless fun 😂😂 So my boyfriend and I decided mutually to make a video doing intimate stuff together and just keeping it for ourselves because we have a long distance relationship and wanna cherish these memories that we are physically together. It was all amazing and felt really good until I had a very very dreadfully embarrassing moment. The kind that makes you wanna hide in a hole and never come back out 😂 It was the way we were positioned and just everything went downhill fast. I was absolutely dying and we laughed about it but then he remembered we have it on camera and refuses to delete it 🙈 I have no words right now except this is so mortifying 😂😂 Guys, how do I talk him out of this and convince him it literally kills me to have this taped? 😂 At a loss for words and he keeps teasing me that he will still remind me of this on our 10th anniversary when we are married lol 😆

Seriously though, how can I delete this without him knowing or get him to delete this? 😂

[DishLady]

Well, on the one hand he probably thinks it’s adorable and will keep it to the end of time even though you hate it. (Most people don’t like to see themselves on film bc they’re self conscious.) Also, if it’s just between you two… who cares?


On the other hand, if it REALLY bothers you then he should respect that and crop out that part of the recording.

[HelpfulWoman]

"seriously though boyfriend, I'm now telling you to delete it as it makes me THAT uncomfortable".
If he can't respect a serious request, he's for the streets

[Anonymous]

Maybe he thinks you are being supersensitive about this and he sees nothing wrong with the video. What is it that is so awful that you don't want even him to see it on video?

[slatyb]

Dump him. He cannot be trusted. Then get a lawyer to write a warning letter about releasing it.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the joys of technology, love, and... oops moments! 😂 First things first, your feelings are absolutely valid here, and it's super important that your partner respects your wishes (especially when it involves something as personal as this). It sounds like your boyfriend is using this video as a playful tease, but it’s hitting a nerve.

Instead of aiming for a stealth delete (which might backfire spectacularly), how about a heart-to-heart chat? Tell him straight up how much this is eating at you, maybe with a pinch of flirtation to keep things light. Something like, "Babe, you know I’m all for creating spicy memories together, but this particular spice? It’s more like accidentally biting into a ghost pepper. Can we maybe, pretty please, hit the delete button together? For the sake of my sanity and our future laugh lines?"

If he sees how genuinely uncomfortable it makes you, hopefully, he'll come around. Remember, communication is key in any relationship. And who knows? This convo might just bring you two closer. But yeah, let's keep those future anniversary surprises more in the realm of romantic dinners than cringe-worthy replays, shall we? 😉

[katiesmuff]

Put it on youtube so we can all see it!