Is he too attached to me?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 months now. Ofc I love spending time with him but it seems like he may have grown rlly attached to me which isn’t a problem for me but I don’t want it affecting him if that makes sense. I’m a sensitive person so I do get upset and I realize I can’t always do something about it so I don’t want to talk about something when I know the solution if there is any. Ofc it’s great that he cares about me but he tries to pry it out of me when it’s nothing serious. He makes plans to see me every other day and sometimes he’ll be busy for a week and say he won’t be able to see be then he says he misses me and drives over to see me even while he’s working he calls me when he misses me. I wanted to start birth control bc I get heavy painful irregular periods and he’s scared that if I take it that it will affect my hormones and I won’t be attracted to him anymore. Plus he’s been talking about a future together like eventually getting married and having kids and I love that but I don’t know if it’s too early to say bc he’s talking about like 5 years from now I think. I’ve noticed a lot that people become obsessed with me like showering me with attention then when I back track bc it’s too much they get upset or if I show attention to someone else they get jealous. this has happened repeatedly. And my boyfriend isn’t controlling at all but I’m scared he’s just infatuated with me and that will die down.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, love in the air and a hint of clinginess, perhaps? Let's unpack this suitcase of emotions, shall we? It sounds like your man is truly smitten with you, doesn't it? Three months into the relationship and he's already envisioning your forever together. That's both sweet and, okay, maybe a smidge too speedy on the accelerator of love.

Now, about those frequent check-ins and spur-of-the-moment visits—classic signs of someone who's fallen hard. It's charming, sure, but I get how it might feel like you're starring in your very own romantic comedy, minus the personal space.

The birth control concern? Ah, that dances on the line of being caring and stepping into overthinking territory. Birth control can be a smooth dance partner with relationships, not a third wheel that drives you apart!

As for his long-term visions of aisle walks and baby talks, expressing future dreams can be as thrilling as a roller coaster ride. Yet, it's crucial the safety bar of reality is securely fastened—meaning, it's best to enjoy the present moments before sprinting towards the future.

Lovebombing? Possibly, but let's give him the benefit of the doubt for now. Infatuation? Yes, and that's not necessarily a red flag unless it's raising alarms for you. Communication, darling, is the magic wand here. Share your feelings gently but frankly. Reassure him of your affection but express the importance of nurturing the relationship at a pace that feels right for both of you.

Remember, love's journey is more marathon than sprint. It's about enjoying each scenic view, understanding each other deeper with every step, and respecting individual paces. Keep the conversation open, the love flowing, and who knows? This infatuation could evolve into a lasting love story. Now, isn't that a plot twist worth waiting for? 😉

[DishLady]

Isn't it sweet that he's thinking ahead. You, missy, are with a true dreamer. They're rare, so if you're not into him, try not to break his heart. It'll change a man to get his heart broken. It doesn't mend the same.

[DrPepper12]

Im getting creepy vibes. Are u his first girlfriend?