Is he not that into me or I’m over thinking?

[Anonymous]

I’m getting to know someone, we were on the phone for an hour… he was telling me I’m his twin flame.. we have so much in common, but I don't know if he’s just sweet talking. Then he dedicated a song to me and us as our first song. But after an hour, he asked if it’s okay he is gonna go play games with his roommmate and then call me back? I don’t think it’s bad but I’m just not used to a guy having an hour call with me and then leaving me to play games… lol. It makes me wonder was he not that into me and our talk?

[kylee2437]

An hour of being on the phone is more than enough. I actually can’t stand hour long phone calls. People have lives to continue on with outside of the phone. As long as he is making efforts to hang out in person, then there’s nothing to worry about

[Asker]

Got it

[kylee2437]

Best advice here is let a man do what he wants to fill his free time with. If a man feels suffocated away from his interests, he is going to leave you alone forever.

[Asker]

I agreed. It’s not a problem, it’s just adjustment since I’m not used to it during a call… usually I have guys in the past who has longer calls with me

[Asker]

Tbh usually I’m more busy than him but I guess I’m staying in tonight cuz I’m not feeling too well. So I was a little surprise with that too that now I have more time to give… and I know yesterday he told me he didn’t have much going on today so we can talk on phone

[kylee2437]

Less is definitely more. There’s no need to be on the phone with someone that long. A lot of guys use phone time so they don’t have to cater to in person time as much

[Asker]

Wdym less is definitely more? We text everyday and he has been calling every other few days, I think yesterday and today was the first back to back. We do have abit of distance. But he said maybe in a couple months on meeting.

[kylee2437]

@asker so you both haven’t met yet?

[Asker]

Not yet.
I’m not in a rush since we have abit distance and I have school priorities coming up in Fall. I also like feeling like if he wants me, he will try. If he doesn’t, then oh wells. I think I’m overthinking it abit only because I’m not used to it but I’m starting to like him and so I get scare on being hurt.

[kylee2437]

Well you aren’t overthinking things now. in my opinion talking for a few months hoping that the spark will last to meet up in a few months rarely works. But right back to my point and I may add, I wouldn’t put so much importance into this guy at the very moment. Meeting in person and actually liking him in person is by far one of the most important things to make this situation possible.

[Asker]

Girl you’re totally reading my thoughts… I also question it lately because it will be a while… and I really don’t know until I meet him. So when he was sayin we were twin flames. It’s so sweet but I don’t even know if he means it… because we’ve been talking for almost 2 months but idk… I just get scare of getting hurt and so I start to overthink…

[Asker]

But yeah I’m trying to stay detach even though I know we are really getting more connected… I just don’t really know what will happen and if me or him could lose feelings/spark while not meeting

[kylee2437]

@asker next time he tells you that, don’t just buy into it, say something along the lines of “well I’m not sure if we are twin flames because we haven’t met in person yet” I used to do this stuff with my boyfriend when he would say “you’re mine” without asking me to be his girlfriend. I would say “I want you to be mine” because ain’t no way you are mine and I’m yours if there’s no title. Don’t take a man’s words literal, let him know that his actions need to follow

[Danny_dan92]

Calm tf down. You sound clingy af.




Legit. Take that opportunity to go take care of things you need to take care of. If he doesn’t talk to you for more than half a day then yeah, maybe start being concerned

[Asker]

Very calm no ty. Simply just curious. But okay.

[Danny_dan92]

Clearly not. You want this guy to be glued to you like flies on dog 💩.

Relax. Look at what the girl said on your question. Even she’s saying the same thing

[Asker]

I don’t have a problem if someone was that into me.

I never disagree about having our own lives which we do but I was curious that’s all since I’m not used to
It. You over exaggerate a simple question 😪

[Danny_dan92]

You tell me I’m exaggerating. When you’re literally doing that in the form of overthinking, thinking a guy you’re talking to isn’t that into you because he stopped talking to you to go do something else.

[DishLady]

You kept a guy on a phone for an hour and are legitimately thinking he’s not into you… or are you using this space to brag?