Do you have the right to demand anything of your partner in a long term relationship?

[Anonymous]

[OlderAndWiser]

"Demand" sounds like a confrontation and that is certainly proceed in the wrong direction. You should have already had discussions about our expectations of each other, and it is reasonable to remind your partner that they made promises which you expect them to keep. . . because honoring mutual promises is the foundation of a relationship.

[Jamie05rhs]

I completely agree. Well said!

[SugarSugarplum]

If you're going into a relationship asking what you can demand out of the other person, you're doing it wrong. You should wake up every day asking what you can give to your partner, not what you can extract.

If your partner feels the same, a mere suggestion that you'd like his assistance on something should be enough to get them to help.

Love is not a game where you keep score, and one of you wins by extracting more out of the other. Love keeps no record of wrongs.

[DishLady]

Well, there will be some small concessions on both sides as they prepare for a sustainable LTR.

[Purpleronnie]

Demand … no not a whole lot apart from your right to be treated as an equal and with respect etc The same basic rights we “should” be affording any other human. Demand is not something that can and should sit well in a relationship. Relationships are built through support , love , compromise. A lot of what you have in a relationship is earned like “trust” there are all great foundations.
“Demands” don’t really have a place !

[midnightmoon05]

I’m sure by now you know how to communicate with your partner nicely regarding love…

if there is no love… then demand will come in place when communicating… is this where you are?

[Breanna_nonbinary]

You have no right to demand anything except to be treated with respect as a human being. Other than that you have the right to ask for anything. They also have the right to refuse.

[BetaBucks]

"demand" is a strong word so it's not right to do it for anything. You can demand loyalty, and non-abusive treatment. You can request anything you want though.

[RainbowMarinade]

If you have to “demand” your partner do something, there are issues.

[Miristheiss]

No. Anything is too broad of a term.

The couple should know each others' values and boundaries at the outset before committing and agree to that before committing.

[paledreams]

I couldn't stand a demanding relationship or demanding partner - lol I'm too easy cool for that - I don't want a couch layabout yet I don't want a strict still sergeant either for a girlfriend

[paledreams]

*drill not still

[elizamichale1]

Well its both yes n no coz yea u can ask each other whatever but then u got to make compromises too as its not going to be possible to meet every demand of each other

[EmmaMary]

No one has any rights whatsoever in making demands.

[KrisKris81]

In my opinion, healthy long term relationships are based off compromise, not demands. Unless those demands are to prevent criminal behavior, or something similar.

[Universaldance]

Extend to me a bit of her faith to trust me, show some grace, and loyalty

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yeah, no cheating, no abuse. But avoiding those shouldn't be things you need to request, your partner should just be respectful by default.

[MikeyObrien]

Yes but they have to be stated before the start of the relationship. You can't get mad if someone refuses to follow rules they didn't agree to in the beginning.

[Dargil]

Demand? No. An LDR is a voluntary association.

[SueShe]

There is a difference between a LDR and a LTR relationship.

[Dargil]

@SueShe An LTR is still uncommitted. No ring, no date no demands.

[Booklover_90]

If you want your partner to resent you, demand away.

[Yannae]

I wouldn't say demand, but I have expectations. And she has hers.

[Ladsin2]

Not entirely sure if demand is the right word; but there are certain expectations that come about with being in a relationship.

[TheRealPepperPotts]

No, you do not.

[strangeatcircleK]

Nope, but you can ask for exclusive favors but no demands

[BarryLiverstone]

You can def make demands in a long term relationship

[strangeatcircleK]

Relationships are a partnership

You can't just say, I have a high school reunion and you have a school reunion at a different school. But you are coming to mine because I'm allowed to make demands

It's a partnership, you compromise and work together. Maybe you go to hers or she goes to yours and you both do something special for her later

overall, customers demand safety and fairness

In relationships, demands can smother relationships over time

That's just my view

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[BarryLiverstone]

Yes I understand your view and this is an example of a toxic demand. Demands can be healthy and required in a good relationship

[strangeatcircleK]

I guess it depends on what the demand is

[Charliefretz329]

Yep and so do they. It should be symbiotic. Of course both have the right to say no also.

[Luckycharms12]

Yes everyone deserves to be respectful should be be a given tho

[admles]

Respect and monogamy maybe

that’s about it

[Anonymous]

Yes you have the right. He also has the right not to obey

[Nikki1989]

Absolutely not.

[Fireguy17]

you might want expand on that. Demanding what?

[Bricealan]

Demand anything? No, not anything?

[worldscolide]

Yes, loyalty and fidelity.

[DrPepper12]

Yeah. Start with fidelity...

[Enes38]

For example, what kind of request?

[BarryLiverstone]

You can demand they take care of their basic hygiene. For example

[Enes38]

Isn't this already mandatory?

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes but some may see it as voluntary. Or their habits may change. It’s just one example of a healthy demand in a relationship. Another would be no drug use

[Enes38]

I think if we just want a person to be moral it will be enough.

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s where communication and requests (possibly demands) factor in. Because everyone may have a different set of morals and ethics

[Enes38]

Moral and ethical values ​​\u200b\u200bof society are the same for everyone, only people make their own rules, that is, they are different.

[BarryLiverstone]

Growing up in the USA and here in Florida I definitely have learned that morels and ethic are not homogeneous to a society. We have laws and other protections in place for individuals who have diff ethics.

[Enes38]

I don't know, I live in Turkey, but some things are obligatory, for example, not taking drugs is obligatory, taking care of one's personal care is obligatory.

[BarryLiverstone]

This is one reason why societies have diff morals and ethics. While in Turkey you may have less personal freedom in other countries people can self harm.

[BarryLiverstone]

Ty for the conversation. The bottom line is having healthy demands and standards in a long term relationship is vital. Frequent communication and accountability only benefits both partners in the relationship. Peace bro

[Enes38]

I don't think so because there are people who use drugs in Turkey, for example, I think morality starts in the family first. Europe went into collapse many years ago and now it cannot stop it.

[Enes38]

Thank you brother, everyone is responsible for themselves. I hope there will be more moral societies.

[dustybiker2]

Demand? No..

[Charliefretz329]

Both can demand, both can refuse

[dustybiker2]

But neither should demand.
Demanding is not playing half a relationship. It's not keeping balance.

It stems from anger, hurt and seeks to take over the relationship. That is when things fall apart.

[Charliefretz329]

I demand civil behavior…

[dustybiker2]

hahaha •poke•
I get what you mean. But you can't do that either. You have to treat people the way you want to be treated. You only have control over yourself.

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes. Fidelity.

[Jamie05rhs]

But you shouldn't have to need to demand it.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes you do.

[noohair]

Demand? No!

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Yes, respect.

[Danny74006]

There are limits