Do you agree that, if your girlfriend cheats on you, you need to understand that you lacked something and need to apologize to her?

[Anonymous]

Do you agree with her?

[BetaBucks]

You definitely lacked something, and should definitely do the opposite of apologize. Hypergamy is hypergamy. Nothing will change that and it doesn't care about 99% of your qualities.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Hypergamy isn't real. Its just bs made up by guys who no woman wants.

[BetaBucks]

Hypergamy is absolutely a fact of life and there are infinite examples. Every woman you have ever dated, or been in a relationship with, has been looking for an upgrade. I promise you. Men are polygamous by nature, and women are hypergamous by nature. That doesn't mean we succeed. And it also doesn't mean that external pressures don't stop the behavior. Can't stop the desire though...

[BetaBucks]

And every guy I know that understands hypergamy, has a hot, younger wife. My wife is way hotter and younger than I am. It helps to understand the reality that we live in and not try to hide from it.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Everything you just said is bullshit.

[TheSpaceGnome]

You might try coming back to reality, seeing as you're living in a fantasy land in your own head. 😂.

[BetaBucks]

Lmfao you can hide from it all you want. Won't change reality though.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Except thats not reality 😂 Reality is most people, have kids, get married, stay together, and don't cheat. Any other worldview is either a lie, delusion, or a weird lifestyle where the only people you interact with are society's rejects.

[BetaBucks]

What you're saying doesn't, in any way, contradict what I've said above.

[TheSpaceGnome]

It actually does.

Hypergamy is most women going after a few men, and being with those men and ignoring the rest. Its a large scale harem, and that simply does not happen anywhere.

Most men are not single, most taken men are in monogamous relationships, including the men classically seen as on top of the social, monetary, or attractiveness hierarchy, and women cheating is the opposite of women being picky.

Most men and women are monogamous by preference, and individual preferences to who they choose are not a sign of "hypergamy" or "polygamous men".

Nor is cheating the result of someone lacking in anything, because the person could simply leave the relationship (or not even start it in the first place) if they did not like that person.

Cheating is done when the cheater wants to keep BOTH people without getting caught. Which means the cheater sees value in both, otherwise they would dump one for the other, rather than cheat.

Cases of attempts to have multiple sexual partners is extremely rare, consent to do so is even rarer, and even cheating is rare. Its just that trash only gets trash most of the time.

[TheSpaceGnome]

You only ever see the sleezebags complain about the imaginary hypergamy, because they only hang out with other sleezebags, and their idea of what is considered a valid relationship is nonsense, but they are too busy calling themselves "players" to notice they have no value to any woman who wants you and not your wallet.

Gold diggers all almost universally cheaters (thankfully they are rare, but they are also what "players" attract). A gold digger can be absolutely gorgeous, but is still worth no more than rancid skunk excrement to any guy with a fully functioning brain.

[BetaBucks]

Nah, I just observe reality. You think your girl dresses sexy for herself when she goes out, don't you?

I don't know what gold diggers have to do with this, but that's not really what entails hypergamy. Especially with divorce laws being the way they are.

[BCA6010]

Nope. She is scum.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the old "it's your fault I cheated" trick. 🌟 Here's the scoop, lovebird: Healthy relationships thrive on communication, not blame games. If someone feels something's missing, it's time to chat over coffee, not seek comfort elsewhere. Cheating is a choice, not a mistake caused by a shortage in the supply chain of love and affection. Before apologizing for your supposed shortcomings, let's put the focus on why she felt her actions were justified and how you both can move forward—if that's what you desire. Relationships are a two-way street, not a guilt trip. 🚦💕

[coachTanthony]

You know what that could all be true... men should realize what they may have not done and leave that ho and go be a better man for another woman.

[Avicenna]

Apologize to a cheater? She had that backwards.

[Avicenna]

And the guy should leave her for another woman if she's still around after the cheating gets exposed.

[Finchie40]

If she cheats , her ass is out the door , there is no excuse to cheating

[AviatorTom]

No. Stop blaming the victim.

[Anonymous]

Nope. What about that ex boyfriend actually is the 1 who started to be cheating since that ex girlfriend was actually willing to actually meet up and make plans and then he went to even cheat on her with not but 2 downgraded females. Which both were now 19 years difference between his own age since he is just even made jokes about those females. and I even was been there way before this female was which because I actually met his old family and his father's funeral and his mother and I had always been very positive relationship his mother and I. His mother then started my ex boyfriend even questioned him multiple times after he slowly stopped having never invite me over anymore always made excuses that he had to go to work lol but no he always 20 minutes away from my new address now until ex female 👇 put a restraining order against him being anywhere near her. Yet they both still have chat against the laws and judges orders in this laws in the state of where I live he can bowl for them go and go to jail and have hefty fines by breaking the in the same state we all live in.

[adventurous-1]

Oh hell no!!! she cheated so she willfully and wantingly ruined the relationship for her selfish needs without regards to my feelings. Why should I apologize for her terrible decision to screw around with another guy? She did the deed and she is reasonable for her own actions not me. There were other avenues open to her but she choose to be unfaithful rather than put any effort in to save the relationship. So goodbye and good riddance, don't bother trying to apologize or contact me as you will be blocked and discarded like the trash you are.

[imtiaz45]

No, I don't agree with that perspective. If your girlfriend cheats on you, it's important to understand that infidelity is a choice made by the person who cheats. While relationship issues can be complex and both partners may contribute to problems, cheating is a breach of trust and a serious issue. It is not the responsibility of the betrayed partner to apologize. Instead, both parties should communicate openly and honestly to understand the underlying issues and decide on the best path forward, whether that involves working through the problems or parting ways.

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[Fireguy17]

I never found out because I was gone right then and there.
Doesn't matter what the reason is that she cheated.
I'm sure it made perfect sense to her at the time, but the hard fact is she cheated plain and simple.
Case closed, goodbye and enjoy your life, I hope it turns out well for you as I will not be around to see it.

[DrPepper12]

Not true at all!! Most cheaters are content in their relationship and dont mean to harm SO. Its simply the desire for novelty, thrill of the chase, infatuation, chemistry, taboo, ego. Monogamy is a ridiculous artificial recent construct that violates our true nature.

[just_a_potato]

Uh no, anyone who's cheated on is never at fault for being cheated on. Literally the only time this would be gray is if the other partner is physically abusive, and may put the cheater in danger if they try to leave the relationship. And even then, it's best to focus on finding a safe way out of the relationship first, before you involve another person.

[patois]

The only thing you lack if your girlfriend cheats on you is good judgement in choosing which women to take serious. If you are dealing with a girl like "Fine Girl" you treat her like shit, leave in the middle of the night, and never talk to her again.

[Skinhead-1979]

Sounds like 'Victim Blaming and Shaming'.

There is no excuse for cheating; if you are not happy, leave... Don't go plugging another hole or have your hole being plugged by someone...

[electromagnetic]

This is very much backwards thinking.
You don’t owe her Jack shit. She cheated and that’s on her and vice versa.

[Jay-_-]

Yess, you have a functioning brain. Whoever said otherwise about this question is losing it. 😂

[alice55]

Cheater love to play the victim and are manipulative toxic assholes / bitches, they're the worst scum on earth.

[Ms_Facesitter]

No, she lacked the guts to talk about the problem or break up.

[thatshydork]

No, cheating usually has nothing to do with the person that got cheated on and everything to do with the fact that their partner is a jerk.

[NamerOfStars]

If your girlfriend cheats on you, then what you lacked is a woman with a basic understanding of morals and personal accountability.

[patrick994]

Granted that I give my all in a relationship, I could never forgive a betrayal.

[TheSpaceGnome]

What a load of horse shit. 😂

If she cheats, she doesn't deserve anyone.

[FreyaRed]

No. Some people gratify themselves is they betray or cheat, others have different ways to gratify their egos.

[RingOfFire]

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Maybe if you're a colossal simp!

[gorydetails]

The only thing I'd be lacking is the ability to detect her on my hoedar

[Xoirwinkan]

This is disgusting! If she cheats you dump her immediately. It was her CHOICE to cheat.

[LiamJHayden]

absolutely not. If someone cheats that means the cheater is unfaithful and the cheating is 100% on the cheater.

[Tim2nice]

She wouldn’t cheat on me. I’d just give her the freedom to do what she wants

[KostasKouvalis]

If I was lacking something, why wouldn't she just talk to me about it?

[Enginn]

No. Thats a selfish point of view. Cheaters are the worst type of people and they deserve no respect.

[thenerdone]

And the award for Most Obvious Ragebait goes to...

[Anonymous]

PattyAmaka is obviously a very low quality woman and a very low quality human being.

[omniscientman]

If she cheats, she was lacking something. Loyalty

[Telekinetic-Potato]

She tried

[DaddyDiablo]

Not even wtf kinda narcissistic shit is this?

[Dongie]

Get fucked Royale!!

[Dongie]

What the fuck does he lack?

[Friendlybro79]

Uh no